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Levelling

Upper Levelling the key to healing

One of my driving forces is to get results for my clients, it feeds my soul to know that together we are achieving the change my client desires (plus more!).  I pleased to say that on the whole many of my clients get results, so when I have a client who isn’t it leads me to question the reason for this…Upper levelling is the key.

To understand upper levelling first lets consider the common denominators as to the reason people don’t heal are because they:

  1. are so associated with and defined by their “wounds” that they don’t know what life would be like without them.  To be without them means to change and for some that is fearful;
  2. sabotage their change and find reasons which keep them limited and within their comfort zone;
  3. aren’t releasing “stuff” on all three dimensions;
  4. have beliefs and expectations regarding healing that sabotages their progress; and
  5. are stuck in the “why” either trying to understand the reason <x> has happened or the reason why they are where they are at.

Woundology

The term “woundology” was coined by Caroline Myss to describe how  people define and created an identity via their wounds, whether those wounds be physical, emotional, or social. 

In her book, “Why people don’t heal and how they can” Caroline Myss writes that some people who want to heal “are striving to confront their wounds, valiantly working to bring meaning to terrible past experiences and traumas, and exercising compassionate understanding of others who share their wounds. But they are not healing. They have redefined their lives around their wounds and the process of accepting them. They are not working to get beyond their wounds. In fact, they are stuck in their wounds.”

Thus it is important for you to consider what your new identity would look, sound and feel like.  How do you want to redefine yourself?

Change Barrier

For many people whether they are trying to loose weight, manifest something or heal when making any form of change they reach a limit where they are faced with a block to their change.  Often this will show up as a plateau of some kind. 

This limit is the outer barrier of where your current comfort zone lies.   Whilst many desire to heal and make change they don’t have the tenacity and willpower to push through their limit and barriers.  Thus they will find ways to justify not continuing with the change work.

It is at this point where you are faced with a choice to either sabotage your change so you fall back into our comfort zone OR to push through the limit to make change.

Three Dimensions of healing

To have lasting change we must work on all three aspects of our being.  Humans are three dimensional beings, so it makes sense to use a modality which works on all three aspects, which is what Kinesiology does.  Most modalities are usually only one dimension and in some cases two.  This makes Kinesiology regarded as one of the truly holistic modalities.

A Kinesiologist believes in a methodology called the “triad of health”.  Which means that well being and health is dependent on the harmonious congruency and balance between a client’s Physical / Structural, Emotional / Mental and Nutritional / Chemical aspects.

hp-mainWhen one aspect of the triad of health is imbalanced, then it affects the other sides and therefore areas in our life.  For example a person who chronically worries (mental) may lose their appetite (nutrition is affected) or experience irregularities in their body (physical).

 

Beliefs

In many of my articles I refer to beliefs.  This is because they are such a driving force of our emotions and behaviours.  Simply put Beliefs are a self fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe creates an expectation of what is likely to happen, this influences our behaviours (as well as how we feel) and then creates the basis of what actions we do or don’t take. In turn the actions or activities that we are doing or not doing will be the result or outcome we achieve.

This means that if you want to change your results or your behaviours, you need be aware of your beliefs to ensure they support what you want to achieve and who you want to be.

Positive / empowering beliefs are permission slips for getting the outcomes you want.

Learn how to change you beliefs with our online course:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/create-supportive-beliefs

The Why

Some get stuck in needing the know the why….the why they are the way they are; the why something happened to them.  Yet any sentence that begins with “why” is seeking justification not healing. 

If an unconscious person with a burst artery goes into emergency the doctors don’t stop to ask why did this happen, they simply move to apply the solution.  They don’t need to know the “why” to apply the healing.

Thus too, we can use the philosophy.  The why isn’t as important as the how.

Upper Levelling to change and heal

Upper levelling is when we push through our limits which is done using techniques that work on mind, body and spirit.   Yet as per Lao Tzu’s quote “A thousand mile journey begins with one step”. 

Be mindful that you might not achieve your desired change “overnight”, it also takes discipline and committed practice to achieve your healing goal.  Which is the first step, defining what it is you want to achieve.  

Once you know what you want to achieve and have a defined goal.  You then need to trust you can achieve this goal and take actions that align you to it.  Ensuring the actions you take are from a mental, physical and spiritual aspect.

Know that it is normal to feel vulnerable with any change.  When you are upper levelling be mindful that the closer you reach the barrier of your comfort zone, the likelihood you’ll feel this.    It is also important that when you reach here you keep moving forward, even if at a gentler pace.  

To move forward means you are taking consistent and authentic actions.  Such actions that extend your limits to elevate your self to a new level – a new way of being and thus making change.

One last thing….remember that any change, even if modest, is a move forward.

If you are still struggling with change and are interested in kinesiology you can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Loneliness

Loneliness; a feeling not a fact

In reviewing various reference books and other sources there wasn’t a great deal written about loneliness.  Perhaps it is because it is a topic not often spoken about and perhaps a topic that can be less than easy to address.

Two substantial ideas that in relation to loneliness is one, there are different aspects of loneliness.  Such as being in a new situation type of loneliness or lack of close friends loneliness or having no time for oneself or too much time to oneself. Or the one I often come across in clinci is that type of loneliness when a person isn’t in a relationship.

The second substantial idea is that loneliness is a feeling not a fact.    Considering that feelings are the reaction to an emotion, in the instance of loneliness sadness that is typically the trigger.

Consider what exactly are our emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007)

It is interesting that emotions are a “subjective experience”.  Which means that despite (at times) people experiencing the same situations, events, relationships, places, etc the interpretation of such WILL differ.

The reason people interpret information differently, and thus experience differing emotions, is due to the trigger of a conscious or unconscious thought / belief.   So what is loneliness for one person is bliss for another.

Being a kinesiologist, I love the concepts we use from Chinese medicine.  Thus it is interesting to draw information from this perspective.  In Chinese medicine loneliness relates to the Metal element, more specifically the Large Intestine meridian.  Meridians are channels through which energy flows in the body.  They relate to certain organs, muscles, emotions and life lessons.

