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Lost self

Reclaiming your lost self

The self relationship is the most important relationship you have.  It relates to how you treat yourself.  Your self love; self worth; self confidence, self value and self respect. It is the basis and foundation that determines how you interact with others.

So it would go without saying that it is vital to have a healthy self relationship if you are to lead a happy, fulfilled and empowered life.  As well as having healthy professional and / or personal relationships.

Many people have never been given the tools or foundation to create a healthy self relationship.  And for many who have, or are in the process of building this, can tend to easily get lost.  Which results in them loosing or letting go of their sense of self. 

Whilst this can occur in any situation it is more prevalent in romantic relationships.  And something I often hear is women (yet man can too) “I don’t know who I am, I’ve lost me”.  When we loose our self we loose the essence of what that person fell in love with.

From working with so many clients I have come to understand that whether it is in a work environment, friendship or romantic relationship that when a person has lost themselves they become unhappy in the situation and often want to make change and move on.

Are you feeling lost?

The main things that contribute to a person being or feeling lost are:

  • Not maintaining healthy boundaries;
  • Putting the others priorities and needs constantly before your own;
  • Loosing sight of your own goals;
  • Contradicting your own values and beliefs; and
  • Not keeping your own commitments to yourself
Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are simply what you are and are not willing to accept from others.  It is the threshold of what is ok, which allows you feel empowered, joyful, at peace and in alignment with your true self.

As boundaries are fundamentally what is, and isn’t, ok for us.  They will differ for each person.  Usually it is what we really need to say no to rather than saying yes.  As long as your boundaries do not purposefully hurt another, they can never be right or wrong.

Boundaries determine:

  • the degree in which we will allow someone into our personal space, physically, emotionally and spiritually;
  • the nature of treatment and behaviour that we find acceptable and appropriate;
  • what we allow or disallow;
  • whether we are giving our power and energy to another; and
  • how loving we treat ourselves and how loving we can be towards others.

They really are the most loving thing we can have and implement for ourselves and others.  Because when we don’t we ultimately become resentful of that person or place.

Priorities and Needs

Whilst it is healthy to take into the consideration of others priorities and needs, in all relationships it is important.  However when it is continually at the detriment of your own then you are fundamentally saying you are not important. 

Priorities can be your friends, clients, writing, reading, going to the beach.  The things, people and places that contribute to your happiness and what makes you YOU. 

Needs are what you require in order to live a healthy life or have a healthy relationship.  Most people accept what is on offer settling for less than what they need. 

Goals

Humans are teleological, which means we have a natural, inbuilt goal seeking drive.  If we are not out seeking our own goals we tend to help and support others to seek theirs.  Which often happens in careers and relationships. 

Of course we can support others in their goals however not to the point where we put our own aspirations and goals on the back burner.

Values and Beliefs

Your identity, who you are, the choices you make and how you distinguish your self is determined by what your values are.  Values are the elemental principles that you live by.  They epitomise what is important to you and are closely supported by your beliefs.

They can be describe by a word or short sentence such as:

  • Courage
  • Integrity
  • Making a difference
  • Abundance
  • Gaining knowledge
  • Love
  • Success

From the ages of 7-14 you are in the “Modelling” period of your life.  What this means is you will consciously or unconsciously chose a person or people to emulate and therefore take on many of that person’s values and beliefs. 

Values determine your choices, your behaviour and thus the actions you do or do not take.

When our value systems do not match with someone else you tend not to like them.  So in order to be liked you may change your values to match theirs.  However when you go against what it is you values you will create dissonance (conflict) within your self, which fundamentally makes you unhappy with your self and others.

Self Commitments

Your primary and main commitment must be to yourself first.  It is your duty and responsibility to keep promises you have made to yourself.  As well as standing by your decisions.

This is not about being selfish and it is not about being selfless.  Neither end of the scale are healthy.  What is healthy is ensuring there is a balance between both.    Because if you are not filling up your own cup first you will not have the required energy to keep yourself healthy whilst filling up others.

Primary commitment to your self means honouring who you are and who you are not.  Being your own champion by supporting yourself; advocating yourself and protecting yourself.  Much of which is done by prioritising yourself; ensuring you are meeting your needs; taking actions towards your goals and standing by your own values and beliefs. 

Yet too it is following through on the promises, tasks and arrangements you have made for yourself.  Not putting them aside because some thing of a lesser importance also needs doing.

Re-Claiming your Lost self

If you have lost yourself consider in what way specifically you have lost you.  What is it that you have stopped doing that brings you joy and makes you happy?  Perhaps re-read over the above and make notes as to how each of the five areas resonate with you. 

What are you doing or giving your energy to (or perhaps who) that doesn’t make you feel good?  Then consider what actions you need to take, what support do you need or what could you put in place to change this.

Consider, and remind yourself, who you actually are instead of who you are not. A client said “I’ve just got to accept I am insecure’.  I said “With what I observe, you are one of the most confident and secure people I know.”   Too often people have a negative sense or view of them self which is not a true perception.

From a spiritual sense reclaim your self by calling your spirit back.  Whenever we interact with some one or thing we exchange energy and we can leave fragments of our energy.  Calling your spirit back is a Native American concept to return your fragmented your energy which has been left with people, places and situations, so that you are able to be whole. 

In the times that I have found the need to call back my own spirit, I have felt a shift in my energy and a return of inner strength.  It has enabled me to let go of matters that were playing in my head and that were lowering my vibration.  It has also helped me to remember who I am and embrace it.

Calling your spirit back is a very simple process and can be done by stating out loud “I call back my spirit.  I command all fragments of my spirit left in other places, times and dimension or with other people and events to return to me right now.  As those parts of my spirit integrate in my being, they are cleansed and revitalised, invigorating and renewing my spirit as a whole”

Many people easily loose themselves, even when they know the concept.  In my observations both men and women do it; yet women tend to be better at it??!!  Raising your awareness is a great antidote for not getting lost as well as creating habits that honour yourself.

Also it is usually a pattern that has been created in childhood and reinforced over the years.  The goods news:  when you reinforce a new pattern of maintaining your self so you are unlikely to loose yourself again, in time, it just becomes the new standard.

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with your the process to reclaiming yourself then consider kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Healing process

Understanding the process and sequence of healing

Being on my own healing journey, as well as supporting others on their own,  I’ve often wondered what is the reason healing doesn’t happen, per say, overnight.  Why, despite all the work done to release an issue, that it either so much time and effort to be healed. Can reappear in other ways or not be 100% released.  What is the reason it usually takes several sessions of healing related to the same issue before we are liberated from it. Seeking to understand the process of healing.

The common analogy used to describe the healing process is the layers of an onion.  As in with an onion when you keep peeling the layers back you get to the core.  That too with healing as you peel back a layer, which in healing involves having acceptance of what is and what has been, letting go and integrating the lesson, you get to the core matter and healing is able to occur.

