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Choices

How all your choices are supporting you

Are you aware that ALL your choices, whether they are empowering or disempowering choices are actually supporting you?

To make a choice is the act of choosing between two (or more) alternatives.  Choice then gives you possibilities of an outcome.

So when you make a choice you are simply deciding what is best for yourself in that given moment.  However it could be in that given moment, you are inadvertently supporting an aspect of yourself which isn’t in aligned with your long term goals / outcome you desire or what is really important to you.

For example lately I’ve been choosing to watch Orange is the New Black (a TV show on Netflix).  This choice isn’t a “bad” choice as it has supported me by having balance by giving me some down time.

However by making this choice I’ve also been able to avoid writing and thus “supporting” myself by not having to address a fear I have around writing.  At the time I didn’t realise that the less than great choice (to watch TV) was actually supporting my fear.

This is true for many people, they are often making choices not have awareness of their known or unknown motivation behind the choices they are making.

Ideally you want to become aware of the unconscious (or conscious) patterns that are impeding or sabotaging you from what you want, kinesiology is one effective way to do this.  As kinesiology bypasses the conscious mind using your innate wisdom to increase your awareness and thus expands the choices available to you to make.

It is also important to know that at times your choices will be made from habitual actions due to the neural pathways which have been reinforced and thus ingrained to become an automatic choice.   Which means you will usually have limited awareness until after the fact.

When we have greater awareness around our choices, we also have a great capacity to take responsibility and accountability for them.  Thus enabling us to create new and empowering neural pathways that lead us to make more suitable choices which long term become the new norm.

Increasing awareness of your choices

 

  • Self Awareness:   The key to making empowering choices is awareness.  When you are aware of what is driving your choice, whether it be an emotion, mood or re-action, then you have choice as to how you want to act and be.  Without awareness you are operating from a habitual nature. 

    At the end of the day reflect the choices that you have made.  What was each choice supporting specifically?  Were they empowering or disempowering?  How did you feel at the time you made that choice?  What were you thinking about?  What would help you to make different choices?

 

  • Journalling:  Writing  is a great way to get out of our heads as such and step out from the problem / situation and to see it from another perspective.  Also journalling allows you to get raw and honest with yourself, which means you can acknowledge how the current choices are impeding you.  Understand more about journalling with our article:   http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/04/20/journalling-a-tool-to-aid-healing/

 

Often people beat themselves up for making “wrong” choices, however ultimately a choice is just that, a choice.  There is no right or wrong choice, as every choice is supporting you.

However if you feel you’ve made a less than great choice, one which doesn’t support you, then just make another choice that does.

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Self Esteem Wave

Riding the Self-Esteem Wave

Self-esteem is our sense of our own value and self-worth.  Contradictory to what we have been led to believe, our self-esteem is not a stagnant way of being.  In fact most people, especially women, experience fluctuations with their self-esteem.

Likened to an ocean wave when we are on the upside of the fluctuation, we feel confident, love who we are and see our own worth and value.  However on the downside we will second guess ourselves, have doubt and be over critical of ourselves.

Such ups and downs are normal, in fact they are considered as essential as long as we manage them effectively.  As we are reminded by the Yin/Yang symbol, dualities which are seemingly opposite or contrary are actually complementary and interconnected.  Dualities in life, and they are everywhere, cannot exist without the other.  Thus dualities ~ such as the ups and downs ~ are required to be whole.

The more acceptance you have that the self-esteem fluctuation happens, as well as understanding it is normal, the more likely you are to minimise the depth and frequency of the “wave”.  When you can “ride the wave” you are able to allow flow and let go.  When we allow flow we also allow synchronicity.

It is important to know and accept that when you are on the downside of the fluctuation (wave) this is when your negative emotions, baggage, “stuff”, things you’ve not dealt with are more likely to present.

What exactly are your emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007).

The word emotion originates from the French word “emouvoir” which means to excite.  As well as the Latin word “emovere” which means to move.  Your emotions serve to motivate you to take action (move) towards things that excite you.  Emotions also serve for you to take action in order to survive and thus keep yourself safe from danger.

Running from, not dealing with, or pushing your emotions away only makes them stronger and persistent in trying to get your attention.  It’s the adage,  whatever you resist, persists. Your emotions then control you, rather than you be in control of them.

Whilst it is important to take actions that build your self-esteem, it is also important to understand that the downside of the wave is an important time for you to undertake emotional spring cleaning.

When you seek to understand the reasons as to why the emotions are presenting themselves; by being compassionate and nurturing yourself you loosen their grip in order to achieve release and healing.

Ways to undertake emotional spring cleaning

  1. Acknowledge how you are feeling and what it is you are thinking or focusing on to make you feel that way.  Consider is this just a “story” you are telling yourself and what evidence do you have that it is a truth?  and/or what could be equally if not more so true
  2. Recognise what it is that you need right now and give that to yourself.  Is it loving words of support from  yourself?  Is it time in nature?  To go shopping and treat yourself?  To take time out and go to the beach or to read a good book?
  3. Grab a pen and paper and write.  Consider what event, situation, place or person the emotions relate to and allow the words to flow onto the page, getting raw and honest with  yourself.  How do you feel about what happened?  What has been left unresolved?  What was the impact?  What were the negatives?  and what were the positives (yes there will be some)?  and what are the insights you need to release and let it go?
  4. Find a nice patch of grass or sand and stand on it barefoot.  Connect in with the earth energy and imagine the negative emotions as well as anything that relate to them releasing from your body down through the soles of you feet into the core of the earth where this negativity will be transformed and transmuted.