The large intestine also relates to other attributes as self worth, feeling worthy of love, fear of rejection, letting go of guilt and grief as well as self imposed isolation.

Delving deeper into the 5 Element concept of Chinese medicine the Metal element is controlled by the Fire element, of which the Heart meridian belongs to.  Lessons of the heart meridian are self love, peace, richness, to radiate and acceptance to allow free flowing of energy.

What we can draw from this relationship is that when our heart meridian, or heart centre, is out of balance it will seek to dominate and draw energy from the large intestine meridian.  Whilst there are various things that can put a meridian or centre out of balance typically with the heart meridian it is a lack of self love, forgiveness or acceptance of a situation.

The flow on result of the heart meridian imbalance is that it starts controlling the large intestine meridian.  Such control causes the large intestine meridian to become deficient and thus doesn’t have the energy to flow appropriately.  Thereby resulting in a lack of self worth, heightened fear of rejection and/or heightened sense of loneliness.

 

So what’s the solution?

As with many things there can be more than one solution and you’ve got to find what is right for you.  Here are some suggestions which could work for you.

Exam your beliefs

Our emotions derive from what we are thinking and/or what we believe.  We know that loneliness derives from sadness.  So what are you thinking, or what do you believe that makes you feel sad.

Beliefs are a self fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe creates an expectation of what is likely to happen, this influences our behaviours (as well as how we feel) and then creates the basis of what actions we do or don’t take. In turn the actions or activities that we are doing or not doing will be the result or outcome we achieve.

This means that if you want to change your results or your behaviours, you need be aware of your beliefs to ensure they support what you want to achieve and who you want to be.

Positive / empowering beliefs are permission slips for getting the outcomes you want.

Learn how to change beliefs with our online course:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/create-supportive-beliefs

Self love

As we have just learnt from a Chinese Medicine perspective it is important to ensure that the heart chakra is balanced.  A key way to do this is to love and nourish yourself.

The best way to cultivate self love is to know who you are.  So list your positive traits, what is it that you love about yourself and what others love about you.

Now list your not so great traits, all those negative ones which you don’t really want to own up to.  Once you’ve got your list now find the benefit to those negatives.  What is great about those negative traits?  How do they benefit you and how are they a benefit to others!

As to nourishing yourself, these are things or place which make you feel good.  Maybe it is doing your nails, or going to the beach or for a walk, perhaps it is having a bath or just lighting candles.  Whatever it is for you, start loving yourself enough to do it!

Another way to strengthen your heart space is to start each day with being heart unified.  Place your hands in your heart area.  This helps to bring your consciousness from your head into your heart.  Now consider what are you (or could you be) grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What happened today or yesterday that you are thankful for?  What makes you happy?  or makes you smile?

Speak up

Many people who experience loneliness complain that they are always there for others, however feel that others aren’t there for them.  In my experience this is often because others consider them to be strong and self reliant person, thus not realising that they too need support.

Therefore sometimes you need to speak up with your friends and let them know how you feel.  Explain to them your needs and what you require from them.   When clients have done this they have been surprised how much their friends didn’t realise they were needed and how much they were loved.

 

Acceptance

Consider the Yin / Yang of your situation.  The familiar Taoist yin/yang symbol is a symbol which reminds us of the dualities in life, and that such dualities create the whole.

It reminds us that every aspect of life has an equal opposite.  Such as male, female; sun, moon; earth, water; good, bad and positive, negative.  One aspect cannot exist without it’s reverse.

When we see the polarities of a situation in equal amounts we become balanced about the situation, person, place or thing.  It is when we are in such balance that we also are at peace about that and thus have acceptance.

So see the benefits / drawbacks of what you are feeling lonely about.  Make sure you have more than 15 benefits and ideally 50.  Also ensure that you have equal (if not more) benefits to help you shift into acceptance.

Have a goal or purpose

Rather than wait until <x> happens, start right now to live your life to it’s fullest.  What have you been putting off?  or what haven’t you had time for?  Rather than be immersed in your loneliness use this time to achieve things for yourself.

When you have a goal it gives you something positive to focus on and whatever you focus on you will attract more of.  It also gives you a something to spend your time on as well as give you a sense of fulfilment

Read more about goal setting:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/11/06/goals-ignite-your-inner-navigation/

Live with sound

If / when you are home alone, turn on the radio or play your favourite CD.  Fill the void with  positive sounds and vibrations.

One of the core concepts of sound healing is that a strong vibration will cause a weaker vibration to vibrate at the stronger frequency. Therefore the right vibrations and sounds can help to help restore your natural equilibrium.

Other ideas are:

  • Connect with others – Contact friends, family or associates whom you haven’t spoken to for a while.
  • Get out and about – This might include visiting people, going for a walk, sitting at your local cafe or library or even going out to social functions.
  • Be a part of the community – Consider a new hobby and/or learning something that interests you.  You might join a local club or association.
  • Volunteering – Get the focus off you and onto others by volunteering.  Its also a great way to connect with like minded people.
  • Consider getting or caring for a pet –pets are wonderful companions and can provide comfort and support during times of stress, ill-health or isolation.  If you can’t have your own there are plenty of options where you can take someone else’s pet for a walk.

 

The key to combating loneliness is taking action.  However if after trying these techniques you are still struggling with building loneliness then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Resilience

Creating and Living with Resilience

No matter how much personal development or “work” we do on ourselves there will always be people, situations or things that happen which will stress, challenge and most likely upset us.  Resilience is the one thing that makes a major difference to how well we “bounce back” from such times.

Resilience is the ability to adapt, overcome and rebound from less than easy life events and experiences.  To be able to change and approach how we view and address such situations as effectively and beneficially as possible.

It has often been described as an art and perhaps it is, however I more so consider it to be a quality that anyone can create.  Resilience can be described as a choice; a choice to rise beyond adversity.