So whilst I believe this to be somewhat true of healing I don’t believe it is the best analogy to explain the reason healing takes time and/or the healing process.

Recently I saw this saying “Healing unfolds in its own time; it doesn’t look to a calendar or clock for direction” (unknown).    After having worked on several aspects of an issue, I personally came to understand that in divine timing the healing just falls into place.  Just like <snap of the fingers> that.  Similar to how a mechanical puzzle works. In that all the parts are interlinked and once the parts are in the right place the puzzle becomes whole and/or unlocks.

Each healing session can be considered as interlinked parts of the puzzle / greater picture. Knowing that each and every session has its own merit because it is critical to uncovering information required for the process of healing.     And as with a combination lock once all the parts of the code are obtained, in the right and correct order, healing occurs to be the new way of being.

The trauma, grief, pain, etc that occurs from people; situations; places; things fundamentally creates stress.  That stress winds into the body and we hold it mentally; emotionally; spiritually; physically and/or chemically.    Hence the reason it is important to have a modality (yes such as kinesiology) which helps unwind such stress from all aspects of who we are ~ mind; body and spirit.

Once stress is unwound from the body we then need to process it in order to release it as well as integrate the benefit thereof.  Sometimes that process can be very gentle however at times a person can have an adverse reaction to healing.  Which means their processing can be emotionally overwhelming.  The processing can be draining or they can have physical detoxing symptoms.   

If healing one aspect of an issue can have such an impact, imagine what healing the whole matter in one go would have on a person.  The processing would be extreme and too overwhelming for a person to move through.  Resulting in the healing having an opposing effect.  

Thus it is highly unlikely the person’s physical; mental; emotional systems could cope with such an overload of healing.   Resulting in likely burn out and them simply giving up or retreating from the world.    This being a main reason we don’t heal major issues in one session.

The process of how stress winds into our body and with healing how it is unwound out is very similar to the Fibonacci sequence / Golden Ratio / Sacred Geometry.    All of which are principles that describe the inner workings of nature and the Universe. 

These principles provide order to that which seems chaotic.  Indicating there is an intelligent design and blueprint in all that exists.  That there is no random way to which we grow. 

Cross cut of DNA

In nature we easily find these unfolding patterns and spirals; as in plants, shells, flowers and weather patterns.   The same natural patterns are found in the human body, such as our brainwaves, DNA and structures.  When you look at the cross cut of DNA it looks like a flower and the golden ratio pattern is easily seen.

When we apply this principle to healing we understand there is a natural pattern and progression which needs to unfold in order for us to have growth and evolution.    As with the Fibonacci sequence (Golden Ratio, Sacred Geometry) each session of healing combines with the previous one to provide the structure and foundation for the next stage. 

Meaning that the healing occurs in alignment with the universal order of nature, so too we follow the pattern for natural evolution to achieve universal and natural order within ourselves.  

By accepting there is a natural order to healing, a process of healing, we more easily allow for the uncovering and alignment of the code.  Such code which as with the combination lock analogy when in the right place and order gives us the key for healing to be activated.  We calibrate and align with the higher aspect of who we are to live with bliss, empowerment and ease!

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with your healing process then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Wounds

Time does not heal wounds

Grief is an emotion which is not only attributed to someone dying.  In fact it is associated with any change and adjustment, particularly those of a major and/or emotional nature.

When a person is experiencing grief typically those around them (friends, family, associates) are unsure of how to brooch the topic, uncertain of what to say, or what do.   One statement which is typically used is that “time heals all wounds”.

However after working with many clients and seeing close friends experience grief I disagree with this popular adage.  To believe that time does not heal your wounds.  Rose Kennedy was quoted:  “It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone.”

Molecules of Emotion

Dr Candace Pert PhD, neuropharmacologist, stated:   “A feeling sparked in our mind-or body-will translate as a peptide being released somewhere.  [Organs, tissues, skin, muscle and endocrine glands],  they all have peptide receptors on them and can access and store emotional information. This means the emotional memory is stored in many places in the body, not just or even primarily, in the brain. You can access emotional memory anywhere in the peptide/receptor network, in any number of ways. I think unexpressed emotions are literally lodged in the body.  The real true emotions that need to be expressed are in the body, trying to move up and be expressed and thereby integrated, made whole, and healed.”

Time can either do one of two things;

  1. push the painful emotions and memories down to keep them at bay so they are not fresh in your conscious mind; or
  2. gives you the opportunity to discover techniques which makes it easier to navigate your wounds, grief and pain.

Which means those who are electing for option 1 (above) will simply store the emotions, replaying and duplicating their grief within the coding of their cells.   Such information /  wounding festers waiting for the “right” opportunity to bubble to the surface, which typically is at an inopportune moment.

Ultimately allowing time to heal the wound is a dis-empowering and unhealthy option.  The emotions need to be expressed in order to be released.  In having awareness of what the emotion is, we can name the emotion and therefore explore the emotion.  This is how we move forward.

Navigating Grief

There are various techniques (see below) which can help a person to navigate grief.  Yet the first step is understanding the stages of grief.  Through her extensive research Elizabeth Kúbler-Ross, a Swiss-American psychiatrist and pioneer in near-death studies,  determined the Five Stages of Grief, which are:

Denial

Denial is a conscious or unconscious to not being willing to accept the situation where the person can isolate themselves due to their refusal of the situation.  It can be due to their disbelief that the situation is happening and tends to be a defence mechanism which is masking the person’s shock of the situation.

Anger

A person will use anger as an emotion to deflect from their vulnerability of the situation and it can manifest in various ways.  They can be angry at themselves, at those close to them or those who were involved in the situation.  Endeavouring to be non-judgement with those in this stage of grief and remaining detached can assist both, all, parties.

Bargaining

This is where the person yearns for what has been lost and is categorised by the “if only” or “what if” statements. It’s where we want the situation to return to what we knew it to be, to be able to go back in time and do something different so a positive outcome happens.  Guilt is often an emotion experienced in this stage, as the person thinks of what they could have done and feel guilty for not having done it.

Depression

Here the person is preparing to bid farewell and is an indicator that the person has begun to accept the reality of the situation.  It can be described as acceptance with emotional attachment and it is natural for the person to experience feelings of sadness and regret, fear and uncertainty.

Acceptance

Usually this stage is marked by a calmness and acknowledgement of the situation, recognising that this is their reality and thus now living with the permanence of the change.  The person has re-adjusted to life as they now know it and are allowing themselves to make new connections and to enjoy life again.

Grief is a very personal thing and everyone grieves differently.  The stages do not necessary occur in a specific order, nor is there a time limit or potency set for each stage.  Also it is possible for a person to experience a stage more than once.

Tools for navigation grief

Kinesiology

Being a kinesiologist, I think it natural for this to be my number one suggestion for moving through grief.  The main reason being because it’s NOT a one size fits all solution.  Rather a kinesiology session is personalised to the individual as a kinesiologist uses the client’s own innate wisdom as to what is needed to shift and move through their grief.