 

When you can accept that your self-esteem will fluctuate and that this is normal, as well as be vulnerably brave to address and heal what you need to, you will find that  you have greater distance in between the fluctuations.

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Kinesiology

Feeling Great – Kinesiology can still benefit you!

Many of my clients have been saying “I’m feeling great, I don’t think I need to come”.  Which is fantastic as it means Kinesiology is working for them!  However it also made me realise that there is a misconception that kinesiology is ONLY a healing modality.

To understand the reason kinesiology is also beneficial when you are feeling great, first lets consider the history of and what kinesiology is.

What is kinesiology?

Kinesiology is an energy based modality which has a sound foundation in both Eastern and Western philosophies.   It is a modality which grew predominately in the 1960’s from the contribution of many brilliant men in the Chiropractic field.  Called Applied Kinesiology it was a system only used by those in the field.

In the 1970’s, based on Applied kinesiology, via a system called “Touch for Health” Kinesiology was brought the the “lay” person.  In the 1980’s  this system would be expanded upon to include aspects of Chinese Medicine which would see the more energetic form of Kinesiology be establised.

The word Kinesiology derives from the Greek word “kinesis” meaning movement and “kinein” meaning to move.  Therefore kinesiology could be seen as the science or branch of knowledge related to movement.

Being a modality based on both Western and Eastern philosophies such movement relates to all three aspects of our being:

  • physically / structurally;
  • mentally / emotionally;
  • nutritionally /chemically.

Eastern philosophies seeks movement, and flow, of the meridians, chakras and overall energy. A main philosophy is:  Bu tong ze tong, Tong ze bu tong, which translates: If there is no free flow, there is pain; if there is free flow, there is no pain.

Western philosophies seek movement in relation to the body’s physical motion (or lack of).  Yet movement also relates to the identifiable fluids in the body (lymphatic, blood, cerebrospinal, synovial, etc).

If you consider that Kinesiology was founded via the Chiropractic arm, one of Kinesiology’s main purposes is alignment.  Alignment in all aspects of who you are – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

That leads to the question:   if you are feeling great, how does kinesiology benefit?

Benefits of Kinesiology

Kinesiology has many benefits, overall it activates your innate healing abilities for you to have balance.  Such balance enables you to have greater choices so you can achieve your optimal potential and abilities. 

Here are the reasons for seeing a kinesiologist when you feel great:

Manifesting / Law of Attraction

Kinesiologists do not treat, diagnose or prescribe, what we do is balance your energy system to ensure you are in alignment with what you want to achieve.  Therefore whilst you can be feeling great, you still can have blockages to attracting what you want.

For example one of my clients in her own words feels amazing.  She is confident, knows her self worth, is happy in herself, loves her job and says she is ready for a relationship.  However whilst she is consciously ready, unconsciously she is blocking herself from attracting a relationship.

Via kinesiology she is uncovering, addressing and balancing blocks that she was unaware of which were hindering her in attracting a relationship.

In order to manifest or attract what you want in life, firstly you need to clarify what it is you want and then you need to fully trust it will happen as well as ensure your energy is aligned at the same vibration.

At times when you feel great you will still find that you may not be attracting what you want OR  you are attracting people and situations that are less than ideal.  As your external world is a reflection of your internal one it is likely there is something unknown that needs to be addressed.

Time does not heal

After seeing one of my closest friends loose her father and due to our conversations, I have come to realise that time does NOT heal.  What helps and supports healing is having ways and techniques that you can draw upon as you move forward which makes life easier.

Also in my experiences with clients what helps are techniques which release the imbalance caused by the hurt, grief, anger, etc trapped in the cellular memory.

What this means is that whilst we can be feeling wonderful, if we have a memory or past incident trapped at the cellular memory it can be triggered by a situation, place or person.   Thus you can find yourself reacting without understanding the reason why.

It is better to address what is unconscious, and thus what is unknown to you, rather than to have it show up in a conscious matter which results in a crisis.

Maintaining your good space

Each day in many ways we interact with others as well as with information or situations.  Whether this be in person, via social media, internet or TV.  Therefore we are constantly being bombarded with information and energy.

As kinesiology works on the Triad of health, it is not only your mental health it is helping keep in balance.  It could also be your nutritional / chemical aspect is out of whack or your physical or structural being.

Kinesiology aids you to remain centred and aligned, to keep your energy optimally flowing for all three aspects.  Which can increase and strengthen your resilience therefore building your immunity to others energy and stresses. 

Kinesiology bypasses your cognisant thinking activity to identify factors in the subconscious, physical and energetic levels. This means that kinesiology can help you to maintain how you are feeling however it could also enhance it.

 

Overall, even if you are feeling great, regularly kinesiology sessions ensure you are being proactive rather than waiting until things have compounded to be problematic.  If you are overdue for a session or haven’t seen a kinesiologist you can use the link below to schedule a session with us.  Mention this article for a 10% discount.

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Levelling

Upper Levelling the key to healing

One of my driving forces is to get results for my clients, it feeds my soul to know that together we are achieving the change my client desires (plus more!).  I pleased to say that on the whole many of my clients get results, so when I have a client who isn’t it leads me to question the reason for this…Upper levelling is the key.

To understand upper levelling first lets consider the common denominators as to the reason people don’t heal are because they:

  1. are so associated with and defined by their “wounds” that they don’t know what life would be like without them.  To be without them means to change and for some that is fearful;
  2. sabotage their change and find reasons which keep them limited and within their comfort zone;
  3. aren’t releasing “stuff” on all three dimensions;
  4. have beliefs and expectations regarding healing that sabotages their progress; and
  5. are stuck in the “why” either trying to understand the reason <x> has happened or the reason why they are where they are at.