To transcend the pain, stress and unhappiness to develop mastery over how something affects you.  To develop a strong self worth and belief within yourself and your capabilities.  Thus to know that you can handle anything that comes your way.

Benefits of resilience

Due to our personal history, influential people in our life and the environment we have been brought up in, resilience will vary from person to person.  Also during our lifetime our resilience can fluctuate.

So whilst some people will be more resilient than others, most people will need to develop this trait.  The most common way to do this is to experience challenging situations however there are methods we can consciously engage to help build resilience.

Individuals who have resilience tend to:

  • have a positive “self” relationship (self confidence, self worth, self belief, self respect and self love)
  • be in control of and manage their emotions effectively
  • accept that life is a balance of  “Yin / Yang” (good and not so good AND there is good in the not so good)
  • have self awareness of their reactions in order to change them
  • understand the motivation behind others reactions and behaviours
  • believe they can influence situations
  • live in an empowered mindset rather than a victim mentality
  • seek solutions rather than problems
  • are effective listeners and communicators
  • develop networks and ask for help when needed

Building Resilience

As previously mentioned anyone can build resilience if they choose to.  For some, due to their circumstances and adversities, they may already have resilience however they may not have acknowledged it.

So perhaps the first step is to consider and acknowledge where you actually do have resilience. What are those situations where you’ve been able to demonstrate the above traits?

Other ways to build resilience are:

  • Start each day with being heart unified.  Place your hands in your heart area.  This helps to bring your consciousness from your head into your heart.  Now consider what are you (or could you be) grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What happened today or yesterday that you are thankful for?  What makes you happy?  or makes you smile?
  • Keep a success journal.  For how we suggest to do this, read our article:  Inner Sage Article – Journalling
  • Know yourself to Love yourself.  List your positive traits and strengths.  Now list your negative traits.  Now what are the positives / benefits of those negative traits.
  • Redefine what perfection is.  Know there is perfection in imperfection and consider this:  how do you know that what you consider as “imperfection” is not actually perfect?!!
  • Nurture yourself, do something that is just for you
  • Connect with like minded people and/or spend time with people who make you laugh and feel good
  • Consider what is in your sphere of influence and what is not.  Give energy only to those things that you can influence and/or change.  Let go of what you can’t.
  • Learn something new.  Not only does it help make new neurological pathways it also shows you that you ARE capable
  • Do something “fearful” each day.  By doing so we are teaching ourselves to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.  Each time building your confidence muscle that you CAN achieve things
  • Make a list of what you’ve been putting aside and do one thing each day
  • Consider the benefits or upside of a stressful / challenging situation, person, etc.  What is the lesson or insight that it provides for you

Resilience is similar to Rome, it wasn’t built in one day.  If you are serious to building it then you will need to commit to taking actions on a regular basis.  When you do this you will find the easier it does become to bounce back from those challenging and stressful situations.

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with building resilience then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

 

 

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Funk

Releasing the funk that impedes action

Funk is a word which has many meanings, in fact did you know it derives from a Latin word “fumigare” meaning “to smoke”.   For the purpose of this article it refers to that state of being where a person is feeling flat and demotivated, thus leading them to evade or avoid certain tasks.

Its important to understand that funks are a perfectly normal part of life.  It is the Yin/Yang ; the balance of life.  Which means if / when you find yourself in a funk there will be a reason for it.  Often when I find myself in a funk it is usually because I’ve been working too much and my funk reminds me I need to take time out.

Many years ago when I’d find myself in a funk, I would fight it.  I’d do everything I could to avoid and evade the feelings until one day I decided to stop fighting it.  I started to be aware that my funk had many benefits to it.

I noticed that when I was “funking” it was the only time I would ask for help and reach out to my friends.   My funk also helped me to come up with brilliant ideas, strategies and insights.  Also it was my catalyst to nurture and take care of myself.

In that moment, where I stopped fighting my funk and allowed it just to be, it vanished.  There is a wonderful saying “what you resist; persists”.  So I noticed that as I embraced the lesson my funk was trying to teach me, it was no longer needed.

Now when it comes to life lessons, I can be a slow learner, thus yes the lesson (and funk) has occasionally reappeared.  However never to the depths that it had previously.  This is because when my funk appears I now know the funk has a purpose and usually its to remind me that there is something I need to be doing which I haven’t been.

So your funk has a reason too, it’s trying to get your attention so you can learn a lesson and/or gain insights.  Maybe its to take time out or perhaps you taken enough time out.  That it’s time to set goals and take action.  It could be that your funk is reminding you to be grateful for what you have.  

Another possibility is that your funk is reminding you that you need to connect with the earth and ground yourself? or to be aware of what you are thinking, believing and focusing on.   Just know that whatever the message is for you, will be right for you.

The way to find purpose in your funk is to simply ask:  What is the purpose of me feeling this way today? or  What is it I most need today?  or  What is the lesson or information I need to move forward?

Our divine self speaks to us directly and indirectly.   So be aware that the answers may not come to you straight away.  To trust that the information you need will be revealed, at the right time.

Also indirect guidance and answers might come via words / insights of someone else.  It could be words written in a book, or via a song.  Your job is to ask the question, be open to the response and allow for it to be revealed.  The more relaxed your are the easier it will come.

Whilst you wait for your specific guidance regarding your funk, there are still things you can do to support yourself in shifting and moving forward.

Gratitude

In her book Thrive, Arianna Huffington writes how gratitude exercises can have tangible benefits. She notes that, “According to a study by researchers from the University of Minnesota and the University of Florida, having participants write down a list of positive events at the close of a day — and why the events made them happy — lowered their self-reported stress levels and gave them a greater sense of calm at night.”

I believe the reason for this is because it gets you to change your focus.  there are three elements, one of which focus is, that you can change in order to change how you are feeling.

So make a list; what is good in your life right now?  What is it that you are or can be grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What is it that you love doing that makes you happy?  What made you smile today?