Via muscle testing, a kinesiologist seeks the underlying emotion which is causing the imbalance or blockage of energy flow.  Therefore sometimes it actually isn’t the emotion that you logically think it is.  As mentioned previously when you can name the emotion (correctly)  you are able to explore and process through it.

More information can be found about kinesiology via:  What is Kinesiology?

Write & Burn

Scientific evidence shows that when a person writes they are accessing both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, meaning we are able to transform and transcend situations.   James Pennebaker, a professor at the University of Texas undertook over forty years of research as to how journalling helped the individual to process significant emotional experiences.  His researched demonstrated that by spending 20 minutes per day journalling participants experienced significant improvements physically and mentally.

Unlike journalling, the concept of writing and burning is that whatever you are about to write you will not be keeping.  What I like about this is that when we know we aren’t going to keep it , and thus no one will ever see what we have written, we tend to get more honest on the page.

In addition to this the act of burning the page/s is symbolic and ritualistic.  It takes the written page and transforms it into ash, something the earth can re-cycle for a positive purpose.

Make time for Silence

Research shows that silence has many positive benefits.  Silence can be meditation however is not limited to that.  Silence can simply be spending time on your own without distractions.

Benefits of silence is:

It helps the hippocampus to grow new brain cells.  The hippocampus is an important part of the Lymbic system and is involved in the formation, organisation and storage of memories.  It is also involved with learning and the formation of emotions.

Silence works to balance our left and right brains, which results in whole brain synchronisation.  Thus neither our emotions or logic overwhelm the other.  This assists the brain in the sorting of information, enabling us to gather and process information.

The positive impact to important body and brain chemicals.  Such as  Melatonin; known as the “sleep molecule”.  It is known to is known to inhibit cancer, strengthen the immune system and slow down the ageing process.

Serotonin; known as the  “happy” neurotransmitter because it has a profound impact on our moods.  It is also thought to help regulate mood and social behaviour, appetite and digestion, sleep, memory, and sexual desire and function.

GABA;  is known as the “calm chemical” as it helps to control fear and anxiety.  It sends chemical messages throughout the brain and the nervous system and plays an important role in behaviour, perception, awareness, comprehension as well as how the body response to stress.

DHEA;  which is known as the “longevity molecule” as it counteracts cortisol.   It also helps lower depression, sadness and irritability.  It helps increase our ability to deal with stress and reduces worrying.  It also helps increase motivation and energy levels.

Endorphins;  the “natural high” hormone.  As they interact with the opiate receptors in the brain to reduce our perception of pain, similar to how morphine and codeine work.

Growth Hormone which sustains our tissues and organs, helping keeping them “youthful”.

Cortisol, which is one of the major stress hormones, is reduced.  Too much can wears down the body (and brain).  Destroying healthy muscle and bone, blocking the creation of good hormones.  It can create anxiety, depression, increased blood pressure, brain fog, insomnia and inflammation.

 

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with processing through your grief then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Psychic

Developing your psychic / intutive abilities

It is my belief that we all have psychic abilities.  That we all are naturally intutive and have the ability to be psychic.  However similarly to playing the piano; where some will sit down and have a natural ability to play beautiful, others will have to practice and develop their ability.

Often I am asked by clients how can they develop their ability and to be honest I believe it is much simpler than we make it out to be.  However, for most, as it does with any new skill it takes dedication and time to developing it.

Being intuitive is about listening to your inner wisdom; your inner navigation system.  It is also the basis from which we grow our psychic abilities.  Being psychic is the ability to communicate with the spirit world and receive guidance from them.

However before starting with any development it is important to understand and implement the three fundamentals of:  Grounding; Protection and cleansing.   These fundamentals help give you a strong foundation from which you can grow and develop your skills.

Here is a quick overview of these fundamentals and you can find more details in separate blogs for each topic.  Each blog also has suggestions and exercises.

Grounding:  is the process of connecting and anchoring yourself to the earthly plane.  In order to bring information into existence from the “energetic / heavenly” plane we must be grounded.  It is similar to the reason electricity must be grounded – in order for the current to be distributed.  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/03/16/grounding/

Protection:   is the safeguarding of your energy fields in order to keep their energy clear of another’s.  Just as I would not leave my door open, because anyone could walk in, so too we need to ensure our energy field is not being kept susceptible to others energy impeding our own.  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/03/25/spiritual-basics-protection/

Cleansing:  Just us our physical body regularly needs cleansing both internally and externally to ensure we don’t get a build up of filth (externally) or toxins (internally), so too does our energetic bodies.  Cleaning ensures we clear the build up of residue which doesn’t serve our best interests.  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/2016/04/30/spiritual-basics-cleansing/

 

Exercises for Increasing your Intuition / Psychic abilities

MEDITATION

Meditation put simply is the act of taking time out with the aim to quiet your mind.    Meditation is the essence of mindfulness, which is described as a state of being actively in the present, observing thoughts and feelings from a distance without judgement of them.

Thus it can be considered as an act of contemplation, reflection and/or prayer where a person focuses their mind with the intention of slowing down and knowing that thoughts will rise, however choosing not to engage with these thoughts.  It is the process of being; in that exact moment in time, free of busyness and distractions, not in the past and not in future, just present moment.

I believe meditation to be one of the most important aspects to enriching your psychic abilities because it gets you out of your head and into your heart.  Our heart is where your inner wisdom; your intuition lives.  The heart is also the gateway to our higher energy centres and the portal to the spirit universe.

You’ll find some free meditation exercises on our education  site:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com

JOURNAL

Scientific evidence indicates that when a person writes they access both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

Journalling is a tool which assists in eliminating the chatter of our minds.  The very act of writing is a releasing process, as the individual is expressing what is going on for them, rather than keeping it locked in, which often impacts on our physical.  By writing we tend to sift and filter our thoughts, rather than let them take control of us.

By journalling we have better chance of accessing our own inner wisdom, our intuition, to do what we know and feel is right for us, rather than speak with others who govern us by their own beliefs and values.

We also begin to learn about our own inner being, knowing who you are v’s who you want to be and enabling you to close the gap, bringing you closer to your authentic self.

EXERCISE #1- Inner Alignment Journalling

Each morning before you get caught up in the flow of the day spend 20 minutes writing non stop.  Don’t think, just write and let the topic naturally emerge.  It can be about whatever comes to you in that moment and the topics can change, you just need to ensure that it is for a full 5 minutes without stopping.

There is no need to re-read or analyse what you are writing, as it is a dedicated time for you to be boundless with your thoughts,  to be YOU and allow whatever is on your mind to be freed.  It can be a list of things you need to do, it can be about an important meeting you have for the day, whatever comes to mind and to your pen.

EXERCISE #2 – Intuition Journalling

Guidance and our intuition can come in various forms.  It can be a gut feeling or innate knowing.  As you develop you may hear your spirit guides “voice” or they may send you images.  Sometimes the messages may be in a sign sent in the physical form of an insect, bird, flower, book or person.