Woundology

The term “woundology” was coined by Caroline Myss to describe how  people define and created an identity via their wounds, whether those wounds be physical, emotional, or social. 

In her book, “Why people don’t heal and how they can” Caroline Myss writes that some people who want to heal “are striving to confront their wounds, valiantly working to bring meaning to terrible past experiences and traumas, and exercising compassionate understanding of others who share their wounds. But they are not healing. They have redefined their lives around their wounds and the process of accepting them. They are not working to get beyond their wounds. In fact, they are stuck in their wounds.”

Thus it is important for you to consider what your new identity would look, sound and feel like.  How do you want to redefine yourself?

Change Barrier

For many people whether they are trying to loose weight, manifest something or heal when making any form of change they reach a limit where they are faced with a block to their change.  Often this will show up as a plateau of some kind. 

This limit is the outer barrier of where your current comfort zone lies.   Whilst many desire to heal and make change they don’t have the tenacity and willpower to push through their limit and barriers.  Thus they will find ways to justify not continuing with the change work.

It is at this point where you are faced with a choice to either sabotage your change so you fall back into our comfort zone OR to push through the limit to make change.

Three Dimensions of healing

To have lasting change we must work on all three aspects of our being.  Humans are three dimensional beings, so it makes sense to use a modality which works on all three aspects, which is what Kinesiology does.  Most modalities are usually only one dimension and in some cases two.  This makes Kinesiology regarded as one of the truly holistic modalities.

A Kinesiologist believes in a methodology called the “triad of health”.  Which means that well being and health is dependent on the harmonious congruency and balance between a client’s Physical / Structural, Emotional / Mental and Nutritional / Chemical aspects.

hp-mainWhen one aspect of the triad of health is imbalanced, then it affects the other sides and therefore areas in our life.  For example a person who chronically worries (mental) may lose their appetite (nutrition is affected) or experience irregularities in their body (physical).

 

Beliefs

In many of my articles I refer to beliefs.  This is because they are such a driving force of our emotions and behaviours.  Simply put Beliefs are a self fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe creates an expectation of what is likely to happen, this influences our behaviours (as well as how we feel) and then creates the basis of what actions we do or don’t take. In turn the actions or activities that we are doing or not doing will be the result or outcome we achieve.

This means that if you want to change your results or your behaviours, you need be aware of your beliefs to ensure they support what you want to achieve and who you want to be.

Positive / empowering beliefs are permission slips for getting the outcomes you want.

Learn how to change you beliefs with our online course:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/create-supportive-beliefs

The Why

Some get stuck in needing the know the why….the why they are the way they are; the why something happened to them.  Yet any sentence that begins with “why” is seeking justification not healing. 

If an unconscious person with a burst artery goes into emergency the doctors don’t stop to ask why did this happen, they simply move to apply the solution.  They don’t need to know the “why” to apply the healing.

Thus too, we can use the philosophy.  The why isn’t as important as the how.

Upper Levelling to change and heal

Upper levelling is when we push through our limits which is done using techniques that work on mind, body and spirit.   Yet as per Lao Tzu’s quote “A thousand mile journey begins with one step”. 

Be mindful that you might not achieve your desired change “overnight”, it also takes discipline and committed practice to achieve your healing goal.  Which is the first step, defining what it is you want to achieve.  

Once you know what you want to achieve and have a defined goal.  You then need to trust you can achieve this goal and take actions that align you to it.  Ensuring the actions you take are from a mental, physical and spiritual aspect.

Know that it is normal to feel vulnerable with any change.  When you are upper levelling be mindful that the closer you reach the barrier of your comfort zone, the likelihood you’ll feel this.    It is also important that when you reach here you keep moving forward, even if at a gentler pace.  

To move forward means you are taking consistent and authentic actions.  Such actions that extend your limits to elevate your self to a new level – a new way of being and thus making change.

One last thing….remember that any change, even if modest, is a move forward.

If you are still struggling with change and are interested in kinesiology you can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

Alternatively we have designed a process which helps with resetting the emotions.  You can find the link to this at:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/online-courses/

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openness to receiving

Openness to receiving rather than allowing

Many healers, coaches and guides often speak about the concept of allowing things to happen, however recently during a meditation I was guided to having openness to receiving, rather than allowing myself to.  I wondered what is the difference, I mean fundamentally are they not the same thing?

Intuitively I can feel the difference between the two, logically I needed to understand what the difference is.  In looking at the definition of both words this becomes clearer as to the power of being open.

www.dictionary.com defines the word allowing as:  Allow, let, permit imply granting or conceding the right of someone to do something. Allow and permit are often interchangeable, but permit is the more positive. Allow implies complete absence of an attempt, or even an intent, to hinder.

Using the Macquarie Concise Dictionary the definition of openness as:  (a) an act or instance of making or becoming open. (b) an act or instance of beginning :commencement

The unseen forces of Spirit and Universal energy are subtle and thus they also give and receive messages in subtle ways.  This is why when you are making changes even slight ones they can have major results.

Thus when you engaged in the action of allowing, in fact you are already implying and giving a subtle indication that you have an intention to hinder.  It also gives a message that you are in control to grant you believe should be.

Recently a client of mine had been manifesting like crazy.  Via regular kinesiology balances she has raised, aligned and maintained her vibration to what she wanted to receive.  The she was being open and trusting what she wanted would happen.