 

Get into nature

Being outside has many different being.  Most of it which it enables you to ground yourself.  Grounding has both spiritual and physical benefits.  Grounding is the process of connecting yourself to the earthly plane and bonding with mother earth. Native American’s believe that mother earth is the source of all life and is a great teacher to be observed, listened to and respected. Her energy is nurturing and restoring, assisting us to bring and give life to our hopes, dreams and ideas.

 Science tells us that the Earth is abundant with energy, particularly electrons, which have powerful supply of antioxidant effects.   When you connect with the ground, preferably via bare feet, you are able to absorb large amounts of these electrons. Effectively you resonate at the same vibration as the Earth.

So go to the beach, park or simply go stand outside on the grass with no shoes on.  If you can’t do any of those may be go for a walk and soak in the elements, whether that be the wind, sun or rain.  (If the latter just make sure you have a warm shower afterwards).

 

Set Goals

The origin of the word, goal, has been thought to derive either from the Middle English “gale” meaning “a way or course” or the Old Norse word of “geil” meaning “passage”.  Goals thus can be considered as a guiding tool which guide and keep us on course or provide the passage to where we want to be or what we want to have.   As well as a way to measure and track how we are progressing.

Imagine setting sail to sea without any co-ordinates as to where your destination will be.  Whilst you will find a destination it may not be the destination you were after and you may waste a lot of time and energy in getting there.

This is a great analogy of what life is like without goals.  Whilst we are sailing through life and finding ourselves at certain “destinations” they aren’t always the ones we really want to be at or desire.  In addition to this we’ve often wasted a lot of energy in the journey of getting to such destination, as the course taken may not have been as direct as it could have been.  Energy which could have easily been used more effectively.

Goals have an explainable magnetic quality that can attract situations, people and opportunities in order to support you achieving them.  I personally believe that goals are a way to tell the Universe / God / Angels (whomever or whatever you believe in) what it is you want.

If you are unsure of how to set goals perhaps our simple course on goal setting could help:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/goal-setting-made-simple/preview

 

Read an inspirational book or watch a movie

Sometimes we need to simply stop and take time out.  So why not sit in your favourite place and utilise that time in a productive way.  Stories about others can help us get re-inspired.

Most movies and books based on true stories have a message of “against all odds” achievement.  That have insights of vulnerability, courage and motivation.  That no matter what life has or is throwing you that things CAN change and that you can too.

Some of our favourites are:  In the pursuit of Happyness, The Blind Side,  Moneyball, Loosing my Virginity, Daring Greatly and Big Magic.

 

 

Exercise

Whether it is going to the gym or getting out for a walk it doesn’t the matter.  Exercise is about getting your body moving in a way that suits you.

When you exercise it helps pump blood to the brain and it also releases the “feel good” endorphins and serotonin.  It also helps to increase the size of the hippocampus, the functions of which are to regulate emotions and to access long term memories.

In addition, exercise also helps create / increase the connections of the brain’s neurons which also helps with focus, ideas and solutions.

Success journal

Scientific evidence indicates that when a person writes they access both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, which means we are able to transform and morph from situations yet too we are able to apply different methodology and solutions.

Spend 5-10 minutes listing all the achievements you have had during your day.

Remembering that many things constitute as successes and it is idea for you to record all of them, no matter how big or small.

What constitutes as an action worthy of recording are those actions you don’t usually take for example  if you only drink three glasses of water and drink four that constitutes as a success.  If you manage to start writing a report that you have been putting off, that constitutes as a success.

I’ve used this tool personally and with many clients.  It works brilliantly as a re-focusing and motivational tool.

Self Care

Many people find nurturing themselves quite difficult, with a lot of people not even sure how to nurture themselves.  Self care can come in many forms and it is doing in in a way that is best for you.

It might be going and getting your hairs or nails done, it might be simply doing that yourself.  It could be taking your make up off at night, eating the right foods, or drinking water.  It could be having a massage or seeing your kinesiologist.  It could be going for a walk or sitting at the beach and having an ice cream.

Self care doesn’t necessarily mean spending lots of money yet it could.  It is whatever is going to help you feel loved, supported and cared for.  My favourite is buying myself flowers.

 

Change your environment

A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  For something to change; something needs to change.  Changing your environment relates to many aspects of yourself and life.

It could be changing:

  • the environment of your mind, what you focus on and what you talk about.
  • what you put into your body as in the food you eat, what you drink (or what you don’t eat and drink)
  • your location (inside v’s outside, change of scenery, going to a different cafe or the library)
  • the people in your life or the place in which you work.

 

Remember that funks are a normal part of life, everyone experiences them to some level.  The key is to making sure your funk doesn’t go too low and doesn’t last too long.  Sometimes one of the suggestions may work and at other times you might need to use a combination.  Just know that when you are doing something you are taking action and that action will help support you in taking the action you want to be taking.

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Self Confidence

Ways to build self confidence

To possess self-confidence is to have belief, trust, faith and an assurity in who you are and/or your abilities.  It is an internal state about what  you think and feel about  yourself.  Also depending on what is happening around you, and how you process / respond to those situations, people, etc means that your self confidence is a changeable state.

Building self confidence gives you a tool you can draw upon to stop second-guessing yourself,  to release doubts, manage your fears and to take action.  Self confidence can be likened to a muscle; in that the more you use it the more you strengthen it!

Commonly I have found with clients, when asked what do you need to do to build their self confidence, their response to be “I don’t know”.  For some it is such a foreign concept and thus they don’t know where to start.

