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Overthinking

Overthinking doing your head in?

Most people will, at some stage, partake in overthinking.   Overthinking, or ruminating as psychology refers to it, is not in itself a bad thing.  In fact overthinking can have its positives.  However it is when overthinking becomes a daily practice then it has negative impacts.

Let’s liken overthinking to chocolate; chocolate isn’t that bad for you when eaten in small amounts occasionally.  It is is dark chocolate with no sugar then it can have health benefits. However when chocolate is eaten everyday and is loaded with sugar then it has negative impacts.

Same too with over thinking.  Overthinking can affect people in such ways as:

  • insomnia
  • exhaustion / low energy
  • poor memory
  • pessimistic and negative attitude
  • inaction / lost opportunities
  • guilt, anxiety and depression
  • stomach issues
  • tension and stress
  • lack of or low self confidence
  • addiction or addictive behaviour
  • impaired problem solving
  • distortion of information leading to inaccurate perceptions

Overthinking is something which typically happens as we get older.  Young children don’t overthink matters, in fact as parents we spend a lot of time trying to teach them to do so.  Young children hold the world in wonder and they are often in the moment, be-ing.

As our children enter school their beautiful, curious, child-like brain becomes jam packed with knowledge and information.   Sir Kenneth Robinson, an international adviser on education, says “we educate people out of their creativity”.

He suggests that not only do we educate our children with knowledge, they also learn the stigmatisation of failure, the linear goal of getting a job done and the fear of being wrong.  Thus their uninhibited creativity becomes restricted.

This fear of failure and/or being “wrong” in general contributes to the reason some people overthink.  Another contribution is the amount of information we have at hand which means we are bombarded with choices.

Whilst it is important to understand what options we have, particularly when making decisions, too much choice can be overwhelming.  Our decision-making process is hindered and we can become enervated and debilitated.

If you are an overthinker, please be easy on yourself.  Apparently the brain is wired in such a way that overthinking is a natural tendency.  Psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema explains “the organization of our brains sets us up for over-thinking”.  This is because our memories and thoughts are not compartmentalised, rather they are interwoven in intricate networks of associations.

Nolen-Hoeksema says “When you are in a bad mood of some type—depressed, anxious, just altogether upset—your bad mood tends to trigger a cascade of thoughts associated with your mood. These thoughts may have nothing to do with the incident that put you into a bad mood in the first place”

Furthermore, when a person is feeling negative they are more likely to focus on negative matters as well as create negative connections, which may not actually exist.  Like any habit, the more a person does this and engages in overthinking, the more likely they will do so in the future.

Mark Nepo said “No amount of thinking is going to stop you from thinking” so in order to break the overthinking habit you need to consider actions which aren’t engaging your thought processes.   You also want to consider actions which will create the positive neural pathways which allow you to access your “sensible” brain; the neocortex.  Actions such as:

  1.  Breathing.  Fear + Oxygen = Excitement
  2.  Meditate regularly (and at least several times per week)
  3.  Instead of talking it over, try writing!  Writing gives us a different perspective
  4.  Practice mindfulness; be-ing in the present moment
  5.  Trust in yourself as well as Universe
  6.  Exercise
  7.  Thoughts create reality; what are your thoughts creating?
  8.  Get creative; try colouring in, drawing, painting and/or pottery
  9.  Build your spontaneity muscle; a
  10.   Know that a choice is just a choice; if it doesn’t work out you simply make another choice
  11.  STOP IT!  Make a conscious choice not to engage in over thinking.

 

There isn’t a switch which we can access to stop overthinking, however it is a pattern or habit which with a little effort you can change.

If after reading this you feel you need additional support with overthinking then consider kinesiology as an option.  You can find more information on our website.

 

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Manifesting

Creating and manifesting by nature

Nearly every second post or article I seem to see at the moment relates to manifesting or abundance, it’s kind of like reading about goals in the ’80’s.  Which means it too has the risk of overexposure and the key message / tool being lost.

In being drawn to and reading about Celtic spirituality its occurred to me that the keys to creating what you desire is an equation which was discovered long ago and well before the topic of manifesting became popular.

Yet before we discuss the actual equation it is important to understand how your patterns contribute to what you are creating, as it is your nature – our inherent qualities – which contribute greatly to this.

Patterns are naturally found in many aspects of life; in nature, our bodies, the cosmos.   The meaning of pattern is:  a regular and intelligible form or sequence discernible in the way in which something happens or is done.

The word pattern derives from the Medieval Latin word ‘patronus’.  A word and concept made popular in the Harry Potter series and means “Protector”.  If we go further into the origin of the word we find ‘pater’ which means “one who advances the cause”.

So fundamentally your patterns are the way in which you do things to protect yourself and to advance your own needs and wants.  You will have positive patterns as well as negative ones.  The word positive derives from ‘positus’ meaning  ‘to put / to place’ and negative derivation is  ‘that which denies’.

The components of your patterns are attributes such as beliefs, values, rules, goals and their driving force.   These components are what you use to decide on what data you keep and dismiss, they are also what will determine your behaviours and actions.

To determine whether your patterns are working for or against you, pay close attention to what is going on around you.  What have you are or are you attracting into your life?  Whether positive or negative consider what is it you are commonly doing that works for you as well as doesn’t.

The ancient Celts used the formula of the Three Eyes of Kerridwen to create what they desired, in their time it was referred to magic, yet now days we call it manifestation.  The three factors are:

  1. Expectation;
  2. Desire; and
  3. Merging.

 Expectation

Your expectation is what you desire and want.  When clarifying your expectation it needs to be specific however it also needs to be succinct.  Which means you only include aspects that are important.

Desire

Desire can be likened to our intention, the drive or reason that behind what our expectation is.  The ecology of your desire is important; is it in your best interests; is it in the best interests of another and is it in the best interests of the Universe.  Your desire needs to be healthy and driven from a heart space which raises your vibration and enriches your life.

Merging

When you merge, you hand over your expectation to the Universe and be one with it.  You connect with the divine light to expand your consciousness and understand that you are boundless and that ALL is possible.

To be one with your expectation means that you have absolute trust and faith that what you want already exists and that it is on its way to you.  You allow synchronicity to happen.

When you doubt, have fears, or indecision you are sending the Universe in-congruent messages and start manifesting to match that fear, doubt and indecision.  To help raise above this use your breathe to expand your consciousness.  I was once told that Fear + Breath = Excitement, it’s a beautiful equation I use often.

The success of manifesting is dependant on how clear you are with your expectation; the intensity and richness of your desire and the congruency of your merge.

One of the main philosophies of the ancient Celts is the concept of oneness.  That when we are one with nature, and the Universe, we connect to with all that authentically are, our own divinity.   It is this connection which enables us to raise our vibration in order transform ideas into experience.

We experience oneness by just simply being….being one with the cycles of nature and allowing.

If you desire to connect more so with your oneness and to raise your energy and vibration then you may want to consider kinesiology.  To learn more about kinesiology either read our articles or visit:  www.theinnersageaustralia.com

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