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Fear, Anxiety, Anxious, Courage, Brave, Fearless

Anxiety and Fear – friend or foe?

Anxiety and fear are interrelated emotions, using the same or similar neurological pathways for processing information.  Anxiety is the physical reactions that develop due to fear or stress.  Fear can result as a response to anxious cues.

Either way anxiety and fear have become quite prevalent and widespread in today’s society and way of living.  It is common, and even normal, from time to time to feel anxious and experience fear.  In fact fear is our inbuilt response to external stimuli that is designed to keep us safe.  Anxiety can help us to take action and to make informed decisions.

The problem occurs however when such feelings or physical symptoms are so strongly associated with that it becomes consuming and takes the person into a spiralling state.   So is fear and anxiety a friend or foe?

When we stop, deny or repress an emotion we actually block the neural pathway that also allows the feel good chemicals, and thus emotions, to flow.  Rather than stop, deny or repress such emotions we need to treat them as “friends” and dissolve them.

As previous mentioned we are naturally inbuilt with a fight or flight response.  The aim of such response is to keep us safe and alive, which is our primal goal in life.  So fear, and anxiety, from that perspective is extremely beneficial.  You really wouldn’t want to come across a Coastal Eastern Taipan snake and be courageous and fearless.

Yet too from an emotional or spiritual perspective fear and anxiety have a positive reason for existing.  Ultimately they are endeavouring to get our attention as there is a contradiction as to where we are directing our thoughts and energy with what is constructive and advantageous for us.  It is telling us we are energetically misaligned.

Candace Pert, a neurophysicist, through her research showed that emotions create peptides that connect / dock in the receptors of cells throughout the body.  Thus emotions are creating physical reactions in the body.   As noted before we know that fear often creates symptoms of anxiety.

So fundamentally when it comes to fear, and anxiety, we need our brain to be communicating more appropriately and in a way that serves us.  Perhaps we need to consider the reason the fear (or anxiety) is showing up and what it is endeavouring to get our attention for.

We know that the unconscious mind’s role is to keep us safe.  To look out for dangers and direct us to act in a way that keeps us alive and out of dangers way.  However often its reference of what is “safe” is based on historical data that is most likely outdated and no longer supporting or serving us.

It is also important to understand that as mammals we want to belong.  Consider mammals in the wild, their safety and ability to remain alive is dependant on being accepted in the group.  If not they are shunned to the perimeter of the group where they are more likely to be taken by predators.

So often our fear is due to not wanting to be different, and thus not shunned, by others.  So we act in a way that our “group” does (which can be family, friends, colleagues) and/or in a way that we consider they will find acceptable.

Did you know that fear and excitement use the same energy?  What happens thought is most people tend to misread excitement as fear, thus sabotaging themselves from taking action and enabling change.

Being fearful creates a misconception that we do not have choice, which debilitates us from making change.  Also it is likely the old way of being has been acted upon for such a long time that it has created a strong neural pathways hence why we often act without thinking.

Most of our patterns of behaviour are created in the unconscious mind between the ages of two and seven.  The way to change these patterns, and create new pathways, is repetition.  

What precedes change and choice is awareness.  Awareness of how your fears are causing you to act and disempower you.  Once we have awareness we then have choice to either repeat the pattern of behaviour or to create change and new behaviour.

We need to know that the unconscious mind will endeavour to keep the old patterns because it considers them safe.  This is the reason change can be less than easy.  However more you disengage with the old pattern and act in the new way you minimise and disempower the old way of acting.

Thus in order to address anxiety, ideally you would address the fears that are underpinning or causing it.  To do this you need to uncover what are the beliefs that create the fear and start acknowledging or creating references where the opposite is true. 

Everyone’s anxiety experience of anxiety is different.  Anxiety symptoms are real, headaches, dizziness, trembling, sweaty, unsettled stomach or nausea, feeling faint, shaky and breathing difficulties are a few.

What people tend to do is focus on the symptoms rather than them simply being a way to get the person’s attention.  It is also important to consider that your anxiety symptoms could be a pattern of how you are keeping yourself “safe”.  Thus you are unconsciously doing this because it is habitual.

I believe that emotions are not bad, they are showing up for a reason.  Therefore it is important to dissolve the emotion rather than run or hide from it.  So firstly acknowledge that you are feeling anxious and that it is ok for you to feel that way, as long as you don’t let it spiral you down. 

Next  bring awareness to  what it is you were focusing on, thinking or talking about.  For me I can wake up feeling this way and I’ve come to realise it can be due to a dream I was having or something I was thinking about before going to bed.

Then consider what is it you need in order to feel better and/or what is the solution to what you were thinking about or focusing on.

Another technique to help alleviate anxiety, in order to work on the underlying fears,  is the 4-7-8 breathing pattern.  This is a breathing rhythm developed by Dr. Andrew Weil, based on ancient yogic pranayama technique.  It helps to oxygenate the body which helps to calm the nerves, relaxing and centring the body.

Breathe in for a count of four, hold for a count of seven and breathe out for a count of eight.  Continue doing this for a min. of four rounds and as you get more comfortable with the technique you can do so for up to eight rounds.  

As a kinesiologist I have seen many clients use kinesiology techniques to help support them dissolve fears and thus anxiety.  Helping them to be stronger within themselves.  The great thing about kinesiology is that it doesn’t use a “one size fits all” approach, it uses the wisdom of your internal healing system to find out specifically what you need.

So is fear and anxiety friend or foe?  Ultimately I believe it is a friend, one that can be “cruel to be kind”.  Just wanting our attention so that we are congruent within ourselves to create what we truly want and are capable of achieving.