And it was happening.   Things were flowing SO much that she became overwhelmed and triggered an unconscious program which sabotaged her.  Then, and very suddenly, the flow stopped.     Fundamentally she had closed herself off to having openness to receiving.

Basically openness to receiving means you let things flow and if they aren’t you remove the blocks.  This means firstly you need to know what it is that you want, so get specific.  Next surrender yourself to trust beyond any doubt then acknowledge and be grateful for what you do receive.

What often stops people from being open is an impeded flow of energy in their heart chakra and/or meridian.  As an organ our heart is responsible for pumping oxygenated blood through our system, thus providing oxygen and nutrients through out our physical body.  Studies have also shown that our heart emits more energy than our brain.  In fact it sends more messages to the brain than the brain does to the heart.  Thus a vital organ for many reasons.

Metaphysically the heart is considered as the Spiritual centre of the body.  It relates to love, acceptance, calm, peace, trust, forgiveness, radiate, free flowing and circulation.   When the heart energy is flowing a person has openness, is loving, they are engaging, it feels good to be around them, they are empowering and happy of others, they see the blessings and have acceptance of everything.

If the heart energy is blocked then a person can be fearful, condemning, frustrated, impatient, intolerant, distrusting, negative, dis-empowered and competitive.   They will focus on lack, complain and use negative wording.

Thus the best way to have openness to receiving is to ensure your heart energy is flowing and communicating.  Below is a process which enables you to have coherence and connection  in yourself as well as with the unseen energy and infinite energies and forces that surround you.

It is a process you can use daily to ensure you are generally open and vibrating, however you can also use it more specifically when you require additional support perhaps for making a decision, a meeting and/or for a presentation or less than easy discussion.

Be mindful that this is a process to connect in and open your heart energy.  Thus it is not a meditation.  You can do this process in five (5) minutes or you can choose to do it for fifteen (15).  Noting the more that you do mindfully d this process in the longer term the more automatic it will be that your heart energy is open and vibrating optimally.

Energetic Heart flow process

Take a deep breathe in and close your eyes, keeping them shut …. exhale.  Closing the door on the external world for the time you’ve allocated for this process.   Opening your self to be present moment of now.  Focusing on your breath, breathing in and out naturally.  Taking your breathe to any part of your body which is feeling tense and as you exhale, releasing that tension so you are free, right now to relax.

This time as you breathe in, take your breathe in deeper and hold it.  Then as you exhale, push all your breathe out, finding yourself sinking deeper into a relaxed state.

Bring the back of your hands together so that your fingers (on both hands) face towards you and bring your fingers in to touch the centre of your chest (in between your breasts at the same height as your nipples). In this area is an acupressure point known as the Sea of Tranquillity which helps to centre you and release any emotions which are being held on to.

It also supports your consciousness to know where you want your energy and attention to go to, which is from your external world to your internal one, specifically to your heart space. When we bring out consciousness to our heart space we strengthen the heart-brain connection, creating heart coherence.

The energy of our heart is love, compassion, trust, peace, appreciation, forgiveness and gratitude. So now turn your attention to see, feel or hear those things that make you happy. What, who or where lifts up your heart and makes you feel blissful?

It may be something, somewhere or someone you have recently come across, perhaps it is a memory or another time.

Now consider what, who or where makes you feel grateful or you have (or can have) appreciate of or for.

What, who or what do you love? and what is it specifically that you love?

What made you smile yesterday?  or over the last week?

Notice that as you keep thinking about things, people or places you love, make you happy and/or you are grateful for, how you start vibrating at a higher state and that you are being filled from head to toe with this vibration.

Continue to focus on all the things, people, places that make you happy.  That make you smile. Notice how you feel as you are filled with this heart energy.  Feel it emanating from you into the space around you, then filling up the room that you are sitting in.

Keep emanating this heart energy beyond the walls in which you sit.  Into the suburb in which you live, extending to the State and then Country where you are currently located.  Next radiating this energy to place in the world where it is needed most.

Knowing that as your heart energy radiates so too does your ability to attract all you desire, for you are coherent with the unseen forces and energy thus you are in the perfect vibration to be open to receive.

Now placing your hands in your lap, focus again on your breathing and be aware the noises that surround you, the furniture that you are sitting upon.  Feeling energised and aligned for your day, meeting or presentation ahead.

 

If you are, after doing this exercise, still finding yourself being blocked to openness then kinesiology may be for you.  Mention this article and you’ll receive a 10% discount.

You can schedule an appointment for kinesiology with us via: http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Adjustments

Making adjustments for success

Long ago, early on in my corporate career, I learn about the importance of adjustments via the Japanese principle of “Kaizen”.  It was and still is one of my favourite concepts.  It is a Japanese word which simple means “change for better” and thus embraces the philosophy of continuous improvement.

It is an approach which seeks to make small, incremental adjustments which improves overall outcomes and to achieve beneficial change.  Not only do we see this philosophy in business it is also used in motor racing.

In motor racing when a vehicle is performing satisfactorily they don’t throw the car out and start again.  Instead they make minor changes, called “tweaks”, seeking to fine tune for improved performance.  Even still if the car is doing well, the team will still seek out where they can make “tweaks” to enhance performance.

Embracing this philosophy means that making minor changes can have major improvements , payoffs and success.  It is also a philosophy which isn’t a one off thing to be actioned, it is something that can be done on a regular basis.

Most kinesiologists have a protocol, a modus operandi or method of working, which they use.  I liken my protocol to a template which I use as the foundation of my treatment however one which I deviate from depending on what is going on for the client.