So either during the day or before you go to bed spend 5-10 minutes listing all the incidents where you had an intuitive sense, message and/or guidance.   List when you did listen to the feeling, information or sign and you were correct.  Also list you didn’t listen to it and were you were wrong.

By acknowledging when you did or didn’t listen you are strengthen this skill as well as increasing your ability to listen and trust your intuition and psychic abilities.

GET CREATIVE

Generalising, the left and right hemispheres of our brain process information quite differently. While we have a natural affinity with one way of thinking, the two sides of our brain work are always working together.

Our left brain is our logic and analytic side. It process information sequentially and thinks in words and numbers. It tends to piece information from a detailed perspective.

Whereas the right side of our brain is where our non-verbal, intuitive and creative aspect of our brain. It process information via pictures and is big picture thinking.

In order to build our intuition “muscle” we simply need to engage that side of the brain more purposefully. Via such exercises as meditation, drawing, creative writing, visualising, knitting, playing music and painting.

Creative Brain Exercise

Set time aside this week at least three times to write or draw using your non-dominant hand for at least 15 minutes. When you use your the hand you don’t normally use to write or draw it helps you connect with your creative, intuitive and emotional side.

PREDICTION PLAY

Prediction play is one of my favourite ways to increase your psychic abilities and intuition.  Most likely because it is a chance to have fun with your skills in a safe way.  The aim of this exercise is to guess or predict a result.  For example who is calling you without looking at your phone.

The objective is not necessarily to be right, as it is an exercise to understanding when you are in your head rather than listening to your inner wisdom and/or guidance.

With any of the prediction plays the key is feeling the answer rather than thinking it.  The answers may also come via “hearing” or “seeing”.  Please be aware that you won’t see or hear as you do with your earthly senses.

This exercise helps you to differentiate and understand the nuances of how your intuition speaks with you (it differs with each person) as well as how the universe and your spirit guides can speak with you.

PP Exercises

Here are some suggestions to what you can apply this to:

  • When you have one or more elevators; predict which one is going to arrive first
  • Get three cards (of any kind), turn them over, mix them up and then feel for a specific card
  • When your phone rings, feel who is calling you
  • Guess how much a bill or invoice, which differs in amount each time, will be
  • Predict when the traffic lights will change

 

Being more in alignment with your intuition is incredibly rewarding.  It helps you to trust more in yourself and your own flow.  The ability to confidently steer your own ship and direction.

Whereas being psychic is not for the faint hearted.  The more your increase your abilities the more sensitive you become to the world around you.  Also too I have found there is a level of responsibility which comes with such abilities.  Please know you can develop these to a level which is right with you and you are able to set parameters around how your guides work for you.

Either way, enjoy the journey.

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Self Esteem Wave

Riding the Self-Esteem Wave

Self-esteem is our sense of our own value and self-worth.  Contradictory to what we have been led to believe, our self-esteem is not a stagnant way of being.  In fact most people, especially women, experience fluctuations with their self-esteem.

Likened to an ocean wave when we are on the upside of the fluctuation, we feel confident, love who we are and see our own worth and value.  However on the downside we will second guess ourselves, have doubt and be over critical of ourselves.

Such ups and downs are normal, in fact they are considered as essential as long as we manage them effectively.  As we are reminded by the Yin/Yang symbol, dualities which are seemingly opposite or contrary are actually complementary and interconnected.  Dualities in life, and they are everywhere, cannot exist without the other.  Thus dualities ~ such as the ups and downs ~ are required to be whole.

The more acceptance you have that the self-esteem fluctuation happens, as well as understanding it is normal, the more likely you are to minimise the depth and frequency of the “wave”.  When you can “ride the wave” you are able to allow flow and let go.  When we allow flow we also allow synchronicity.

It is important to know and accept that when you are on the downside of the fluctuation (wave) this is when your negative emotions, baggage, “stuff”, things you’ve not dealt with are more likely to present.

What exactly are your emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007).

The word emotion originates from the French word “emouvoir” which means to excite.  As well as the Latin word “emovere” which means to move.  Your emotions serve to motivate you to take action (move) towards things that excite you.  Emotions also serve for you to take action in order to survive and thus keep yourself safe from danger.

Running from, not dealing with, or pushing your emotions away only makes them stronger and persistent in trying to get your attention.  It’s the adage,  whatever you resist, persists. Your emotions then control you, rather than you be in control of them.

Whilst it is important to take actions that build your self-esteem, it is also important to understand that the downside of the wave is an important time for you to undertake emotional spring cleaning.

When you seek to understand the reasons as to why the emotions are presenting themselves; by being compassionate and nurturing yourself you loosen their grip in order to achieve release and healing.

Ways to undertake emotional spring cleaning

  1. Acknowledge how you are feeling and what it is you are thinking or focusing on to make you feel that way.  Consider is this just a “story” you are telling yourself and what evidence do you have that it is a truth?  and/or what could be equally if not more so true
  2. Recognise what it is that you need right now and give that to yourself.  Is it loving words of support from  yourself?  Is it time in nature?  To go shopping and treat yourself?  To take time out and go to the beach or to read a good book?
  3. Grab a pen and paper and write.  Consider what event, situation, place or person the emotions relate to and allow the words to flow onto the page, getting raw and honest with  yourself.  How do you feel about what happened?  What has been left unresolved?  What was the impact?  What were the negatives?  and what were the positives (yes there will be some)?  and what are the insights you need to release and let it go?
  4. Find a nice patch of grass or sand and stand on it barefoot.  Connect in with the earth energy and imagine the negative emotions as well as anything that relate to them releasing from your body down through the soles of you feet into the core of the earth where this negativity will be transformed and transmuted.

 

When you can accept that your self-esteem will fluctuate and that this is normal, as well as be vulnerably brave to address and heal what you need to, you will find that  you have greater distance in between the fluctuations.

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Kinesiology

Feeling great…How Kinesiology can still benefit you

Many of my clients will say “I’m feeling great, I don’t think I need to come” or “I’m not sure what we can work on”.  This is fantastic as it means Kinesiology is working for them!  However it also made me realise that there is a misconception that kinesiology is ONLY a healing modality.

Kinesiology is also a modality which you can use to be proactive to maintaining your great space.  To understand the reason kinesiology is also beneficial when you are feeling great, lets consider the history of and what kinesiology is.

Yet too it is important to understand that stress is wound into the body, kind of like a cork screw.  So when you have a balance only a certain amount of stress can be released and unwound in that time frame.  This means that when you go back to your every day, depending on how much stress you encounter AND the severity of that stress, additional stress could be  wound into your physical, mental or spiritual bodies.

What is kinesiology?

Kinesiology is an energy based modality which has a sound foundation in both Eastern and Western philosophies.   It is a modality which grew predominately in the 1960’s from the contribution of many brilliant men in the Chiropractic field.  Called Applied Kinesiology it was a system only used by those in the field.