Healing process

Understanding the process and sequence of healing

Being on my own healing journey, as well as supporting others on their own,  I’ve often wondered what is the reason healing doesn’t happen, per say, overnight.  Why, despite all the work done to release an issue, that it either so much time and effort to be healed. Can reappear in other ways or not be 100% released.  What is the reason it usually takes several sessions of healing related to the same issue before we are liberated from it. Seeking to understand the process of healing.

The common analogy used to describe the healing process is the layers of an onion.  As in with an onion when you keep peeling the layers back you get to the core.  That too with healing as you peel back a layer, which in healing involves having acceptance of what is and what has been, letting go and integrating the lesson, you get to the core matter and healing is able to occur.

So whilst I believe this to be somewhat true of healing I don’t believe it is the best analogy to explain the reason healing takes time and/or the healing process.

Recently I saw this saying “Healing unfolds in its own time; it doesn’t look to a calendar or clock for direction” (unknown).    After having worked on several aspects of an issue, I personally came to understand that in divine timing the healing just falls into place.  Just like <snap of the fingers> that.  Similar to how a mechanical puzzle works. In that all the parts are interlinked and once the parts are in the right place the puzzle becomes whole and/or unlocks.

Each healing session can be considered as interlinked parts of the puzzle / greater picture. Knowing that each and every session has its own merit because it is critical to uncovering information required for the process of healing.     And as with a combination lock once all the parts of the code are obtained, in the right and correct order, healing occurs to be the new way of being.

The trauma, grief, pain, etc that occurs from people; situations; places; things fundamentally creates stress.  That stress winds into the body and we hold it mentally; emotionally; spiritually; physically and/or chemically.    Hence the reason it is important to have a modality (yes such as kinesiology) which helps unwind such stress from all aspects of who we are ~ mind; body and spirit.

Once stress is unwound from the body we then need to process it in order to release it as well as integrate the benefit thereof.  Sometimes that process can be very gentle however at times a person can have an adverse reaction to healing.  Which means their processing can be emotionally overwhelming.  The processing can be draining or they can have physical detoxing symptoms.   

If healing one aspect of an issue can have such an impact, imagine what healing the whole matter in one go would have on a person.  The processing would be extreme and too overwhelming for a person to move through.  Resulting in the healing having an opposing effect.  

Thus it is highly unlikely the person’s physical; mental; emotional systems could cope with such an overload of healing.   Resulting in likely burn out and them simply giving up or retreating from the world.    This being a main reason we don’t heal major issues in one session.

The process of how stress winds into our body and with healing how it is unwound out is very similar to the Fibonacci sequence / Golden Ratio / Sacred Geometry.    All of which are principles that describe the inner workings of nature and the Universe. 

These principles provide order to that which seems chaotic.  Indicating there is an intelligent design and blueprint in all that exists.  That there is no random way to which we grow. 

Cross cut of DNA

In nature we easily find these unfolding patterns and spirals; as in plants, shells, flowers and weather patterns.   The same natural patterns are found in the human body, such as our brainwaves, DNA and structures.  When you look at the cross cut of DNA it looks like a flower and the golden ratio pattern is easily seen.

When we apply this principle to healing we understand there is a natural pattern and progression which needs to unfold in order for us to have growth and evolution.    As with the Fibonacci sequence (Golden Ratio, Sacred Geometry) each session of healing combines with the previous one to provide the structure and foundation for the next stage. 

Meaning that the healing occurs in alignment with the universal order of nature, so too we follow the pattern for natural evolution to achieve universal and natural order within ourselves.  

By accepting there is a natural order to healing, a process of healing, we more easily allow for the uncovering and alignment of the code.  Such code which as with the combination lock analogy when in the right place and order gives us the key for healing to be activated.  We calibrate and align with the higher aspect of who we are to live with bliss, empowerment and ease!

If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with your healing process then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/


Grieving – How time does not heal wounds

Grief is an emotion which is not only attributed to someone dying.  In fact it is associated with any change and adjustment, particularly those of a major and/or emotional nature.

When a person is experiencing grief typically those around them (friends, family, associates) are unsure of how to brooch the topic, uncertain of what to say, or what do.   One statement which is typically used is that “time heals all wounds”.

However after working with many clients and seeing close friends experience grief I disagree with this popular adage.  To believe that time does not heal your wounds.  Rose Kennedy was quoted:  “It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone.”

Molecules of Emotion

Dr Candace Pert PhD, neuropharmacologist, stated:   “A feeling sparked in our mind-or body-will translate as a peptide being released somewhere.  [Organs, tissues, skin, muscle and endocrine glands],  they all have peptide receptors on them and can access and store emotional information. This means the emotional memory is stored in many places in the body, not just or even primarily, in the brain. You can access emotional memory anywhere in the peptide/receptor network, in any number of ways. I think unexpressed emotions are literally lodged in the body.  The real true emotions that need to be expressed are in the body, trying to move up and be expressed and thereby integrated, made whole, and healed.”

Time can either do one of two things;

  1. push the painful emotions and memories down to keep them at bay so they are not fresh in your conscious mind; or
  2. gives you the opportunity to discover techniques which makes it easier to navigate your wounds, grief and pain.

Which means those who are electing for option 1 (above) will simply store the emotions, replaying and duplicating their grief within the coding of their cells.   Such information /  wounding festers waiting for the “right” opportunity to bubble to the surface, which typically is at an inopportune moment.

Ultimately allowing time to heal the wound is a dis-empowering and unhealthy option.  The emotions need to be expressed in order to be released.  In having awareness of what the emotion is, we can name the emotion and therefore explore the emotion.  This is how we move forward.

Navigating Grief

There are various techniques (see below) which can help a person to navigate grief.  Yet the first step is understanding the stages of grief.  Through her extensive research Elizabeth Kúbler-Ross, a Swiss-American psychiatrist and pioneer in near-death studies,  determined the Five Stages of Grief, which are:


Denial is a conscious or unconscious to not being willing to accept the situation where the person can isolate themselves due to their refusal of the situation.  It can be due to their disbelief that the situation is happening and tends to be a defence mechanism which is masking the person’s shock of the situation.