Here are some tried and proven ways to build your self confidence:

  • Focus.  At the end of the day review what you achieved and/or what you did well.  Place your focus on what you are doing, rather than what you aren’t doing.
  • Recognise and celebrate your achievements – it’s healthy to do so!
  • Self Talk.  Become aware of how you speak and what you say to yourself.  If it isn’t positive “cancel / delete” it and say something nice to yourself.
  • Exercise.  Go for a walk, run or to the gym.  Yoga, swimming, whatever exercise that makes you feel good.
  • Posture.  Stand tall, shoulders back and head high.  Scientific studies show that posture impacts the brain!
  • Learn something new.  Not only does it help make new neurological pathways it also helps show you that you can grasp new information.
  • Do something “fearful” each day.  By doing so we are teaching ourselves to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.  Each time building your confidence muscle that you CAN achieve things.
  • Smile.  According to science smiling increases endorphin’s which in turn create positive emotions; including confidence!
  • Know yourself.  Understand all aspects of who you are; what your strengths are as well as what you consider your less than great traits are.  The next step is to find the benefits to these “weaknesses”.  When you know who you are and love all aspects of who you are then no one else can affect you.
  • Trust your instincts.  We all have an innate knowing within, learn to listen to it and have faith in what you feel is right / wrong.
  • Emanate someone who is confident.  Consider someone you respect and whom you feel is confident.  Identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and how you can embrace that.
  • Stop comparing yourself.  When your compare yourself, you automatically put your self down and discount your own positive aspects.
  • Get clear on the things and people that truly matter to you.  Create a list of the things  or people you have been tolerating and then consider what action you need to take to either remove or minimise the impact.
  • Manual control.  Disengage your auto pilot and be mindful about your decisions so they reflect what really matters to you.
  • Create an action plan.  Be deliberate about action you will take and commit to following through.  Ensure you acknowledge the actions and benefits so you can see your progress.  It helps grow confidence and give self reinforcement.

Being confident isn’t a goal or an end-point that you reach and then stop.  It is an ongoing and continuous process.   Confidence can be likened to a flowering plant.  It doesn’t flower on command, instead after being nourished via various ways it flourishes; over and over again.

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with your self confidence then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Vibration

Practices to nourish your vibration

As was “goals” in the 1980’s, vibration, manifestation, abundance have all become buzz concepts right now.  As with many concepts that become the “buzz” they tend to become so overused that people soon grow tired of hearing about it.

So why is it important not to get tired about information relating to your vibration?  Science is proving what Eastern philosophies have know for thousands of years; that your body is constructed from energy.  This refers not only to the interactions that occur at a cellular level, yet also to the energy lines that run through your body, called Meridians, which Science can now detect.

What has also been detected is that you are much more than your physical body.  Surrounding you are interconnected fields of energy known as subtle bodies or auric fields.   These fields interact with your physical body via energy connection points called chakras which then feed into the meridians.

Just as you would practice for anything you want to master or become adept at, you also need to follow certain practices to ensure your energy vibration is at it’s best.   Your external world is also a reflection of your internal world so the more you invest in being your best; the more the best of the world will invest in you.

Meditation

Common reasons most people don’t meditate are “I don’t know how to” or “I can’t sit for that long” or “I can’t switch off my mind”.  Meditation is like running a marathon, as in it isn’t something most people can do straight away.  As with training for a marathon you build up your stamina and endurance, so too meditation.  You need to develop your ability to let go of your thoughts and to sit for periods of time.

The benefits of meditation are well documented and from this perspective it is extremely important to recharge all aspects of yourself (physically, mentally and spiritually).  Meditation allows us to be relieved of the density our energy has on Earth.  We are light beings and thus meditation enables us to lighten our energy, thereby lightening our load and connect to the light source that is internal and external to us.

Acknowledge Universal Forces

Whilst I have no concrete evidence that can support for a fact that there are unseen Universal forces that exist, I have experienced many different situations that gives me evidence to believe that they do.

These Universal forces help support us to bring into reality our ecological desires. When we recognise that these Universal forces exist we are able to connect to them to enable manifestation.

Get moving outside

The Latin word “emovere” which means to move is also the basis of the word emotion.  Interestingly it also originates from the French word “emouvoir” which means to excite. When we move, we are exciting our energy and vibration.  Yet to movement also means we tap into emotions and feelings which support us.

When we move outside we are also able to access and absorb the negative ions which exist organically in nature.  These negative ions enable us to be balanced, grounded, energised and to have focus and clarity.

Yin / Yang

The Yin and Yang refer to the negative and positive aspects which exist in everything.  Without both we become imbalanced and/or polarised about a person or situation.  So when you can practice the Yin / Yang, which is seeing both the positives and negatives in equal amounts, then you are able to let go of the attachment and be empowered and at peace.

Be Heart Centred

Studies are showing that the heart emits more frequencies than our brain.  Also that the heart sends more instructions to the brain, than the brain does to the heart.   So when we are heart centred we are able to elevate our communication, thinking, decisions and choices to a higher level of consciousness.

Commonly, in various modalities,  the heart relates to:  self love, love for others, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, acceptance, gratitude, beauty, peace and transformation.  When you focus on doing this for yourself or another you are being heart centred.

Practice Gratefulness

Gratefulness is an important attribute of being heart centred however it is also important from a focus aspect.  To be grateful is to acknowledge all that you are (or can be) thankful and appreciative for.

What ever we focus on, we will get more of.  Also when we are grateful we let the light in, which in-powers us.  It heightens and improves our vibration so we can receive more and in this case more “light”.

We know that everything is interconnected so when you invest in your vibration you are fundamentally investing in all aspects of your well being.  You are being active in creating the way in which you exist in the world.

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Kinesiology

Signs it’s time to see a kinesiologist

A Kinesiologist is an energy medicine specialist. Who places emphasis is on health maintenance, client education and responsibility by identifying the causative influences triggering health (mental, physical, chemical) imbalances.  Anything a Kinesiologist does, or suggests the client does, is to restore health, wellness and vitality, therefore enhancing the clients innate healing energies.

Whilst kinesiology is based on ancient techniques, which have been practised for thousands of years, it is a relatively new modality which was established in the early 1970’s.  Founded on Western philosophies such as Chiropractic, Counselling, Anatomy and Physiology it was coupled with Eastern philosophies such as Meridians, Acupressure, Triad of Health and Chakras.