In the 1970’s, based on Applied kinesiology, via a system called “Touch for Health” Kinesiology was brought the the “lay” person.  In the 1980’s  this system would be expanded upon to include aspects of Chinese Medicine which would see the more energetic form of Kinesiology be establised.

The word Kinesiology derives from the Greek word “kinesis” meaning movement and “kinein” meaning to move.  Therefore kinesiology could be seen as the science or branch of knowledge related to movement.

Being a modality based on both Western and Eastern philosophies such movement relates to all three aspects of our being:

  • physically / structurally;
  • mentally / emotionally;
  • nutritionally /chemically.

Eastern philosophies seeks movement, and flow, of the meridians, chakras and overall energy. A main philosophy is:  Bu tong ze tong, Tong ze bu tong, which translates: If there is no free flow, there is pain; if there is free flow, there is no pain.

Western philosophies seek movement in relation to the body’s physical motion (or lack of).  Yet movement also relates to the identifiable fluids in the body (lymphatic, blood, cerebrospinal, synovial, etc).

If you consider that Kinesiology was founded via the Chiropractic arm, one of Kinesiology’s main purposes is alignment.  Alignment in all aspects of who you are – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

That leads to the question:   if you are feeling great, how does kinesiology benefit?

Benefits of Kinesiology

Kinesiology has many benefits, overall it activates your innate healing abilities for you to have balance.  Such balance enables you to have greater choices so you can achieve your optimal potential and abilities. 

Here are the reasons for seeing a kinesiologist when you feel great:

Manifesting / Law of Attraction

Kinesiologists do not treat, diagnose or prescribe, what we do is balance your energy system to ensure you are in alignment with what you want to achieve.  Therefore whilst you can be feeling great, you still can have blockages to attracting what you want.

For example one of my clients in her own words feels amazing.  She is confident, knows her self worth, is happy in herself, loves her job and says she is ready for a relationship.  However whilst she is consciously ready, unconsciously she is blocking herself from attracting a relationship.

Via kinesiology she is uncovering, addressing and balancing blocks that she was unaware of which were hindering her in attracting a relationship.

In order to manifest or attract what you want in life, firstly you need to clarify what it is you want and then you need to fully trust it will happen as well as ensure your energy is aligned at the same vibration.

At times when you feel great you will still find that you may not be attracting what you want OR  you are attracting people and situations that are less than ideal.  As your external world is a reflection of your internal one it is likely there is something unknown that needs to be addressed.

Time does not heal

After seeing one of my closest friends loose her father and due to our conversations, I have come to realise that time does NOT heal.  What helps and supports healing is having ways and techniques that you can draw upon as you move forward which makes life easier.

Also in my experiences with clients what helps are techniques which release the imbalance caused by the hurt, grief, anger, etc trapped in the cellular memory.

What this means is that whilst we can be feeling wonderful, if we have a memory or past incident trapped at the cellular memory it can be triggered by a situation, place or person.   Thus you can find yourself reacting without understanding the reason why.

It is better to address what is unconscious, and thus what is unknown to you, rather than to have it show up in a conscious matter which results in a crisis.

Maintaining your good space

Each day in many ways we interact with others as well as with information or situations.  Whether this be in person, via social media, internet or TV.  Therefore we are constantly being bombarded with information and energy.

As kinesiology works on the Triad of health, it is not only your mental health it is helping keep in balance.  It could also be your nutritional / chemical aspect is out of whack or your physical or structural being.

Kinesiology aids you to remain centred and aligned, to keep your energy optimally flowing for all three aspects.  Which can increase and strengthen your resilience therefore building your immunity to others energy and stresses. 

Due to the use of muscle testing, Kinesiology bypasses your cognisant thinking to identify factors in the subconscious, physical and energetic levels.   Therefore you could have unknown stress which could be being triggered or waiting to be triggered.  Therefore not only does kinesiology aim to help you to maintain how you are feeling, it could also enhance it.  It could also mean you are being proactive and release the stress before it becomes known.

 

Overall, even if you are feeling great, regularly kinesiology sessions ensure you are taking charge of your well-being rather than waiting until things have compounded to be problematic.  If you are overdue for a session or haven’t seen a kinesiologist you can use the link below to schedule a session with us.

http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Are you hindering or sabotaging your healing

One of my driving forces is to get results for my clients.  It feeds my soul to know that, together, we are achieving the change they desire (plus more!).

I pleased to say that most of my clients get results, so when I have a client who is hindering or sabotaging their results it leads me to question the reason for this…as well as the solution.  Of which upper levelling is the key.

To understand upper levelling first lets consider the common denominators as to the reason people don’t heal are because they:

    1. are so associated with and defined by their “wounds” that they don’t know what life would be like without them.  To be without them means to change and for some that is fearful;
    2. sabotage their change and find reasons which keep them limited and within their comfort zone;
    3. aren’t releasing “stuff” on all three dimensions;
    1. have beliefs and expectations regarding healing that sabotages their progress; and
  1. are stuck in the “why” either trying to understand the reason <x> has happened or the reason why they are where they are at.

Woundology

The term “woundology” was coined by Caroline Myss to describe how  people define and created an identity via their wounds, whether those wounds be physical, emotional, or social. 

In her book, “Why people don’t heal and how they can” Caroline Myss writes that some people who want to heal “are striving to confront their wounds, valiantly working to bring meaning to terrible past experiences and traumas, and exercising compassionate understanding of others who share their wounds. But they are not healing. They have redefined their lives around their wounds and the process of accepting them. They are not working to get beyond their wounds. In fact, they are stuck in their wounds.”

Thus it is important for you to consider what your new identity would look, sound and feel like.  How do you want to redefine yourself?

Change Barrier

For many people whether they are trying to loose weight, manifest something or heal when making any form of change they reach a limit where they are faced with a block to their change.  Often this will show up as a plateau of some kind. 

This limit is the outer barrier of where your current comfort zone lies.   Whilst many desire to heal and make change they don’t have the tenacity and willpower to push through their limit and barriers.  Thus they will find ways to justify not continuing with the change work.

It is at this point where you are faced with a choice to either sabotage your change so you fall back into our comfort zone OR to push through the limit to make change.

Three Dimensions of healing

To have lasting change we must work on all three aspects of our being.  Humans are three dimensional beings, so it makes sense to use a modality which works on all three aspects, which is what Kinesiology does.  Most modalities are usually only one dimension and in some cases two.  This makes Kinesiology regarded as one of the truly holistic modalities.

A Kinesiologist believes in a methodology called the “triad of health”.  Which means that well being and health is dependent on the harmonious congruency and balance between a client’s Physical / Structural, Emotional / Mental and Nutritional / Chemical aspects.

hp-mainWhen one aspect of the triad of health is imbalanced, then it affects the other sides and therefore areas in our life.  For example a person who chronically worries (mental) may lose their appetite (nutrition is affected) or experience irregularities in their body (physical).