A person will use anger as an emotion to deflect from their vulnerability of the situation and it can manifest in various ways.  They can be angry at themselves, at those close to them or those who were involved in the situation.  Endeavouring to be non-judgement with those in this stage of grief and remaining detached can assist both, all, parties.


This is where the person yearns for what has been lost and is categorised by the “if only” or “what if” statements. It’s where we want the situation to return to what we knew it to be, to be able to go back in time and do something different so a positive outcome happens.  Guilt is often an emotion experienced in this stage, as the person thinks of what they could have done and feel guilty for not having done it.


Here the person is preparing to bid farewell and is an indicator that the person has begun to accept the reality of the situation.  It can be described as acceptance with emotional attachment and it is natural for the person to experience feelings of sadness and regret, fear and uncertainty.


Usually this stage is marked by a calmness and acknowledgement of the situation, recognising that this is their reality and thus now living with the permanence of the change.  The person has re-adjusted to life as they now know it and are allowing themselves to make new connections and to enjoy life again.

Grief is a very personal thing and everyone grieves differently.  The stages do not necessary occur in a specific order, nor is there a time limit or potency set for each stage.  Also it is possible for a person to experience a stage more than once.

Tools for navigation grief


Being a kinesiologist, I think it natural for this to be my number one suggestion for moving through grief.  The main reason being because it’s NOT a one size fits all solution.  Rather a kinesiology session is personalised to the individual as a kinesiologist uses the client’s own innate wisdom as to what is needed to shift and move through their grief.

Via muscle testing, a kinesiologist seeks the underlying emotion which is causing the imbalance or blockage of energy flow.  Therefore sometimes it actually isn’t the emotion that you logically think it is.  As mentioned previously when you can name the emotion (correctly)  you are able to explore and process through it.

More information can be found about kinesiology via:  What is Kinesiology?

Write & Burn

Scientific evidence shows that when a person writes they are accessing both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, meaning we are able to transform and transcend situations.   James Pennebaker, a professor at the University of Texas undertook over forty years of research as to how journalling helped the individual to process significant emotional experiences.  His researched demonstrated that by spending 20 minutes per day journalling participants experienced significant improvements physically and mentally.

Unlike journalling, the concept of writing and burning is that whatever you are about to write you will not be keeping.  What I like about this is that when we know we aren’t going to keep it , and thus no one will ever see what we have written, we tend to get more honest on the page.

In addition to this the act of burning the page/s is symbolic and ritualistic.  It takes the written page and transforms it into ash, something the earth can re-cycle for a positive purpose.

Make time for Silence

Research shows that silence has many positive benefits.  Silence can be meditation however is not limited to that.  Silence can simply be spending time on your own without distractions.

Benefits of silence is:

It helps the hippocampus to grow new brain cells.  The hippocampus is an important part of the Lymbic system and is involved in the formation, organisation and storage of memories.  It is also involved with learning and the formation of emotions.

Silence works to balance our left and right brains, which results in whole brain synchronisation.  Thus neither our emotions or logic overwhelm the other.  This assists the brain in the sorting of information, enabling us to gather and process information.

The positive impact to important body and brain chemicals.  Such as  Melatonin; known as the “sleep molecule”.  It is known to is known to inhibit cancer, strengthen the immune system and slow down the ageing process.

Serotonin; known as the  “happy” neurotransmitter because it has a profound impact on our moods.  It is also thought to help regulate mood and social behaviour, appetite and digestion, sleep, memory, and sexual desire and function.

GABA;  is known as the “calm chemical” as it helps to control fear and anxiety.  It sends chemical messages throughout the brain and the nervous system and plays an important role in behaviour, perception, awareness, comprehension as well as how the body response to stress.

DHEA;  which is known as the “longevity molecule” as it counteracts cortisol.   It also helps lower depression, sadness and irritability.  It helps increase our ability to deal with stress and reduces worrying.  It also helps increase motivation and energy levels.

Endorphins;  the “natural high” hormone.  As they interact with the opiate receptors in the brain to reduce our perception of pain, similar to how morphine and codeine work.

Growth Hormone which sustains our tissues and organs, helping keeping them “youthful”.

Cortisol, which is one of the major stress hormones, is reduced.  Too much can wears down the body (and brain).  Destroying healthy muscle and bone, blocking the creation of good hormones.  It can create anxiety, depression, increased blood pressure, brain fog, insomnia and inflammation.


If after trying these techniques you are still struggling with processing through your grief then consider scheduling an appointment for kinesiology.  You can book an appointment with us via:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

Self Esteem Wave

Riding the Self-Esteem Wave

Self-esteem is how you overall feel about your self.  It does encompass your the value you have for yourself as well as your self-worth.  Contradictory to what we have been led to believe, our self-esteem is not a stagnant way of being.  In fact most people, especially women, experience fluctuations with their self-esteem.

Consider it to fluctuate like the ocean wave.  When you are on the upside of the fluctuation, you feel confident, ready to take on the world; loving who you are, easily seeing your own worth and value.  However when on the downside of the wave you will second guess yourself, having doubt and being overly critical of your self.

Such ups and downs are normal, in fact they are considered as essential as long as you manage them effectively.  Dualities are every where around you; life in itself is with the duality of death.  In fact dualities are everywhere, cannot exist without the other.  The Yin/Yang symbol is one reminder of this.  That dualities which are seemingly opposite or contrary are actually complementary and interconnected.   Thus dualities ~ such as the ups and downs ~ are required to be whole.