So whilst over the last four years (or so) my protocol has developed, recently I found information which resulted in me tweaking my protocol again.  A few minor changes which has had, what I consider, significant improvements for my clients.

This was a light bulb moment, reminding me that we don’t need to make major changes in order to have exceptional results.  It is more likely to be the small adjustments that achieve these!

I believe the reason for this is that because most people have a good foundation to make changes from.  Yet many are “throwing the baby out with the bath water” rather than acknowledging their foundation.

By acknowledging what is working (our foundation), we become aware of what isn’t.  So instead of changing those things that ARE working all we need to do is get specific with our tweaking and apply it to things that aren’t.

Another aspect which is important to remember is that what works for one person, may not work for you!  So when you make an adjustment and it isn’t working, simply make another.  Try different things until you find what resonates with you.

In addition to this it is essential to adjust your focus so you look for what is working.   Even back in 350BC or so Socrates said “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”.

So focus on and become aware of the results of the changes that you are making.  One this helps with the previous point, however it also helps you be conscious of the benefits.  Benefits to yourself and perhaps to others!

If you need support in making minor adjustments for success you could be interested in kinesiology or our coaching program.  For more information visit our website via:   http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com

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Loneliness

Loneliness; a feeling not a fact

In reviewing various reference books and other sources there wasn’t a great deal written about loneliness.  Perhaps it is because it is a topic not often spoken about and perhaps a topic that can be less than easy to address.

Two substantial ideas that in relation to loneliness is one, there are different aspects of loneliness.  Such as being in a new situation type of loneliness or lack of close friends loneliness or having no time for oneself or too much time to oneself. Or the one I often come across in clinci is that type of loneliness when a person isn’t in a relationship.

The second substantial idea is that loneliness is a feeling not a fact.    Considering that feelings are the reaction to an emotion, in the instance of loneliness sadness that is typically the trigger.

Consider what exactly are our emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007)

It is interesting that emotions are a “subjective experience”.  Which means that despite (at times) people experiencing the same situations, events, relationships, places, etc the interpretation of such WILL differ.

The reason people interpret information differently, and thus experience differing emotions, is due to the trigger of a conscious or unconscious thought / belief.   So what is loneliness for one person is bliss for another.

Being a kinesiologist, I love the concepts we use from Chinese medicine.  Thus it is interesting to draw information from this perspective.  In Chinese medicine loneliness relates to the Metal element, more specifically the Large Intestine meridian.  Meridians are channels through which energy flows in the body.  They relate to certain organs, muscles, emotions and life lessons.

The large intestine also relates to other attributes as self worth, feeling worthy of love, fear of rejection, letting go of guilt and grief as well as self imposed isolation.

Delving deeper into the 5 Element concept of Chinese medicine the Metal element is controlled by the Fire element, of which the Heart meridian belongs to.  Lessons of the heart meridian are self love, peace, richness, to radiate and acceptance to allow free flowing of energy.

What we can draw from this relationship is that when our heart meridian, or heart centre, is out of balance it will seek to dominate and draw energy from the large intestine meridian.  Whilst there are various things that can put a meridian or centre out of balance typically with the heart meridian it is a lack of self love, forgiveness or acceptance of a situation.

The flow on result of the heart meridian imbalance is that it starts controlling the large intestine meridian.  Such control causes the large intestine meridian to become deficient and thus doesn’t have the energy to flow appropriately.  Thereby resulting in a lack of self worth, heightened fear of rejection and/or heightened sense of loneliness.

 

So what’s the solution?

As with many things there can be more than one solution and you’ve got to find what is right for you.  Here are some suggestions which could work for you.

Exam your beliefs

Our emotions derive from what we are thinking and/or what we believe.  We know that loneliness derives from sadness.  So what are you thinking, or what do you believe that makes you feel sad.

Beliefs are a self fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe creates an expectation of what is likely to happen, this influences our behaviours (as well as how we feel) and then creates the basis of what actions we do or don’t take. In turn the actions or activities that we are doing or not doing will be the result or outcome we achieve.

This means that if you want to change your results or your behaviours, you need be aware of your beliefs to ensure they support what you want to achieve and who you want to be.

Positive / empowering beliefs are permission slips for getting the outcomes you want.

Learn how to change beliefs with our online course:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/create-supportive-beliefs

Self love

As we have just learnt from a Chinese Medicine perspective it is important to ensure that the heart chakra is balanced.  A key way to do this is to love and nourish yourself.

The best way to cultivate self love is to know who you are.  So list your positive traits, what is it that you love about yourself and what others love about you.

Now list your not so great traits, all those negative ones which you don’t really want to own up to.  Once you’ve got your list now find the benefit to those negatives.  What is great about those negative traits?  How do they benefit you and how are they a benefit to others!

As to nourishing yourself, these are things or place which make you feel good.  Maybe it is doing your nails, or going to the beach or for a walk, perhaps it is having a bath or just lighting candles.  Whatever it is for you, start loving yourself enough to do it!

Another way to strengthen your heart space is to start each day with being heart unified.  Place your hands in your heart area.  This helps to bring your consciousness from your head into your heart.  Now consider what are you (or could you be) grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What happened today or yesterday that you are thankful for?  What makes you happy?  or makes you smile?

Speak up

Many people who experience loneliness complain that they are always there for others, however feel that others aren’t there for them.  In my experience this is often because others consider them to be strong and self reliant person, thus not realising that they too need support.