A fundamental principle of Kinesiology is that the body, mind and spirit has innate ability to heal itself which, at times, needs support to re-align and connect to this innate healing ability.

Humans are three dimensional beings, so it makes sense to use a modality which works on all three aspects, which is what Kinesiology does.  Most modalities are usually only one dimension and in some cases two.  This makes Kinesiology regarded as one of the truly holistic modalities.

So what are the signs which may indicate it’s an ideal time for you to see a kinesiologist?

1.     You’ve experienced a significant loss or change

Any type of loss and/or change can trigger the grief process.  Also loss doesn’t just mean death, it can be a completion of any sort.  Changes or loss can be physically; mentally; spiritually and /or financially.  It may relate to the change or loss of a person; thing and/or place.  Whilst grieving is specific process for the individual kinesiology can support the person through this.

2.     Your over emotional

Many people live with negative emotions, accepting this as their “norm”, which results in them feeling less than great about themselves.  Such feelings may be anxiety, fear, anger, self-doubt, frustration, overwhelm, tiredness / lacking energy, feeling on-edge, sad or teary.  Many of clients have transformed these emotions and transformed their lives.

3.    You are feeling imbalanced

If you describe yourself as feeling “out of sorts”, not “like yourself”, out of harmony and/or imbalanced and don’t have a logical (or medical) reason for feeling this way.   You may also be experiencing stress due to life/work or imbalance.

4.  Your body is giving  you feedback

Our body holds immense wisdom and will give you signs that something isn’t being addressed and thus needs to come back into equilibrium.  Such symptoms may be teeth grinding, insomnia, shortness of breath (for no apparent reason), restlessness, headaches, nail biting, muscle tension or cramping, body aches, stomach upsets or related issues such as bloating, belching, diarrhoea or constipation.

5.    Your neurology is under stress

Signs you are or have experienced neurological stress are brain fogginess, memory issues, loss of balance, co-ordination issues, difficulty concentrating and/or learning, short attention span, disorientation, variances in your vision and/or hearing.

6.  Your internal well being is based on external factors

A sure giveaway that your internal well being is based externally is if you find yourself affected by what people are or aren’t doing and/or who is or isn’t in your life.  Other indicators could be that are you use terminology such as “s/he makes me feel …”, “they did …”, “<x> didn’t happen so I feel …”

7.  Your not living in the now

Are you living in the living in the pain / fear of what has not even happened.  If so it will be resulting in sabotaging behaviour. For example  Tora* wanted to be in a relationship, however she feared being rejected.  When Tora attracts Mr Right there is a 50% chance she may be rejected, however there is also a 50% chance that she may have a loving supportive relationship.    Yet before Tora could even meet Mr Right, she was already living in the pain of being rejected.  *name has been changed for privacy reasons

8.  What you are doing hasn’t or isn’t working

A number of my client have tried one dimensional modalities which, although have worked to some degree, haven’t really helped them shift.  However kinesiology is getting them their desired results.    Whatever it is you are doing, professionally or privately, and it isn’t working then kinesiology might be the right modality to help support your shift.

How to find a kinesiologist

To find a kinesiologist you can search the Australian Kinesiology Association (AKA) website via:  https://www.aka.asn.au.  Check your practitioner is Health Fund registered to ensure their qualifications are current and at the highest industry standard.

You can also book an appointment with me via this link The Inner Sage Availability.  Mention this article to receive a 10% discount.

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Overthinking

Overthinking doing your head in?

Most people will, at some stage, partake in overthinking.   Overthinking, or ruminating as psychology refers to it, is not in itself a bad thing.  In fact overthinking can have its positives.  However it is when overthinking becomes a daily practice then it has negative impacts.

Let’s liken overthinking to chocolate; chocolate isn’t that bad for you when eaten in small amounts occasionally.  It is is dark chocolate with no sugar then it can have health benefits. However when chocolate is eaten everyday and is loaded with sugar then it has negative impacts.

Same too with over thinking.  Overthinking can affect people in such ways as:

  • insomnia
  • exhaustion / low energy
  • poor memory
  • pessimistic and negative attitude
  • inaction / lost opportunities
  • guilt, anxiety and depression
  • stomach issues
  • tension and stress
  • lack of or low self confidence
  • addiction or addictive behaviour
  • impaired problem solving
  • distortion of information leading to inaccurate perceptions

Overthinking is something which typically happens as we get older.  Young children don’t overthink matters, in fact as parents we spend a lot of time trying to teach them to do so.  Young children hold the world in wonder and they are often in the moment, be-ing.

As our children enter school their beautiful, curious, child-like brain becomes jam packed with knowledge and information.   Sir Kenneth Robinson, an international adviser on education, says “we educate people out of their creativity”.

He suggests that not only do we educate our children with knowledge, they also learn the stigmatisation of failure, the linear goal of getting a job done and the fear of being wrong.  Thus their uninhibited creativity becomes restricted.

This fear of failure and/or being “wrong” in general contributes to the reason some people overthink.  Another contribution is the amount of information we have at hand which means we are bombarded with choices.

Whilst it is important to understand what options we have, particularly when making decisions, too much choice can be overwhelming.  Our decision-making process is hindered and we can become enervated and debilitated.

If you are an overthinker, please be easy on yourself.  Apparently the brain is wired in such a way that overthinking is a natural tendency.  Psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema explains “the organization of our brains sets us up for over-thinking”.  This is because our memories and thoughts are not compartmentalised, rather they are interwoven in intricate networks of associations.

Nolen-Hoeksema says “When you are in a bad mood of some type—depressed, anxious, just altogether upset—your bad mood tends to trigger a cascade of thoughts associated with your mood. These thoughts may have nothing to do with the incident that put you into a bad mood in the first place”

Furthermore, when a person is feeling negative they are more likely to focus on negative matters as well as create negative connections, which may not actually exist.  Like any habit, the more a person does this and engages in overthinking, the more likely they will do so in the future.