The more acceptance you have that your self-esteem will fluctuate,  as well as understanding it is normal, the more likely you are to minimise the depth and frequency of such “waves”.  When you can “ride the wave” you are able to allow flow and surrender.  It is in such surrender that flow naturally occurs as does synchronicity.

It is important to know and accept that when you are on the downside of the fluctuation (wave) this is when your negative emotions, baggage, “stuff”, things you’ve not dealt with are more likely to present.

What exactly are your emotions?  “An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioural or expressive response.”  (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007).

The word emotion originates from the French word “emouvoir” which means to excite.  As well as the Latin word “emovere” which means to move.  Your emotions serve to motivate you to take action (move) towards things that excite you.  Emotions also serve for you to take action in order to survive and thus keep yourself safe from danger.

Running from, not dealing with, or pushing your emotions away only makes them stronger and persistent in trying to get your attention.  It’s the adage,  whatever you resist, persists. Your emotions then control you, rather than you be in control of them.

Whilst it is important to take actions that build your self-esteem, it is also important to understand that the downside of the wave is an important time for you to undertake emotional spring cleaning.

When you seek to understand the reasons as to why the emotions are presenting themselves; by being compassionate and nurturing yourself you loosen their grip in order to achieve release and healing.

Ways to undertake emotional spring cleaning

  1. Acknowledge how you are feeling and what it is you are thinking or focusing on to make you feel that way.  Consider is this just a “story” you are telling yourself and what evidence do you have that it is a truth?  and/or what could be equally if not more so true
  2. Recognise what it is that you need right now and give that to yourself.  Is it loving words of support from  yourself?  Is it time in nature?  To go shopping and treat yourself?  To take time out and go to the beach or to read a good book?
  3. Grab a pen and paper and write.  Consider what event, situation, place or person the emotions relate to and allow the words to flow onto the page, getting raw and honest with  yourself.  How do you feel about what happened?  What has been left unresolved?  What was the impact?  What were the negatives?  and what were the positives (yes there will be some)?  and what are the insights you need to release and let it go?
  4. Find a nice patch of grass or sand and stand on it barefoot.  Connect in with the earth energy and imagine the negative emotions as well as anything that relate to them releasing from your body down through the soles of you feet into the core of the earth where this negativity will be transformed and transmuted.

When you can accept that your self-esteem will fluctuate and that this is normal, as well as be vulnerably brave to address and heal what you need to, you will find that  you have greater distance in between the fluctuations.


Feeling great? Understand why Kinesiology will still benefit you

When you are feeling great it is really interesting just how kinesiology will still benefit you and in some cases even more so.  Many of my clients will say “I’m feeling great, I don’t think I need to come” or “I’m not sure what we can work on”.  This is music to my ears as 1. it means Kinesiology is working for them and 2. now we can work in a very difference space.

However, it also made me realise that there is a misconception that kinesiology is ONLY a healing modality.

When you have “stuff” (a technical healing term) to work on you will be in a space where you are treating and remedying the issue/s.  Including the manifestations and symptoms of those issues e.g. anxiety.

At the initial stage of kinesiology, for most people, they are staying in their “stuff”, having gotten stuck in it and/or in the symptomology of the issue.  Whilst at some level you will need to go into the problem, the focus of kinesiology is to move you through it.

Once this foundation has been built, and reinforced, you will start to be feeling much better.  You’ll find you are aligned to the intention that was set for your sessions.  This doesn’t mean that you won’t be affected by life and it’s stressors.  Nor does it mean you won’t experience moments of emotions.  People, situations and events may shake the foundation.  This is why at the very least it is important to keep up maintenance sessions every three to six months.

Transcendental Balancing

However when you sustain a regular kinesiology program then your sessions becomes even more alchemistic.  You are able to come into a place of being where you thrive and build on what is good.  You tend to become more resilient to life stressors and you now are able to flourish.

This transcendental balancing aligns and connects you with your potential, supporting you to actualise it.  You are able to navigate life with higher executive cognitive functioning which enables your working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control.  You also become more positively disposed.

Kinesiology as a self development tool

Albert Einstein was reported to have said, “Once you stop learning, you start dying”.  I believe this can also be applied to self development.  In fact, neuroscience has shown that if the brain is not being used, like a muscle, it atrophies (wastes away).

Kinesiology certainly doesn’t make self development redundant, however it does support self development as it can uncover what you cannot.  Most times people are not aware of the program that is influencing them or where that program originated.  Kinesiology provides a framework for being able to uncover this.

Triad of Life

KTriad of Healthinesiology is a truly holistic modality as it works on the triad of health concept.   The triad of health is that you are not just your body; nor just your mind; nor just spiritual.  You are a combination of all three.

That the foundation for health is for all aspects of you to be in balance.  If not, the aspect which is out of balance will impact the other two.

The triad of health is represented in all aspects of life, not just health.  Therefore if you are only working on one aspect of personal development, then holistic development is not being achieved.

Personal development is mind; body and spirit.  Whilst you can achieve this by undertaking a combination of various modalities and exercises, kinesiology certainly covers all three at the same time!

The more I work with kinesiology, the more I learn from my clients.  One in particular has taught me the influence of regular kinesiology sessions – even when you feel great.  He has shown me how building on what is already great, enhances it.   As well as the fortitude to manage people, situations and events.   He truly lives from an empowered state and the regular session support him in maintaining and enhancing it.

Overall, even if you are feeling great, regularly kinesiology sessions ensure you are taking charge of your well-being.  Rather than waiting until things have compounded to be problematic.

If you are overdue for a session or haven’t seen a kinesiologist you can use the link below to schedule a session with us.


Energetic Ties

Releasing the energetic ties to your Ex

Have you had a relationship come to and end yet found yourself unable to let go of your ex?  Finding yourself still consumed by them and what they have (or haven’t) done.  If so it could be that you have energetic ties which are connecting you to them.