Therefore sometimes you need to speak up with your friends and let them know how you feel.  Explain to them your needs and what you require from them.   When clients have done this they have been surprised how much their friends didn’t realise they were needed and how much they were loved.

 

Acceptance

Consider the Yin / Yang of your situation.  The familiar Taoist yin/yang symbol is a symbol which reminds us of the dualities in life, and that such dualities create the whole.

It reminds us that every aspect of life has an equal opposite.  Such as male, female; sun, moon; earth, water; good, bad and positive, negative.  One aspect cannot exist without it’s reverse.

When we see the polarities of a situation in equal amounts we become balanced about the situation, person, place or thing.  It is when we are in such balance that we also are at peace about that and thus have acceptance.

So see the benefits / drawbacks of what you are feeling lonely about.  Make sure you have more than 15 benefits and ideally 50.  Also ensure that you have equal (if not more) benefits to help you shift into acceptance.

Have a goal or purpose

Rather than wait until <x> happens, start right now to live your life to it’s fullest.  What have you been putting off?  or what haven’t you had time for?  Rather than be immersed in your loneliness use this time to achieve things for yourself.

When you have a goal it gives you something positive to focus on and whatever you focus on you will attract more of.  It also gives you a something to spend your time on as well as give you a sense of fulfilment

Read more about goal setting:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/11/06/goals-ignite-your-inner-navigation/

Live with sound

If / when you are home alone, turn on the radio or play your favourite CD.  Fill the void with  positive sounds and vibrations.

One of the core concepts of sound healing is that a strong vibration will cause a weaker vibration to vibrate at the stronger frequency. Therefore the right vibrations and sounds can help to help restore your natural equilibrium.

Other ideas are:

  • Connect with others – Contact friends, family or associates whom you haven’t spoken to for a while.
  • Get out and about – This might include visiting people, going for a walk, sitting at your local cafe or library or even going out to social functions.
  • Be a part of the community – Consider a new hobby and/or learning something that interests you.  You might join a local club or association.
  • Volunteering – Get the focus off you and onto others by volunteering.  Its also a great way to connect with like minded people.
  • Consider getting or caring for a pet –pets are wonderful companions and can provide comfort and support during times of stress, ill-health or isolation.  If you can’t have your own there are plenty of options where you can take someone else’s pet for a walk.

 

The key to combating loneliness is taking action.  However if after trying these techniques you are still struggling with building loneliness then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Resilience

Creating and Living with Resilience

No matter how much personal development or “work” we do on ourselves there will always be people, situations or things that happen which will stress, challenge and most likely upset us.  Resilience is the one thing that makes a major difference to how well we “bounce back” from such times.

Resilience is the ability to adapt, overcome and rebound from less than easy life events and experiences.  To be able to change and approach how we view and address such situations as effectively and beneficially as possible.

It has often been described as an art and perhaps it is, however I more so consider it to be a quality that anyone can create.  Resilience can be described as a choice; a choice to rise beyond adversity.

To transcend the pain, stress and unhappiness to develop mastery over how something affects you.  To develop a strong self worth and belief within yourself and your capabilities.  Thus to know that you can handle anything that comes your way.

Benefits of resilience

Due to our personal history, influential people in our life and the environment we have been brought up in, resilience will vary from person to person.  Also during our lifetime our resilience can fluctuate.

So whilst some people will be more resilient than others, most people will need to develop this trait.  The most common way to do this is to experience challenging situations however there are methods we can consciously engage to help build resilience.

Individuals who have resilience tend to:

  • have a positive “self” relationship (self confidence, self worth, self belief, self respect and self love)
  • be in control of and manage their emotions effectively
  • accept that life is a balance of  “Yin / Yang” (good and not so good AND there is good in the not so good)
  • have self awareness of their reactions in order to change them
  • understand the motivation behind others reactions and behaviours
  • believe they can influence situations
  • live in an empowered mindset rather than a victim mentality
  • seek solutions rather than problems
  • are effective listeners and communicators
  • develop networks and ask for help when needed

Building Resilience

As previously mentioned anyone can build resilience if they choose to.  For some, due to their circumstances and adversities, they may already have resilience however they may not have acknowledged it.

So perhaps the first step is to consider and acknowledge where you actually do have resilience. What are those situations where you’ve been able to demonstrate the above traits?

Other ways to build resilience are:

  • Start each day with being heart unified.  Place your hands in your heart area.  This helps to bring your consciousness from your head into your heart.  Now consider what are you (or could you be) grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What happened today or yesterday that you are thankful for?  What makes you happy?  or makes you smile?
  • Keep a success journal.  For how we suggest to do this, read our article:  Inner Sage Article – Journalling
  • Know yourself to Love yourself.  List your positive traits and strengths.  Now list your negative traits.  Now what are the positives / benefits of those negative traits.
  • Redefine what perfection is.  Know there is perfection in imperfection and consider this:  how do you know that what you consider as “imperfection” is not actually perfect?!!
  • Nurture yourself, do something that is just for you
  • Connect with like minded people and/or spend time with people who make you laugh and feel good
  • Consider what is in your sphere of influence and what is not.  Give energy only to those things that you can influence and/or change.  Let go of what you can’t.
  • Learn something new.  Not only does it help make new neurological pathways it also shows you that you ARE capable
  • Do something “fearful” each day.  By doing so we are teaching ourselves to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.  Each time building your confidence muscle that you CAN achieve things
  • Make a list of what you’ve been putting aside and do one thing each day
  • Consider the benefits or upside of a stressful / challenging situation, person, etc.  What is the lesson or insight that it provides for you

Resilience is similar to Rome, it wasn’t built in one day.  If you are serious to building it then you will need to commit to taking actions on a regular basis.  When you do this you will find the easier it does become to bounce back from those challenging and stressful situations.