Mark Nepo said “No amount of thinking is going to stop you from thinking” so in order to break the overthinking habit you need to consider actions which aren’t engaging your thought processes.   You also want to consider actions which will create the positive neural pathways which allow you to access your “sensible” brain; the neocortex.  Actions such as:

  1.  Breathing.  Fear + Oxygen = Excitement
  2.  Meditate regularly (and at least several times per week)
  3.  Instead of talking it over, try writing!  Writing gives us a different perspective
  4.  Practice mindfulness; be-ing in the present moment
  5.  Trust in yourself to handle whatever happens as well as trust in the Universe to only do what is best for you
  6.  Exercise; get moving!
  7.  Thoughts create reality; what are your thoughts creating?
  8.  Get creative; try colouring in, drawing, painting and/or pottery
  9.  Build your spontaneity muscle; it builds your capacity to cope with the unknown
  10.   Know that a choice is just a choice; if your choice doesn’t work out you simply just make another choice
  11.  Feel where in your body your overthinking is affecting you most.  Speak to that part of you and ask what it needs.  Then bring in “sun” vibration ; vitality, illumination, power, energising, happiness and increase will.  Let the sun energy soak into your mind and then into that area releasing what you’ve been thinking about
  12.  STOP IT!  Make a conscious choice not to engage in over thinking.

 

There isn’t a switch which we can access to stop overthinking, however it is a pattern or habit which with a little effort you can change.

If after reading this you feel you need additional support with overthinking then consider kinesiology as an option.  You can find more information on our website.

 

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What are your emotions telling you?

What are your Emotions telling you?

What exactly are our emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007)

It is interesting that emotions are a “subjective experience”.  Which means that despite (at times) people experiencing the same situations, events, relationships, places, etc the interpretation of such WILL differ.

Yet subjectivity is only one component of what emotions are.  Hockenbury & Hockenbury also determine that an emotions also have a physiological response.  In her book, Molecules of Emotion,  neuroscientist Candace Pert explains “As our feelings change, this mixture of peptides travels throughout your body and your brain. And they’re literally changing the chemistry of every cell in your body.”

Our cells are fundamental building blocks of our physical being.  It is at this level where our health and well-being is determined.    If our cells are flooded with negativity,  negative chemistry will result disabling the cells from performing optimally.

The third component is HOW we respond to our emotions.   The word emotion originates from the French word “emouvoir” which means to excite.  As well as the Latin word “emovere” which means to move.  Our emotions serve to motivate us to take action (move) towards things that excite us.  Emotions also serve for us to take action in order to survive and thus keep ourselves safe from danger.

Emotions Position description

Our emotions serve a purpose and have a job to do.  The problem happens when our emotions become over zealous about their role.  When they (as such) go beyond their position description and become over zealous. Such over zealousness creates imbalance and our emotions require “performance management”.

When we understand the message our emotions are giving us then we are given the key as to how to manage them!

So what are our emotions telling us?

Anger
Anger is often a catalyst for change.  It gives way for the opportunity to transform and to take responsibility.  Ask yourself:   what needs to change in your life?  what do you need to take responsibility for?  what part did you play in the situation? how can you create more peace in your life?  Action:  Practice forgiveness

Depression
Depression provides an opportunity for a person to get to know themselves at a deeper and genuine level.   If we don’t allow depression to take over, it is an emotion which can motivate people to deep and lasting healing.   Ask yourself:  what are the benefits of feeling down?  how does this feeling serve me?  what does it give me excuses not to do?  what is it that I’ve been suppressing that I need to address?

Fear
Fear and excitement use the same energy! Although people tend to misread excitement as fear, thus sabotaging ourselves from taking action and enabling change.  Ask yourself:  what is the worse thing that could happen with this change?  and what can I do to counteract that?  What are the benefits of change?  What are the drawbacks of not changing?  Action:  Do something small which you are fearful of each day.  You build up your resistance to fear and create a habit of taking action despite fear.

Grief
Grieving occurs when the person has or perceives loss.  Whether that loss is a person, relationship, home and/or job.  Whatever the loss is grief is an important part of healing.  However if we prolong our grief it keeps a person stuck in the past and inhibits them from moving forward.  Ask yourself:  how has my loss given way for new opportunities?  If the loss is a person consider how moving forward honours them.

Guilt
Guilt is a very destructive emotion which keeps the person imprisoned and confined rather than feeling free.  It is an indicator that the person needs to lighten their energy and release the burdens they are carrying.   Ask yourself: what is the lesson in the situation for me?  what is the lesson for other/s?   Action:  Go to a park and swing – feel the freedom it gives!

Jealousy
Jealousy is most often due to feelings of inferiority as well as lack mentality.   It can also close a person’s heart creating resentment and limitation.  Action:  Focus on being grateful, finding the blessings in EVERYTHING.  Also use meditations (or essences) which help open your heart.

Judgement
Judgement can be an indicator of controlling behaviours or the need to be in control.  It is an emotion which inhibits the person from being empowered as they are putting others down to feel better about them self.  Often when this behaviour is imbalanced it is due to being conflicted within.  Ask yourself:   What can I do to honour myself?  and others?  Focus on meditations which focus on trusting the flow of life.

Overwhelm
Overwhelm diminishes our peace and creates chaos.   It often occurs when we are looking at the big picture and many things at once.   Action:  Focus on firstly prioritising the activities, then breaking them down into manageable chunks.  Use breathing or meditation techniques to create centredness and peace.

Rejection
Rejection or more aptly put the fear of rejection stops many from pursuing their goals and fully connecting with the joy of life.  When feeling rejection there is a need to release from patterns of self-criticism and self-pity to work on increasing self worth.  Consider this:  That rejection is not of you or your work.  Rather it’s due to someone not taking the time to understand what you have to offer and as a result they have lost out.