Beliefs

In many of my articles I refer to beliefs.  This is because they are such a driving force of our emotions and behaviours.  Simply put Beliefs are a self fulfilling prophecy.

What we believe creates an expectation of what is likely to happen, this influences our behaviours (as well as how we feel) and then creates the basis of what actions we do or don’t take. In turn the actions or activities that we are doing or not doing will be the result or outcome we achieve.

This means that if you want to change your results or your behaviours, you need be aware of your beliefs to ensure they support what you want to achieve and who you want to be.

Positive / empowering beliefs are permission slips for getting the outcomes you want.

Learn how to change you beliefs with our online course:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/create-supportive-beliefs

The Why

Some get stuck in needing the know the why….the why they are the way they are; the why something happened to them.  Yet any sentence that begins with “why” is seeking justification not healing. 

If an unconscious person with a burst artery goes into emergency the doctors don’t stop to ask why did this happen, they simply move to apply the solution.  They don’t need to know the “why” to apply the healing.

Thus too, we can use the philosophy.  The why isn’t as important as the how.

Upper Levelling to change and heal

Upper levelling is when we push through our limits which is done using techniques that work on mind, body and spirit.   Yet as per Lao Tzu’s quote “A thousand mile journey begins with one step”. 

Be mindful that you might not achieve your desired change “overnight”, it also takes discipline and committed practice to achieve your healing goal.  Which is the first step, defining what it is you want to achieve.  

Once you know what you want to achieve and have a defined goal.  You then need to trust you can achieve this goal and take actions that align you to it.  Ensuring the actions you take are from a mental, physical and spiritual aspect.

Know that it is normal to feel vulnerable with any change.  When you are upper levelling be mindful that the closer you reach the barrier of your comfort zone, the likelihood you’ll feel this.    It is also important that when you reach here you keep moving forward, even if at a gentler pace.  

To move forward means you are taking consistent and authentic actions.  Such actions that extend your limits to elevate your self to a new level – a new way of being and thus making change.

One last thing….remember that any change, even if modest, is a move forward.

If you are still struggling with change and are interested in kinesiology you can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

Alternatively we have designed a process which helps with resetting the emotions.  You can find the link to this at:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/online-courses/

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Openness to receiving rather than allowing

Many healers, coaches and guides often speak about the concept of allowing things to happen, however recently during a meditation I was guided to having openness to receiving, rather than allowing myself to.  I wondered what is the difference, I mean fundamentally are they not the same thing?

Intuitively I can feel the difference between the two, logically I needed to understand what the difference is.  In looking at the definition of both words this becomes clearer as to the power of being open.

www.dictionary.com defines the word allowing as:  Allow, let, permit imply granting or conceding the right of someone to do something. Allow and permit are often interchangeable, but permit is the more positive. Allow implies complete absence of an attempt, or even an intent, to hinder.

Using the Macquarie Concise Dictionary the definition of openness as:  (a) an act or instance of making or becoming open. (b) an act or instance of beginning :commencement

The unseen forces of Spirit and Universal energy are subtle and thus they also give and receive messages in subtle ways.  This is why when you are making changes even slight ones they can have major results.

Thus when you engaged in the action of allowing, in fact you are already implying and giving a subtle indication that you have an intention to hinder.  It also gives a message that you are in control to grant you believe should be.

Recently a client of mine had been manifesting like crazy.  Via regular kinesiology balances she has raised, aligned and maintained her vibration to what she wanted to receive.  The she was being open and trusting what she wanted would happen.

And it was happening.   Things were flowing SO much that she became overwhelmed and triggered an unconscious program which sabotaged her.  Then, and very suddenly, the flow stopped.     Fundamentally she had closed herself off to having openness to receiving.

Basically openness to receiving means you let things flow and if they aren’t you remove the blocks.  This means firstly you need to know what it is that you want, so get specific.  Next surrender yourself to trust beyond any doubt then acknowledge and be grateful for what you do receive.

What often stops people from being open is an impeded flow of energy in their heart chakra and/or meridian.  As an organ our heart is responsible for pumping oxygenated blood through our system, thus providing oxygen and nutrients through out our physical body.  Studies have also shown that our heart emits more energy than our brain.  In fact it sends more messages to the brain than the brain does to the heart.  Thus a vital organ for many reasons.

Metaphysically the heart is considered as the Spiritual centre of the body.  It relates to love, acceptance, calm, peace, trust, forgiveness, radiate, free flowing and circulation.   When the heart energy is flowing a person has openness, is loving, they are engaging, it feels good to be around them, they are empowering and happy of others, they see the blessings and have acceptance of everything.

If the heart energy is blocked then a person can be fearful, condemning, frustrated, impatient, intolerant, distrusting, negative, dis-empowered and competitive.   They will focus on lack, complain and use negative wording.

Thus the best way to have openness to receiving is to ensure your heart energy is flowing and communicating.  Below is a process which enables you to have coherence and connection  in yourself as well as with the unseen energy and infinite energies and forces that surround you.

It is a process you can use daily to ensure you are generally open and vibrating, however you can also use it more specifically when you require additional support perhaps for making a decision, a meeting and/or for a presentation or less than easy discussion.

Be mindful that this is a process to connect in and open your heart energy.  Thus it is not a meditation.  You can do this process in five (5) minutes or you can choose to do it for fifteen (15).  Noting the more that you do mindfully d this process in the longer term the more automatic it will be that your heart energy is open and vibrating optimally.

Energetic Heart flow process

Take a deep breathe in and close your eyes, keeping them shut …. exhale.  Closing the door on the external world for the time you’ve allocated for this process.   Opening your self to be present moment of now.  Focusing on your breath, breathing in and out naturally.  Taking your breathe to any part of your body which is feeling tense and as you exhale, releasing that tension so you are free, right now to relax.

This time as you breathe in, take your breathe in deeper and hold it.  Then as you exhale, push all your breathe out, finding yourself sinking deeper into a relaxed state.

Bring the back of your hands together so that your fingers (on both hands) face towards you and bring your fingers in to touch the centre of your chest (in between your breasts at the same height as your nipples). In this area is an acupressure point known as the Sea of Tranquillity which helps to centre you and release any emotions which are being held on to.

It also supports your consciousness to know where you want your energy and attention to go to, which is from your external world to your internal one, specifically to your heart space. When we bring out consciousness to our heart space we strengthen the heart-brain connection, creating heart coherence.

The energy of our heart is love, compassion, trust, peace, appreciation, forgiveness and gratitude. So now turn your attention to see, feel or hear those things that make you happy. What, who or where lifts up your heart and makes you feel blissful?

It may be something, somewhere or someone you have recently come across, perhaps it is a memory or another time.

Now consider what, who or where makes you feel grateful or you have (or can have) appreciate of or for.

What, who or what do you love? and what is it specifically that you love?

What made you smile yesterday?  or over the last week?

Notice that as you keep thinking about things, people or places you love, make you happy and/or you are grateful for, how you start vibrating at a higher state and that you are being filled from head to toe with this vibration.