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with building resilience then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

 

 

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Funk

Releasing the funk that impedes action

Funk is a word which has many meanings, in fact did you know it derives from a Latin word “fumigare” meaning “to smoke”.   For the purpose of this article it refers to that state of being where a person is feeling flat and demotivated, thus leading them to evade or avoid certain tasks.

Its important to understand that funks are a perfectly normal part of life.  It is the Yin/Yang ; the balance of life.  Which means if / when you find yourself in a funk there will be a reason for it.  Often when I find myself in a funk it is usually because I’ve been working too much and my funk reminds me I need to take time out.

Many years ago when I’d find myself in a funk, I would fight it.  I’d do everything I could to avoid and evade the feelings until one day I decided to stop fighting it.  I started to be aware that my funk had many benefits to it.

I noticed that when I was “funking” it was the only time I would ask for help and reach out to my friends.   My funk also helped me to come up with brilliant ideas, strategies and insights.  Also it was my catalyst to nurture and take care of myself.

In that moment, where I stopped fighting my funk and allowed it just to be, it vanished.  There is a wonderful saying “what you resist; persists”.  So I noticed that as I embraced the lesson my funk was trying to teach me, it was no longer needed.

Now when it comes to life lessons, I can be a slow learner, thus yes the lesson (and funk) has occasionally reappeared.  However never to the depths that it had previously.  This is because when my funk appears I now know the funk has a purpose and usually its to remind me that there is something I need to be doing which I haven’t been.

So your funk has a reason too, it’s trying to get your attention so you can learn a lesson and/or gain insights.  Maybe its to take time out or perhaps you taken enough time out.  That it’s time to set goals and take action.  It could be that your funk is reminding you to be grateful for what you have.  

Another possibility is that your funk is reminding you that you need to connect with the earth and ground yourself? or to be aware of what you are thinking, believing and focusing on.   Just know that whatever the message is for you, will be right for you.

The way to find purpose in your funk is to simply ask:  What is the purpose of me feeling this way today? or  What is it I most need today?  or  What is the lesson or information I need to move forward?

Our divine self speaks to us directly and indirectly.   So be aware that the answers may not come to you straight away.  To trust that the information you need will be revealed, at the right time.

Also indirect guidance and answers might come via words / insights of someone else.  It could be words written in a book, or via a song.  Your job is to ask the question, be open to the response and allow for it to be revealed.  The more relaxed your are the easier it will come.

Whilst you wait for your specific guidance regarding your funk, there are still things you can do to support yourself in shifting and moving forward.

Gratitude

In her book Thrive, Arianna Huffington writes how gratitude exercises can have tangible benefits. She notes that, “According to a study by researchers from the University of Minnesota and the University of Florida, having participants write down a list of positive events at the close of a day — and why the events made them happy — lowered their self-reported stress levels and gave them a greater sense of calm at night.”

I believe the reason for this is because it gets you to change your focus.  there are three elements, one of which focus is, that you can change in order to change how you are feeling.

So make a list; what is good in your life right now?  What is it that you are or can be grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What is it that you love doing that makes you happy?  What made you smile today?

 

Get into nature

Being outside has many different being.  Most of it which it enables you to ground yourself.  Grounding has both spiritual and physical benefits.  Grounding is the process of connecting yourself to the earthly plane and bonding with mother earth. Native American’s believe that mother earth is the source of all life and is a great teacher to be observed, listened to and respected. Her energy is nurturing and restoring, assisting us to bring and give life to our hopes, dreams and ideas.

 Science tells us that the Earth is abundant with energy, particularly electrons, which have powerful supply of antioxidant effects.   When you connect with the ground, preferably via bare feet, you are able to absorb large amounts of these electrons. Effectively you resonate at the same vibration as the Earth.

So go to the beach, park or simply go stand outside on the grass with no shoes on.  If you can’t do any of those may be go for a walk and soak in the elements, whether that be the wind, sun or rain.  (If the latter just make sure you have a warm shower afterwards).

 

Set Goals

The origin of the word, goal, has been thought to derive either from the Middle English “gale” meaning “a way or course” or the Old Norse word of “geil” meaning “passage”.  Goals thus can be considered as a guiding tool which guide and keep us on course or provide the passage to where we want to be or what we want to have.   As well as a way to measure and track how we are progressing.

Imagine setting sail to sea without any co-ordinates as to where your destination will be.  Whilst you will find a destination it may not be the destination you were after and you may waste a lot of time and energy in getting there.

This is a great analogy of what life is like without goals.  Whilst we are sailing through life and finding ourselves at certain “destinations” they aren’t always the ones we really want to be at or desire.  In addition to this we’ve often wasted a lot of energy in the journey of getting to such destination, as the course taken may not have been as direct as it could have been.  Energy which could have easily been used more effectively.

Goals have an explainable magnetic quality that can attract situations, people and opportunities in order to support you achieving them.  I personally believe that goals are a way to tell the Universe / God / Angels (whomever or whatever you believe in) what it is you want.

If you are unsure of how to set goals perhaps our simple course on goal setting could help:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/goal-setting-made-simple/preview

 

Read an inspirational book or watch a movie

Sometimes we need to simply stop and take time out.  So why not sit in your favourite place and utilise that time in a productive way.  Stories about others can help us get re-inspired.

Most movies and books based on true stories have a message of “against all odds” achievement.  That have insights of vulnerability, courage and motivation.  That no matter what life has or is throwing you that things CAN change and that you can too.