Resentment
Resentment happens when we feel we have been unfairly treated or feel taken advantage of.  As resentment continues to resonate it turns into righteousness and we fail to see points of view other than our own.  Action step:  Consider what the other person’s point of view is in the situation.  Perhaps set up two chairs in one chair you speak as yourself and in the other you speak as the other person.

Sadness
Refer to Grief

Stress
Stress occurs when people are not living in the present moment.  As it continues they neglect their personal needs, particularly the tension that builds up.  Instead of allowing things to flow they strain to get things done, piling on more tasks as they go.  Action steps:  Use Resonate Essences “Present Time” spray or use our “Calling your Spirit back” meditation.  What specific aspect relating to yourself have you been neglecting? e.g exercise, food, water

Unworthiness
When a person feels unworthy it is because they fail to see the value that they contribute to the world.  They are often very critical of themselves and judge themselves more harshly than others.  They give and/or allow others to take their personal power.   Action:  Define your boundaries; what is and isn’t acceptable to you.  Ask others to list three positive things about you.  At the end of the day for three weeks write down all your achievements, things you did well or that you wouldn’t usually do.

Worry
Refer to fear

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Law of Attraction - Vibration

Eight ways you can raise your vibration

Regularly when working with clients, I find myself explaining that in order to achieve what they desire they need to “shift and raise their vibration”.  Whilst many understand the concept they don’t necessarily understand what steps they can take to achieve this.

In my personal experience what you have or attract in life is directly related to your energy.  As well as your level of empowerment and how you feel about yourself.  If you want to attract or manifest certain things, people or situations it is important that you are resonating at the right vibration.

What is our “vibration”?

Dr. Richard Gerber, who wrote Vibration Medicine, supports the notion that we are more than our physical body and that we also have energetic information systems; such as the subtle bodies that Eastern philosophies often refer to.  He also states “energy is very strongly influenced by consciousness”.

Thus our vibration is the frequency and energy at which our physical, mental, emotional and energetic bodies are oscillating at.  Each aspect having its own separate frequency which contributes to the whole and it is this integration vibration that communicate with others around us.

When you contemplate ways to raise your vibration it is important to consider them from these aspects; physical, mental, emotional and energetically!

Methods to raise your vibration

  1. External world / internal world

    Your external world is a reflection of what is happening within yourself, thus it acts as a prompt to what you are placing your attention and focus on. If you don’t like what is happening around you, consider what you need to address within or give to yourself.  For example if you are attracting negative situations, consider how you are being negative. Once you can acknowledge this, you can change it and you no longer need to attract such situations for you to learn from.

  2. Consider your thoughts and words

    As Buddha said “what you think you become”, thus the thoughts you have create how you feel. It is important to acknowledge how you are feeling, however also consider what  you have or are thinking about as this is most likely the reason you are feeling less than great.
    Remember just because you think something, doesn’t mean it is true, so consider other and alternative possibilities. Life is made up of dualities so things, people, situations are not all good nor are they all bad they are a balance of both, when we see both aspects we have peace and empowerment ~ higher vibrational energy.
    Also consider the words that you are using and find alternatives.  For example “should” is a guilt creating word, so instead of using “should” use “could” – it is a choice creating word.  Rather than things being bad, state they are less than good.  Words, as does thoughts, have their own vibrational energy so if you want to lift your vibration then using those of a positive resonance helps.

  3. Feed your mind

    What material (books, magazines, online) are you reading?  Also what TV shows or movies are you watching?  Did you realise that the material you feed your mind with is also unconscious programming you?  Make a choice to nourish your mind with information that is strengthening and encouraging, that whilst feeding your mind is also nurtures your soul.

  4. Practice Gratitude

    To practice gratitude is to find something to be thankful for in every situation, even those situations which seem less than positive.  When you develop an attitude of gratefulness then you become more present which can help you realise that everything that happens is moving you towards something bigger and better.  Yet too gratitude is an emotion of higher forces and thus lifts your vibration so you attract more of the same (so more situations to be grateful for).

  5. Meditation

    When you meditate you enable your mind and body to realign with its truer state; a state of calmness, peace, happiness and joy.  You are also able to connect with your higher self, that part of you which holds wisdom and insight as well as guidance.  Thus meditation is a tool in which you can access and connect with the  higher vibrational energy within and around you.

  6. Use Essences

    There are many different essences in the marketplace however the one which we recommend and use is Resonate Essences.  These essences are made with high vibrational ingredients yet too they have been created with the purest of energetic vibrations including love.  Working on a spiral flow dynamic these essences dissolve and transmute the negative vibrations create a space for the positive vibrations to permeate and infuse.

  7. Get moving

    Movement creates energy, so when we move in a way which makes us happy or gives us joy we create positive energy faster.  So engage in an activity that gets you moving and that resonates with you; go walking, go to the gym, dance, jump on the trampoline; it doesn’t matter how you move, just move!
    When you move you breathe more and thus increase the oxygen in your body – oxygen is life giving, life forming energy, so when you breathe you are giving  this to yourself.

  8. Higher vibration foods / fluids

    Eat foods that are “live”, which are unprocessed foods that are beneficial to you.  As the adage states “you are what you eat” thus food directly impacts your physical body.  Either you are fuelling it or defusing it.
    This also applies to the fluids you drink and in order to thrive your body needs at least two litres per day (more depending on circumstances).  So are you are you drinking enough water?  is your body adequately absorbing it?  are you drinking too much caffeine, alcohol or sugar based drinks?
    When your physical body thrives so too does your vibrational bodies.

In his book “The Power of Intention” Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote:  “What you may fail to see inside is a result of how you choose to process everything and everyone in your world. You project onto the world what you see inside, and you fail to project into the world what you fail to see inside. If you knew that you were an expression of the universal spirit of intention, that’s what you’d see. You’d raise your energy level beyond any possibility of encumbrances to your connection to the power of intention. It is only discord acting within your own feelings that will ever deprive you of every good thing that life holds for you! If you understand this simple observation, you’ll curb interferences to intention.”

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