Human beings are three dimensional. What this means is that we are of physical body; thinking body and spiritual body. Our spiritual body is composed of energetic layers known as subtle bodies or auric fields.

The fundamentals of our physical body is energy, albeit pulsating at a slow and dense vibration. So too with the subtle bodies, they are also made up of energy however it is pulsating at a higher and faster vibration.

Each of the subtle bodies connect with our physical body via an spinning vortex of energy called a chakra. The chakra then directs energy into the physical body via the meridian system.

Energetic cords

Just as we have this energetic connection with ourselves, we can also create a connection with other people, places or things and do so by energetic ties or cords via our chakras. These energetic ties / cords are constructed of astral and etheric energy which have no physical limitations between what it is connected to.

The ties, cords or ties, ribbons as they are also known, can be likened to an umbilical cord. Similar to an umbilical cord there is a transference of energy; whether that energy be positive or negative.  Yet too this cord links us with another.

The cord also transfers information and can be considered an energetic feedback mechanism, so consciously or unconsciously you will receive information about the person, place or thing you are connected to.

When we have a strong emotional connection with another we create these energetic cords.  The length of time or intensity of the relationship with the other person, place or thing will strengthen the cord.  This is great if the connection is a positive one you wish to maintain.  However where the cord is with a person (place or thing) you no longer want to have a connection with, then it becomes draining, unearthing and creates imbalance

Unhealthy Energetic Cords

In the instance where it is time for you to move on, despite going your separate ways, you may find the cords remain connected. This can happen when one or both people have strong emotions and thoughts towards the other and if one person did not want the disconnection.   However it could also be that the cords were created in a unhealthy way. 

Cutting the cords is a method in which to call back your energy from another as well as return their energy to them. It is a simple method, however sometimes needs to be done several times as even thinking of a person can reconnect the cords.

Cutting the cords process

Get yourself into a comfortable position that you can easily hold for a short period of time. You may like to sit or lie down, which ever is best for you. Once you get into that position move around until you find the posture most comfortable for you.

Bring your focus on your breath, noticing the natural rhythm of your breathing….in and out…..giving your body the oxygen it needs to be in this moment.

As you continue to breathe inhale and exhale observe how your breath helps your body to relax and let go of any tension you have been hold on to. As you now consciously take a breathe in …. take that air specifically to any areas which are particular tense and on the out breathe release that tension, mindfully now letting it go.

Maintain your conscious breathing, breathing in deeply and exhaling … going deeper and deeper unwinding and letting go…..deeper and deeper into a calm and tranquil state…preparing your mind, body and spirit for what you are needing from this process.

Feeling totally relaxed you notice your body soften, being lighter and even more tranquil. Observe your thoughts like you would a river…..flowing and gently passing by .. letting them flow also not exploring them or adding to them….just letting them be … right now…

Consider the seven (7) energy centres (starting from the bottom):

Base Chakra – pelvic area – relates to survival (physically and materially), ability to stand up for oneself and feeling secure

Navel Chakra – ovaries area – relates to our right to feel and our ability to be social and intimate

Solar Plexus – upper Stomach area – relates to our ability to think as well as personal power, our self confidence and self worth.

Heart Chakra – heart space – relates to matters of the heart. Love, peace, forgiveness, compassion. Ability to have self-control.  Acceptance of oneself

Throat Chakra – throat area – relates to the ability to speak up and be heard.  To express ourselves and live our truth.  Loyalty and protection

Third Eye Chakra – middle of forehead – relates to our intuition and trusting our own innate wisdom.  What we want and allow ourselves to see.  Also relates to our hidden or repressed thoughts

Crown Chakra – top of head – relates to our aspirations.  Our connect to divine consciousness as well as trusting the universe and our path.

Which of these energy centres were affected by your relationship? Where did you feel most disempowered or disconnected from in the relationship?  Where do you feel there is an energetic tie still connecting you to your ex-partner?

If there are several cords, start with the base chakra working up to the Crown.  Imagine an energy sword of divine light and love cutting the energy cord in two.

As the cord is cut, the part of the cord which belongs to your ex is returned to them as is the part of the cord which belongs to you.  Restoring and revitalising your energy as it returns cleansed and cleared as well as protected from reconnecting with them.

Continue this process of cord cutting with any other cords that you feel are still connected and/or affected.

Once you have finished severing the energetic ties take a moment to feel your energy returning to you.  To feel yourself whole; your strength and vitality being your own.  Feeling totally centred and grounded within yourself.

Breathing deeply and when you are ready opening your eyes are returning back to the room.


Whilst a simple process it can be quite a powerful one.  If you find after doing the process that you need additional cleansing and/or support you may want to consider a kinesiology balance or other energy modality to help align you.

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Nourishment essentials for healing professionals

Healers come in all shapes and forms, they can be nurses, doctors, counsellors, psychologists, naturopaths, kinesiologists, energy healers or they can be the friend who listens.    Having known many healers, as well as being one myself, it is my experience that most healers are so busy  focussing and caring for others that they tend to “forget” to care for themselves.

There are many ways for healing professionals to care for themselves such as eating small meals frequently, exercising regularly, connecting with nature and/or mediation.  However, due to the work they do and the transfer of energy that occurs healers often deplete essential nutrients.

Whether healing professionals are conscious of this or not, any interaction with another involves energy transmission.  Healers transfer energy, which could be chemical energy, electrical energy, thermal energy, light  or mechanical energy.

Yet too, depending on the strength of their boundaries, protection and cleansing, practitioners can also find themselves with taking on energetic residue from their clients.

Our nervous system is a collection of fibres and specialised cells which transmit signals between the brain and other parts of the body.  In addition to it’s physiological functions, the nervous system is also the pathway used to distribute and receive subtle energy.  Hence the importance of specifically supporting this system.