Some of our favourites are:  In the pursuit of Happyness, The Blind Side,  Moneyball, Loosing my Virginity, Daring Greatly and Big Magic.

 

 

Exercise

Whether it is going to the gym or getting out for a walk it doesn’t the matter.  Exercise is about getting your body moving in a way that suits you.

When you exercise it helps pump blood to the brain and it also releases the “feel good” endorphins and serotonin.  It also helps to increase the size of the hippocampus, the functions of which are to regulate emotions and to access long term memories.

In addition, exercise also helps create / increase the connections of the brain’s neurons which also helps with focus, ideas and solutions.

Success journal

Scientific evidence indicates that when a person writes they access both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, which means we are able to transform and morph from situations yet too we are able to apply different methodology and solutions.

Spend 5-10 minutes listing all the achievements you have had during your day.

Remembering that many things constitute as successes and it is idea for you to record all of them, no matter how big or small.

What constitutes as an action worthy of recording are those actions you don’t usually take for example  if you only drink three glasses of water and drink four that constitutes as a success.  If you manage to start writing a report that you have been putting off, that constitutes as a success.

I’ve used this tool personally and with many clients.  It works brilliantly as a re-focusing and motivational tool.

Self Care

Many people find nurturing themselves quite difficult, with a lot of people not even sure how to nurture themselves.  Self care can come in many forms and it is doing in in a way that is best for you.

It might be going and getting your hairs or nails done, it might be simply doing that yourself.  It could be taking your make up off at night, eating the right foods, or drinking water.  It could be having a massage or seeing your kinesiologist.  It could be going for a walk or sitting at the beach and having an ice cream.

Self care doesn’t necessarily mean spending lots of money yet it could.  It is whatever is going to help you feel loved, supported and cared for.  My favourite is buying myself flowers.

 

Change your environment

A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  For something to change; something needs to change.  Changing your environment relates to many aspects of yourself and life.

It could be changing:

  • the environment of your mind, what you focus on and what you talk about.
  • what you put into your body as in the food you eat, what you drink (or what you don’t eat and drink)
  • your location (inside v’s outside, change of scenery, going to a different cafe or the library)
  • the people in your life or the place in which you work.

 

Remember that funks are a normal part of life, everyone experiences them to some level.  The key is to making sure your funk doesn’t go too low and doesn’t last too long.  Sometimes one of the suggestions may work and at other times you might need to use a combination.  Just know that when you are doing something you are taking action and that action will help support you in taking the action you want to be taking.

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Self Confidence

Building self confidence for empowerment

Self confidence isn’t something you can buy off a self.  It is a way of being which you create, or perhaps access, internally.

To possess self confidence is to have belief, trust, faith and an assiduity in who you are and/or your abilities.  It is an internal state about what  you think and feel about  yourself.  Also depending on what is happening around you, and how you process / respond to those situations, people, etc means that your self confidence is a changeable state.

Building self confidence gives you a tool you can draw upon to stop second-guessing yourself,  to release doubts, manage your fears and to take action.  Self confidence can be likened to a muscle; in that the more you use it the more you strengthen it!

Commonly I have found with clients, when asked what do you need to do to build their self confidence, their response to be “I don’t know”.  For some it is such a foreign concept and thus they don’t know where to start.

Here are some tried and proven ways to build your self confidence:

  • Focus.  At the end of the day review what you achieved and/or what you did well.  Place your focus on what you are doing, rather than what you aren’t doing.
  • Recognise and celebrate your achievements – it’s healthy to do so!
  • Self Talk.  Become aware of how you speak and what you say to yourself.  If it isn’t positive “cancel / delete” it and say something nice to yourself.
  • Exercise.  Go for a walk, run or to the gym.  Yoga, swimming, whatever exercise that makes you feel good.
  • Posture.  Stand tall, shoulders back and head high.  Scientific studies show that posture impacts the brain!
  • Learn something new.  Not only does it help make new neurological pathways it also helps show you that you can grasp new information.
  • Do something “fearful” each day.  By doing so we are teaching ourselves to “feel the fear and do it anyway”.  Each time building your confidence muscle that you CAN achieve things.
  • Smile.  According to science smiling increases endorphin’s which in turn create positive emotions; including confidence!
  • Know yourself.  Understand all aspects of who you are; what your strengths are as well as what you consider your less than great traits are.  The next step is to find the benefits to these “weaknesses”.  When you know who you are and love all aspects of who you are then no one else can affect you.
  • Trust your instincts.  We all have an innate knowing within, learn to listen to it and have faith in what you feel is right / wrong.
  • Emanate someone who is confident.  Consider someone you respect and whom you feel is confident.  Identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and how you can embrace that.
  • Stop comparing yourself.  When your compare yourself, you automatically put your self down and discount your own positive aspects.
  • Get clear on the things and people that truly matter to you.  Create a list of the things  or people you have been tolerating and then consider what action you need to take to either remove or minimise the impact.
  • Manual control.  Disengage your auto pilot and be mindful about your decisions so they reflect what really matters to you.
  • Create an action plan.  Be deliberate about action you will take and commit to following through.  Ensure you acknowledge the actions and benefits so you can see your progress.  It helps grow confidence and give self reinforcement.

Being confident isn’t a goal or an end-point that you reach and then stop.  It is an ongoing and continuous process.   Confidence can be likened to a flowering plant.  It doesn’t flower on command, instead after being nourished via various ways it flourishes; over and over again.

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with your self confidence then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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