Continue to focus on all the things, people, places that make you happy.  That make you smile. Notice how you feel as you are filled with this heart energy.  Feel it emanating from you into the space around you, then filling up the room that you are sitting in.

Keep emanating this heart energy beyond the walls in which you sit.  Into the suburb in which you live, extending to the State and then Country where you are currently located.  Next radiating this energy to place in the world where it is needed most.

Knowing that as your heart energy radiates so too does your ability to attract all you desire, for you are coherent with the unseen forces and energy thus you are in the perfect vibration to be open to receive.

Now placing your hands in your lap, focus again on your breathing and be aware the noises that surround you, the furniture that you are sitting upon.  Feeling energised and aligned for your day, meeting or presentation ahead.

 

If you are, after doing this exercise, still finding yourself being blocked to openness then kinesiology may be for you.  Mention this article and you’ll receive a 10% discount.

You can schedule an appointment for kinesiology with us via: http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

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Funk

Releasing the funk that impedes action

Funk is a word which has many meanings, in fact did you know it derives from a Latin word “fumigare” meaning “to smoke”.   For the purpose of this article it refers to that state of being where a person is feeling flat and demotivated, thus leading them to evade or avoid certain tasks.

Its important to understand that funks are a perfectly normal part of life.  It is the Yin/Yang ; the balance of life.  Which means if / when you find yourself in a funk there will be a reason for it.  Often when I find myself in a funk it is usually because I’ve been working too much and my funk reminds me I need to take time out.

Many years ago when I’d find myself in a funk, I would fight it.  I’d do everything I could to avoid and evade the feelings until one day I decided to stop fighting it.  I started to be aware that my funk had many benefits to it.

I noticed that when I was “funking” it was the only time I would ask for help and reach out to my friends.   My funk also helped me to come up with brilliant ideas, strategies and insights.  Also it was my catalyst to nurture and take care of myself.

In that moment, where I stopped fighting my funk and allowed it just to be, it vanished.  There is a wonderful saying “what you resist; persists”.  So I noticed that as I embraced the lesson my funk was trying to teach me, it was no longer needed.

Now when it comes to life lessons, I can be a slow learner, thus yes the lesson (and funk) has occasionally reappeared.  However never to the depths that it had previously.  This is because when my funk appears I now know the funk has a purpose and usually its to remind me that there is something I need to be doing which I haven’t been.

So your funk has a reason too, it’s trying to get your attention so you can learn a lesson and/or gain insights.  Maybe its to take time out or perhaps you taken enough time out.  That it’s time to set goals and take action.  It could be that your funk is reminding you to be grateful for what you have.  

Another possibility is that your funk is reminding you that you need to connect with the earth and ground yourself? or to be aware of what you are thinking, believing and focusing on.   Just know that whatever the message is for you, will be right for you.

The way to find purpose in your funk is to simply ask:  What is the purpose of me feeling this way today? or  What is it I most need today?  or  What is the lesson or information I need to move forward?

Our divine self speaks to us directly and indirectly.   So be aware that the answers may not come to you straight away.  To trust that the information you need will be revealed, at the right time.

Also indirect guidance and answers might come via words / insights of someone else.  It could be words written in a book, or via a song.  Your job is to ask the question, be open to the response and allow for it to be revealed.  The more relaxed your are the easier it will come.

Whilst you wait for your specific guidance regarding your funk, there are still things you can do to support yourself in shifting and moving forward.

Gratitude

In her book Thrive, Arianna Huffington writes how gratitude exercises can have tangible benefits. She notes that, “According to a study by researchers from the University of Minnesota and the University of Florida, having participants write down a list of positive events at the close of a day — and why the events made them happy — lowered their self-reported stress levels and gave them a greater sense of calm at night.”

I believe the reason for this is because it gets you to change your focus.  there are three elements, one of which focus is, that you can change in order to change how you are feeling.

So make a list; what is good in your life right now?  What is it that you are or can be grateful for?  Who are you grateful for?  What is it that you love doing that makes you happy?  What made you smile today?

 

Get into nature

Being outside has many different being.  Most of it which it enables you to ground yourself.  Grounding has both spiritual and physical benefits.  Grounding is the process of connecting yourself to the earthly plane and bonding with mother earth. Native American’s believe that mother earth is the source of all life and is a great teacher to be observed, listened to and respected. Her energy is nurturing and restoring, assisting us to bring and give life to our hopes, dreams and ideas.

 Science tells us that the Earth is abundant with energy, particularly electrons, which have powerful supply of antioxidant effects.   When you connect with the ground, preferably via bare feet, you are able to absorb large amounts of these electrons. Effectively you resonate at the same vibration as the Earth.

So go to the beach, park or simply go stand outside on the grass with no shoes on.  If you can’t do any of those may be go for a walk and soak in the elements, whether that be the wind, sun or rain.  (If the latter just make sure you have a warm shower afterwards).

 

Set Goals

The origin of the word, goal, has been thought to derive either from the Middle English “gale” meaning “a way or course” or the Old Norse word of “geil” meaning “passage”.  Goals thus can be considered as a guiding tool which guide and keep us on course or provide the passage to where we want to be or what we want to have.   As well as a way to measure and track how we are progressing.

Imagine setting sail to sea without any co-ordinates as to where your destination will be.  Whilst you will find a destination it may not be the destination you were after and you may waste a lot of time and energy in getting there.

This is a great analogy of what life is like without goals.  Whilst we are sailing through life and finding ourselves at certain “destinations” they aren’t always the ones we really want to be at or desire.  In addition to this we’ve often wasted a lot of energy in the journey of getting to such destination, as the course taken may not have been as direct as it could have been.  Energy which could have easily been used more effectively.

Goals have an explainable magnetic quality that can attract situations, people and opportunities in order to support you achieving them.  I personally believe that goals are a way to tell the Universe / God / Angels (whomever or whatever you believe in) what it is you want.

If you are unsure of how to set goals perhaps our simple course on goal setting could help:  https://innersagisms.thinkific.com/courses/goal-setting-made-simple/preview

 

Read an inspirational book or watch a movie

Sometimes we need to simply stop and take time out.  So why not sit in your favourite place and utilise that time in a productive way.  Stories about others can help us get re-inspired.

Most movies and books based on true stories have a message of “against all odds” achievement.  That have insights of vulnerability, courage and motivation.  That no matter what life has or is throwing you that things CAN change and that you can too.

Some of our favourites are:  In the pursuit of Happyness, The Blind Side,  Moneyball, Loosing my Virginity, Daring Greatly and Big Magic.

 

 

Exercise

Whether it is going to the gym or getting out for a walk it doesn’t the matter.  Exercise is about getting your body moving in a way that suits you.

When you exercise it helps pump blood to the brain and it also releases the “feel good” endorphins and serotonin.  It also helps to increase the size of the hippocampus, the functions of which are to regulate emotions and to access long term memories.