The following are suggestions as to what we consider to be nourishment essentials for those in the healing field, however as a Kinesiologist we do not diagnose, treat or prescribe so if in doubt please refer to your health professional.

Spirulina is a cyanobacteria, which refers to the colour of the micro-organism, cyano being blue.  It is a rich source of numerous vitamins such as B-1, B-2, B-3, B-6, B-9 (folic acid) as well as vitamins C, D, A and E.

Spirulina is also a source of various minerals  including  potassium , calcium, chromium, copper, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus,  selenium, sodium and zinc.  In addition to these beneficial nutrients it also contains essential and non essential amino acids, chlorophyll and carotenoids.

Due to Spirulina’s nutritional make up, it assists us our body to convert food into fuel, supports our nervous system as well as aids the detoxification process by binding with heavy metals and free radicals for removal.


Magnesium (as well as other minerals) play an important role in the body by regulating glands, muscle and nerve function, protein synthesis, blood glucose and blood pressure regulation.   In addition magnesium is critical for energy production, building hormones and maintaining cells.

Magnesium is important in metabolising nutrients into usable energy, allowing ions to move in and out of our cells.   Due to the role magnesium plays in conduction of nerve impulses, it aids the nervous system with sending messages.

Stress is known to deplete our magnesium stores.

Vitamin C
Vitamin C is critical for our immune system in its resistance to  pathogens, aids our healing processes and as an anti-oxidant it also helps limit the damage from free radicals..  Vitamin C also aids in the formation, as well as use of collagen in the body (which is the “glue” that holds our body together and gives strength and elasticity to our skin, muscles, joints and ligaments).

Cortisol, a hormone released during stress, competes with collagen for vitamin C, hence why when under any form of stress it is important to ensure you are digesting vitamin C.  Noting as it is water soluble our bodies cannot store vitamin C, hence another reason it is important to ensure we ingest vitamin C daily.

One of the better known benefits of calcium is that it gives our bones and teeth strength as well as shape.  However the nervous system also needs calcium in order to effectively transmit messages.

It aids in maintaining appropriate blood pressure and adequate calcium also helps balance our mood and pH levels.  pH balance is important as too much acidity can provide an environment for harmful organisms to flourish.


Approximately 60% of our body composition is water and nearly all of the body’s systems depend on water to operate, so it makes sense that in order for the body to function effectively it is essential for it to be adequately hydrated.

Our body uses approximately 2.5 litres of water per day, however it is important to note that when we are under “stress” (whether nutritionally, physically or mentally) we use more water.   This includes the additional demand we put on our system when giving healing energy or mental focus to others.

Author of  ‘Your Body’s Many Cries for Water’, Dr. Batmanghelidj, indicates that the optimal daily water intake is 1.5 litres per 50kg of body weight.  Electrolytes assist in hydration and a natural way to boost your water with electrolytes is to add lemon, lime or sea salt to your water.

Oxygen is the most essential nutrients we need, we can’t exist without it, our basic building blocks (cells) need oxygen for energy and growth.  Breathing, particularly deep breathing, increases the oxygen in our blood as well as aid in releasing toxins.

Breathing nourishes our nervous system and thus reduces tension and stress, increases energy and stamina, strengthens our posture and improves energy flow to the brain aiding attentiveness, focus and clarity.

When the healer adequately cares for themselves, they can minimise (if not eliminate) burnout.  Thus ensuring they have an abundance of vitality and stamina not only for others, yet most importantly for their own body and soul.

Kinesiology, Healing

Healing ~ your body holds the key

In today’s world there are a plethora of healing modalities available.  Some rooted in ancient philosophies and teachings, whilst others which have been developed from our growing knowledge of the workings of the human body.  Each modality has their advantages and downsides, so whilst in some circumstances one modality may be best (or better) for a person or situation, it could be that another modality could be more ideal.  Its a matter of what works for you and moves you towards your goal.

Kinesiology is healing modality which combines many techniques which has lead to Kinesiologists being referred to as “energy medicine specialists”.  Kinesiology includes both body work and verbal discussion in order for a client to be re-balanced and move them towards their goal.

One of the main things I love about Kinesiology is that the “guess” work is minimised as muscle testing is used to determine what the cause of the stress or imbalance is.  Your body really does hold the key, which means a client can’t hide the truth, to the practitioner or themselves, of what the cause truly is.

How does muscle testing work?  Muscles are able to move due to working with various other body systems, notable the nervous system.  Our conscious mind transmits a command to our central nervous system which converts it into electrical impulses. The electrical impulses are then transported through the somatic part of our peripheral nervous system to the nerves responsible for controlling the necessary muscles.

When a client processes information that is beneficial for the them the muscle remains strong, however where the information causes a stress the muscle goes weak, thus identifying energy blockages or stress related information.

Using muscle testing the kinesiologist will find an emotion and then work with the client to discover how that emotion relates to them.  While the client is considering how the emotion is relevant, the kinesiologist can use muscle testing to confirm the right  information, so instead of wondering whether “x” is the issue, the Kinesiologist can confirm if it is “x”, “y” or even “z”.

This information the kinesiologist is accessing is data that is stored in our bodies, at a cellular level, due to the emotional responses a person has to situations and information.  The brain releases peptides which connect to the peptide receptors that are throughout our body.  Dr. Candace Pert [1], a neuropharmacologist, explains:

“A feeling sparked in our mind-or body-will translate as a peptide being released somewhere. [Organs, tissues, skin, muscle and endocrine glands], they all have peptide receptors on them and can access and store emotional information. This means the emotional memory is stored in many places in the body, not just or even primarily, in the brain. You can access emotional memory anywhere in the peptide/receptor network, in any number of ways. I think unexpressed emotions are literally lodged in the body.  The real true emotions that need to be expressed are in the body, trying to move up and be expressed and thereby integrated, made whole, and healed.

