You, me, everyone at some stage (and many at every stage) of their life has been rejected. Rejection started the moment that authority figure in your life said “no” to you, which for most of us was from a very young age.
I don’t know many people who like being told “no”, a word which equates to being rejected. Perhaps it is because of the connection made to that word. At a young age when you are told “no” it meant not getting, or doing, what you want. However sometimes not getting or doing what you want is a VERY good thing. What is interesting is that being told “no” is how we beging building resilience.
Rejection is not only about not getting what you want. Rejection is also when you dismiss yourself or another; an idea and even an emotion. Rejection isn’t fun and it certainly doesn’t feel good; whether you are the rejector or the rejectee.
The reason rejection doesn’t feel good is because of the way it is perceived. If you can alter your perception to see the benefits of rejection, you will realise it IS indeed a very good thing.
Benefits of rejection
Tong zhi bu tong Bu tong Zhi tong
In Oriental medicine there is a saying; “Tong zhi bu tong Bu tong zhi tong”. Which translates to “Where there is free flow, there is no pain, where there is pain, there is no free flow”.
If rejection is causing you pain then it is a sign you are resisting the flow of life. A sign you are stagnating and opposing the flow of where life needs you to go and/or whom it needs you to go with.
Alternatively if you accept that the reason the rejection happened is because your life is flowing in a different direction than you thought then such pain resides or simple doesn’t exist.
So….Let go and let flow!
Love who you are – ALL parts
When you feel rejected it’s an indicator that there is a part of you that isn’t feeling loved or worthy. Or if related to a person it can be that this person has aspects of themselves they don’t love or perhaps they aren’t feeling worthy.
Eleanor Roosevelt said “No one can make you inferior without your consent”. When you love who you are and that means ALL part of who you are, the good and the not so good, then you can’t be rejected.
Know that in the good there is “negative aspects” and in the bad there is “positive aspects”. When you see both sides of the equation in the one, then you become balanced about the person and/or situation and you achieve harmony.
In Neale Donald Walsh’s story “The Little Soul” it reminds us that we are all born from the light and this beautiful light resides within us. Connect with that beautiful light and let that light attract the situation and/or person that is right for you.
If you are being rejected then it means you are trying. If you are trying then just in that alone you are being successful! Trying also means that you are moving forward, you are taking a step forward on your life course / route.
Therefore when you are trying and you experience rejection it simple means that your planned route requires an adjustment to ensure you will reach the right destination. This adjustment is leading you to something or someone better.
Also perhaps you were thinking to “small” and limiting yourself. Thus rejection is the Universe’s way to remind and/or advise you to aim higher and for what you truly deserve!
It’s not that rejection won’t ever sting, however it’s how you view and utilise that rejection is what matters. You don’t need a “why” to do that, in fact most people get so hung up on the “why” that they anchor to it and to the past.
I urge you to use any and all rejection to learn, grow and flow. So “anchor’s away”, learn to love the person or situation for what it stood for and focus on the destination you want to arrive at!
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