In addition, exercise also helps create / increase the connections of the brain’s neurons which also helps with focus, ideas and solutions.

Success journal

Scientific evidence indicates that when a person writes they access both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, which means we are able to transform and morph from situations yet too we are able to apply different methodology and solutions.

Spend 5-10 minutes listing all the achievements you have had during your day.

Remembering that many things constitute as successes and it is idea for you to record all of them, no matter how big or small.

What constitutes as an action worthy of recording are those actions you don’t usually take for example  if you only drink three glasses of water and drink four that constitutes as a success.  If you manage to start writing a report that you have been putting off, that constitutes as a success.

I’ve used this tool personally and with many clients.  It works brilliantly as a re-focusing and motivational tool.

Self Care

Many people find nurturing themselves quite difficult, with a lot of people not even sure how to nurture themselves.  Self care can come in many forms and it is doing in in a way that is best for you.

It might be going and getting your hairs or nails done, it might be simply doing that yourself.  It could be taking your make up off at night, eating the right foods, or drinking water.  It could be having a massage or seeing your kinesiologist.  It could be going for a walk or sitting at the beach and having an ice cream.

Self care doesn’t necessarily mean spending lots of money yet it could.  It is whatever is going to help you feel loved, supported and cared for.  My favourite is buying myself flowers.

 

Change your environment

A definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.  For something to change; something needs to change.  Changing your environment relates to many aspects of yourself and life.

It could be changing:

  • the environment of your mind, what you focus on and what you talk about.
  • what you put into your body as in the food you eat, what you drink (or what you don’t eat and drink)
  • your location (inside v’s outside, change of scenery, going to a different cafe or the library)
  • the people in your life or the place in which you work.

 

Remember that funks are a normal part of life, everyone experiences them to some level.  The key is to making sure your funk doesn’t go too low and doesn’t last too long.  Sometimes one of the suggestions may work and at other times you might need to use a combination.  Just know that when you are doing something you are taking action and that action will help support you in taking the action you want to be taking.

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Energetic Ties

Releasing the energetic ties to your Ex

Have you had a relationship come to and end yet found yourself unable to let go of your ex?  Finding yourself still consumed by them and what they have (or haven’t) done.  If so it could be that you have energetic ties which are connecting you to them.

Human beings are three dimensional. What this means is that we are of physical body; thinking body and spiritual body. Our spiritual body is composed of energetic layers known as subtle bodies or auric fields.

The fundamentals of our physical body is energy, albeit pulsating at a slow and dense vibration. So too with the subtle bodies, they are also made up of energy however it is pulsating at a higher and faster vibration.

Each of the subtle bodies connect with our physical body via an spinning vortex of energy called a chakra. The chakra then directs energy into the physical body via the meridian system.

Energetic cords

Just as we have this energetic connection with ourselves, we can also create a connection with other people, places or things and do so by energetic ties or cords via our chakras. These energetic ties / cords are constructed of astral and etheric energy which have no physical limitations between what it is connected to.

The ties, cords or ties, ribbons as they are also known, can be likened to an umbilical cord. Similar to an umbilical cord there is a transference of energy; whether that energy be positive or negative.  Yet too this cord links us with another.

The cord also transfers information and can be considered an energetic feedback mechanism, so consciously or unconsciously you will receive information about the person, place or thing you are connected to.

When we have a strong emotional connection with another we create these energetic cords.  The length of time or intensity of the relationship with the other person, place or thing will strengthen the cord.  This is great if the connection is a positive one you wish to maintain.  However where the cord is with a person (place or thing) you no longer want to have a connection with, then it becomes draining, unearthing and creates imbalance

Unhealthy Energetic Cords

In the instance where it is time for you to move on, despite going your separate ways, you may find the cords remain connected. This can happen when one or both people have strong emotions and thoughts towards the other and if one person did not want the disconnection.   However it could also be that the cords were created in a unhealthy way. 

Cutting the cords is a method in which to call back your energy from another as well as return their energy to them. It is a simple method, however sometimes needs to be done several times as even thinking of a person can reconnect the cords.

Cutting the cords process

Get yourself into a comfortable position that you can easily hold for a short period of time. You may like to sit or lie down, which ever is best for you. Once you get into that position move around until you find the posture most comfortable for you.

Bring your focus on your breath, noticing the natural rhythm of your breathing….in and out…..giving your body the oxygen it needs to be in this moment.

As you continue to breathe inhale and exhale observe how your breath helps your body to relax and let go of any tension you have been hold on to. As you now consciously take a breathe in …. take that air specifically to any areas which are particular tense and on the out breathe release that tension, mindfully now letting it go.

Maintain your conscious breathing, breathing in deeply and exhaling … going deeper and deeper unwinding and letting go…..deeper and deeper into a calm and tranquil state…preparing your mind, body and spirit for what you are needing from this process.

Feeling totally relaxed you notice your body soften, being lighter and even more tranquil. Observe your thoughts like you would a river…..flowing and gently passing by .. letting them flow also not exploring them or adding to them….just letting them be … right now…

Consider the seven (7) energy centres (starting from the bottom):

Base Chakra – pelvic area – relates to survival (physically and materially), ability to stand up for oneself and feeling secure

Navel Chakra – ovaries area – relates to our right to feel and our ability to be social and intimate

Solar Plexus – upper Stomach area – relates to our ability to think as well as personal power, our self confidence and self worth.

Heart Chakra – heart space – relates to matters of the heart. Love, peace, forgiveness, compassion. Ability to have self-control.  Acceptance of oneself

Throat Chakra – throat area – relates to the ability to speak up and be heard.  To express ourselves and live our truth.  Loyalty and protection

Third Eye Chakra – middle of forehead – relates to our intuition and trusting our own innate wisdom.  What we want and allow ourselves to see.  Also relates to our hidden or repressed thoughts

Crown Chakra – top of head – relates to our aspirations.  Our connect to divine consciousness as well as trusting the universe and our path.

Which of these energy centres were affected by your relationship? Where did you feel most disempowered or disconnected from in the relationship?  Where do you feel there is an energetic tie still connecting you to your ex-partner?

If there are several cords, start with the base chakra working up to the Crown.  Imagine an energy sword of divine light and love cutting the energy cord in two.

As the cord is cut, the part of the cord which belongs to your ex is returned to them as is the part of the cord which belongs to you.  Restoring and revitalising your energy as it returns cleansed and cleared as well as protected from reconnecting with them.

Continue this process of cord cutting with any other cords that you feel are still connected and/or affected.

Once you have finished severing the energetic ties take a moment to feel your energy returning to you.  To feel yourself whole; your strength and vitality being your own.  Feeling totally centred and grounded within yourself.

Breathing deeply and when you are ready opening your eyes are returning back to the room.

 

Whilst a simple process it can be quite a powerful one.  If you find after doing the process that you need additional cleansing and/or support you may want to consider a kinesiology balance or other energy modality to help align you.

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