Dr. Pert says “Let the emotions bubble up. Let the chips fall where they may…the process of catharsis is not complete without saying things as the first step to experiencing things…To feel and understand means you have worked it all the way through. It has bubbled all the way to the surface. You’re integrating at higher and higher levels in the body, bringing emotions into consciousness. Once integrated, the natural wisdom of the receptors ( a take on Walter Cannon) will release interrupted healing and restorative and regenerative processes can take over.”

“By simply acknowledging emotions, they are expressed. In being expressed, emotions can be released, even old emotions stored in body memory.  Allowing my emotions to surface into awareness and to be able to name my emotions is the beginning of emotional exploration.  I am moving forward, trying to find my position within the family, within the community, and in life.”

Kinesiology, using your body, determines the emotion stored in body memory, the associated event or situation and then via muscle testing determines the right technique (correction) the body needs in order to release the stored information and bring it back into alignment.

Often kinesiology can be an effective way to healing and restoring health and wellbeing.  If you feel kinesiology would be beneficial for you then click here to make an appointment:  http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointment/

[1] “Molecules of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine”, Candace Pert.


Journalling for wisdom and healing

Keeping an account of matters via letters and diaries is a tradition which dates back to at least the 10th century, journalling (whether by letters or diaries) typically has two purposes: a record for posterity or a way to purge and release.

Scientific evidence indicates that when a person writes they access both aspects of their brain.  The physical act of writing accesses our analytical and rational left brain as well as engages our creative, intuitive, feeling right brain.

By engaging both hemispheres we increase our innovation, which means we are able to transform and morph from situations yet too we are able to apply different methodology and solutions.

James Pennebaker, a professor at the University of Texas undertook over forty years of research as to how journalling helped the individual to process significant emotional experiences.  His researched demonstrated that by spending 20 minutes per day journalling participants experienced significant improvements physically and mentally.

They indicated they were happier, more cheerful and hopeful and calmer.  Months after the journalling sessions their blood pressure had lowered, immune function impressed and overall felt healthier.   They also indicated their relationships had improved, their memory was better and were having more successes at work.

Journalling / writing allows us to step out from the problem and see it from another perspective.  Thus creating distance which can bring perspective about a situation.  Other benefits of journalling include:

  • Let go  Writing about our emotions, particularly painful emotions, helps release the potency of those feelings and the situation to which they are attached.  Writing is the act of releasing what has often been bottled up and once in written form the subconscious mind no longer needs to keep playing it over and over.
  • Clarification  When we write we get in touch with our internal world what may play over in our mind now starts to get structure on paper.  As we write we are able to filter through the noise in order to get to the key factors and/or answers.
  • Self Realisation  By regularly setting time aside to write your able to clear the “noise” and clear the path to be happy and confident.  You gain clarity about people and/or situations and therefore able to make decisions which are best for your emotional well-being.
  • Effective Problem Solving Problem solving is typically a left-brained activity where we use our logic and analytical skills, although for those who are right-brain orientated their emotions and imagination can override logic.  Writing engages both hemispheres for a balanced approach to the problem, so the positive aspects from both the right and left hemisphere are applied, thus enabling us to create a sensible resolution to the situation.

There are two types of journalling we adhere to, one is to release what we are holding in, a sacred act which allows you authenticity without judgement, thus allowing for inner alignment.  The other aspect of journalling is to take time for self acknowledgement.

Inner Alignment journalling can be a tool which you record what has happened in your day, along with any feelings or thoughts you wish to express.  It is a private diary which does not need to be shared unless you wish to.

It is a widely used technique for assisting individuals to connect with emotions and feelings as well as uncovering the source of what has created those emotions and feelings, thus empowering the individual to taking better control.

Yet too it is a tool which assists in eliminating the chatter of our minds.  The very act of writing is a releasing process, as the individual is expressing what is going on for them, rather than keeping it locked in, which often impacts on our physical.  By writing we tend to sift and filter our thoughts, rather than let them take control of us.

By journalling we have better chance of accessing our own inner wisdom, to do what we know and feel is right for us, rather than speak with others who govern us by their own beliefs and values.

We also begin to learn about our own inner being, knowing who you are v’s who you want to be and enabling you to close the gap, bringing us closer to be our authentic self.

Self acknowledgement, or success journalling, albeit a simple technique, is not one which comes easily to most of us.  Most people consider it egotistical or a self absorbed act, usually because society teaches us to raise others and make them feel better before ourselves.

Others simply do not consider the importance or benefits of self acknowledgement and therefore fail to make time for it.  Top Leaders and philosophers advocate the may benefits of one appreciating their accomplishments of which include:

  • Creation of a natural & ongoing momentum
  • Increase of self confidence
  • Satisfaction of what has been achieved
  • A gauge as to whether you are on track with your goals
  • Changes your focus to the positive which creates an organic drive

EXERCISE #1- Inner Alignment Journalling

Each morning before you get caught up in the flow of the day spend 20 minutes writing non stop.  Don’t think, just write and let the topic naturally emerge.  It can be about whatever comes to you in that moment and the topics can change, you just need to ensure that it is for a full 5 minutes without stopping.

There is no need to re-read or analyse what you are writing, as it is a dedicated time for you to be boundless with your thoughts,  to be YOU and allow whatever is on your mind to be freed.  It can be a list of things you need to do, it can be about an important meeting you have for the day, whatever comes to mind and to your pen.

EXERCISE #2 – Success Journalling

Either during the day or before you go to bed spend an additional 5-10 minutes listing all the achievements you have had during your day.

Remembering that many things constitute as successes and it is idea for you to record all of them, no matter how big or small.

What constitutes as an action worthy of recording are those actions you don’t usually take for example  if you only drink three glasses of water and drink four that constitutes as a success.  If you manage to start writing a report that you have been putting off, that constitutes as a success.

