Are you aware that ALL your choices, whether they are empowering or disempowering choices are actually supporting you?
To make a choice is the act of choosing between two (or more) alternatives. Choice then gives you possibilities of an outcome.
So when you make a choice you are simply deciding what is best for yourself in that given moment. However it could be in that given moment, you are inadvertently supporting an aspect of yourself which isn’t in aligned with your long term goals / outcome you desire or what is really important to you.
For example lately I’ve been choosing to watch Orange is the New Black (a TV show on Netflix). This choice isn’t a “bad” choice as it has supported me by having balance by giving me some down time.
However by making this choice I’ve also been able to avoid writing and thus “supporting” myself by not having to address a fear I have around writing. At the time I didn’t realise that the less than great choice (to watch TV) was actually supporting my fear.
This is true for many people, they are often making choices not have awareness of their known or unknown motivation behind the choices they are making.
Ideally you want to become aware of the unconscious (or conscious) patterns that are impeding or sabotaging you from what you want, kinesiology is one effective way to do this. As kinesiology bypasses the conscious mind using your innate wisdom to increase your awareness and thus expands the choices available to you to make.
It is also important to know that at times your choices will be made from habitual actions due to the neural pathways which have been reinforced and thus ingrained to become an automatic choice. Which means you will usually have limited awareness until after the fact.
When we have greater awareness around our choices, we also have a great capacity to take responsibility and accountability for them. Thus enabling us to create new and empowering neural pathways that lead us to make more suitable choices which long term become the new norm.
Increasing awareness of your choices
- Goals: Are a key tool which enable your inner navigation system. They give you direction as to what you it is you want to achieve. Your goals can also be a benchmark by which you can gauge your choices, determining they are (or aren’t) in alignment with what you really want. Read more on goals: http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/11/06/goals-ignite-your-inner-navigation/
- Self Awareness: The key to making empowering choices is awareness. When you are aware of what is driving your choice, whether it be an emotion, mood or re-action, then you have choice as to how you want to act and be. Without awareness you are operating from a habitual nature.
At the end of the day reflect the choices that you have made. What was each choice supporting specifically? Were they empowering or disempowering? How did you feel at the time you made that choice? What were you thinking about? What would help you to make different choices?
- Journalling: Writing is a great way to get out of our heads as such and step out from the problem / situation and to see it from another perspective. Also journalling allows you to get raw and honest with yourself, which means you can acknowledge how the current choices are impeding you. Understand more about journalling with our article: http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/04/20/journalling-a-tool-to-aid-healing/
Often people beat themselves up for making “wrong” choices, however ultimately a choice is just that, a choice. There is no right or wrong choice, as every choice is supporting you.
However if you feel you’ve made a less than great choice, one which doesn’t support you, then just make another choice that does.