You may also want to record people, situations or things you are grateful for and the reasons your are grateful for them.

Whilst journalling is similar to keeping a diary, it is a freer form of writing.  Journalling is a way to be reflective and to go deeper within for clarity.  When you make time to journal, you make time for yourself particularly your inner self.  Giving you a forum for your inner wisdom to reveal wise counsel, guidance and direction.

Healing from a destructive relationship

Healing from a destructive relationship

All too often beautiful, sensitive, kind and giving souls attract disrespectful, destructive and damaging relationships.  The kind of relationship that aims to bring them down. To chip away at any positive sense of self they may have.  That  seeks to dim the radiant light of their soul and leave them in need of healing.

Whilst often this refers to a romantic relationship, it can also relate to any type of relationship – a friend, co-worker or even a family member. It has been my experience that people who attract an unhealthy and/or destructive relationship either fall into one of two categories or can be a combination of both:

Empaths are high sensitive souls, attuned to the energies of other people, places or things. Whilst they can become overwhelmed by people, they often are considered a “people person” and tend to attract those who are in need of healing.  They may have boundaries, however the tend to be boundaries which are easily manipulated because they tend to put others first.

Whilst highly attuned and intuitive, they see the best in others.  They can see past a person’s behaviour and who the person is at a soul level and it is this trait which can find them in a destructive relationship.

People who disqualify themselves are those who don’t see or feel themselves worthy, usually telling themselves as such.  They are likely to be insecure and/or lack confidence and don’t value their positive attributes they do possess.  These type of people also usually lack strong boundaries or don’t have any boundaries at all.

Due to their low sense of self they unknowingly have a negative energy marker, thus attracting people who reinforce their disqualification. An energy marker can be likened to a vibrational neon sign that tells people how to treat you.

No matter what the category, the destructive person perceives the beautiful soul as being weaker and therefore easily manipulated.  This perception is to feed their innate need for superiority, power and control and funny enough their own deep insecurity.

Congruent advice for those who find themselves in such a relationship is to find a safe way to extract yourself from it.  Very rarely will destructive people change and unless they are willing to undergo the work to do so and then demonstrate they have changed, your trust and hope is misplaced.

Once you leave such a situation your healing work can begin.  Such healing may involve:

  • Tough Love
    Get yourself a pen, some paper and be prepared to write down the answers to the following questions.  Get real, get honest with yourself.

    • What are the main reasons the relationship ended?
    • What is fact about the situation? and what is fantasy?
    • What is the lesson in this for me?
    • What is the reason I am allowing myself to feel powerless?
    • What values am I nourishing?  Are they the right values?
    • What do I believe that has allowed me to accept this?
    • What do I need to change right now that will move me towards what I really want?
  • Love beings at home
    In order to attract someone who loves, respects and supports you, you need to be these things for yourself first.  Its important to love the duality that exists within, our positive aspects and our not so positive aspects.  Noting that both have benefits and drawbacks, as this is the dualism of life.
    Since we can only attract matter which vibrates at or below our own vibration, when you sincerely love who you are, your energy elevates to attract someone who can sincerely love you too.
  • Boundaries
    Define your boundaries, know absolutely where the line in the sand is as to what you are and are not willing to accept from others.  Know emphatically that if what someone is offering is anything less than what is acceptable, you are allowed to say “no thank you”.Arm yourself by preparing your responses and ways you can decline situations which you are not willing to accept, as this makes declining much easier.
  • Healing the Addiction
    As strange as it may seem some people get addicted to the drama of the situation, perhaps because it gives them attention, love and support from others, all things which they are not giving themselves.At an unconscious level we seek situations to create order and certainty, as certainty gives us validation and makes us feel safe.  So if a person has previously been treated badly they may unknowingly seek out situations which reinforce what they are use to and therefore creates “order” and validates them (even if this is validating the wrong thing).As with any addiction the first step is to acknowledge that this has been happening and then make daily awareness a part of your routine.  Review your actions of the day to determine if you have displayed drama addictive behaviour and what you could do differently in future.  Anne Wilson Schaef said “Awareness if the key.  When I know what I am doing, I have the option to Change”
  • Redefine what love is
    Our external world is reflective of our inner one.  All we have to do is look around us, the type of people or situations we attract, how others treat us to know what is going on deep within.Assess how others treat and interact with you, what does it say to you about how your define love?  Is it healthy?  Is it what you really want love to be?Now define and get very clear on what you want love to be, what does it look, feel and sound like?  The next step is to start doing those things for yourself or visualise others loving you via your new definition.
  • Transform Beliefs
    Beliefs are generalizations we have of ourselves and the world around us and therefore the principles that we chose to live by.  Beliefs are what we consider to be true and therefore create & shape our reality – our map of the world which we consider to be real.
    It is our beliefs that strongly determine what action we do or don’t take (our behaviour) as well as having an affect on how we feel.  Beliefs commence with a single thought which embeds in our subconscious which we then seek references to make it true.  Thus it is imperative to shatter negative beliefs and reinforce or create positive ones.
  • Change your focus
    One of the most common phrases I hear when a person has walked away from a destructive relationship is “What if they find someone else?”.   This question unhealthily directs your focus and reinforces the thought “I’m not good enough”.
    Reality is that they most likely will find someone else however remind yourself that you chose to reject what they were offering and not accept what they were capable of giving you.  So if they find someone else it is because the new person is willing to accept what that person is capable of giving.
    Re-phrasing the situation can help such as thinking “I may have lost someone who didn’t love me, however more importantly they lost someone who loved them”

The healing process isn’t usually an overnight fix, it is a journey of re-discovery and change.  A journey which can be at times arduous, however one which will ultimately be the most rewarding.