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Signs a departed loved one is near

As a psychic medium I was born with the gift of being able to speak with and see loved one who are physically no longer with us. From an early age I was gifted with the presence of spirit, speaking with my uncle who had passed as a baby, knowing he was in the cupboard. It wasn’t until years later my mother told me of his passing and that he had been kept in the cupboard at home until it was time to bury him.

Some psychic mediums are more naturally gifted than others and some will spend years fine tuning their craft, however we all possess the ability to know when spirit is near. We just need to heighten our awareness and trust in what we see or hear. It also helps to know the common ways our loved ones contact us and let their presence be known.

Loved ones will come to visit particularly in times when we are in need or when we have a strong desire to see them again. They come to remind us that we are still loved and supported by them and to comfort us in times of need.

Spirit likes to let us know that they see and hear everything and will find ways to let us know when they are happy or unhappy with our life choices. Most importantly though they look over and care for us, noting in the spirit world they are now able to maneuver and protect us in ways they couldn’t on the physical plane.

Common ways spirit communicates with us:

They affect electrical products
Due to the higher vibration of spirits energy field they tend to interfere with the functioning of electrical products. Items which were working perfectly may start going haywire, switching on and off, jumping or freezing. Light bulbs may start flickering and for no apparent reason blow, even after you’ve just replaced it.

Often during a reading or healing with a client my CD player will start to play up, despite working perfectly prior to their arrival. It will skip tracks, freeze and then start playing again before jumping within a track. Once I acknowledge that a loved one or spirit guide is near it usually starts working perfectly again.

They enter our dreams
A client starting seeing her mother in her dreams, her mother telling her that she was still alive. Distraught at why this was happening I reminder her that she had been asking her mother to show herself to her… and her mother was, via her dream state, letting her know she was still here.

Due to the emotional intensity that can occur when a loved one comes close to our energy field it can be easier for those in spirit and the person they are visiting if they come to during the sleeping hours. Thus entering our dreams to give their messages, stand over and watch us or sit with us to give us their messages and guidance.

They use aromas
Our sense of smell is the first sense to develop and due to how aromas are processed in the brain, create strong associations and memories. Therefore one whiff can tap into a bank of memories. Also most people have a particular smell, whether it be perfume or aftershave, cigarettes, cleaning products, flowers or body odour.

My grandfather and uncle often let me know when they are around by using the smell of cigarettes. Both ex-British Navy men, keen smokers and pranksters they know I dislike the smell, however it is their distinctive way of heightening my awareness and letting me know they are near.

They move objects
Have you ever searched for an object knowing for certain you had put it in a specific spot only to find it is not there. Continued to look all around, usually several times to no avail, only to find the object in a random place or even in the place you were sure you had left it? This is just another way your loved ones are trying to get your attention.

They will also use other objects such as photos or pictures to get your attention, by making them fall over or even fall off a wall. If you have not been listening or acknowledging their presence with subtle means, they may use such tactics to jolt you into awareness.

They use signs, coincidences or synchronicity
Spirit likes to place things, situations or people in our path that were significant to them or are significant to us. They will use their energy to maneuver and make things happen, things which may seem coincidental. Such as a song on the radio or you keep noticing their favourite flowers or you keep seeing the same thing over and over again, such as a butterfly.

Spirit often lets me know they are around and supporting me by place $0.05 pieces in my pathway. I have, on occasion, tested Spirit by asking them to place $0.05 in my pathway which they have indulged me and done as such.

You see flickers of light
When loved ones pass over they transcend their physical form to become a light being, vibrating and moving at the same frequency as light and sound. Thus you may see a glimpse of light, a flicker, something you might easily pass off as your eyes playing games on you, yet it is your loved one moving so quickly you see their vibration rather than their earth form.

These methods of communication by spirit are incredibly common and are often happening without us giving them a second thought. The more you are present and open to the subtle meaning of such incidents as well as trusting in them, you too will be able to communicate with your loved ones.

Boundaries – Ultimate self love and worth

What are boundaries?

Boundaries are the perimeter or threshold which you have, and/or need to have, with regards what you do and don’t accept from others. It is the point at which you feel empowered, joyful, at peace and in alignment with your true self.

As boundaries are fundamentally what is and isn’t ok for us, they will differ for each person. As long as your boundaries do not purposefully hurt another, they can never be right or wrong.

Boundaries determine:

the degree in which we will allow someone into our personal space, physically, emotionally and spiritually;
the nature of treatment and behaviour that we find acceptable and appropriate;
what we allow or disallow;
whether we are giving our power and energy to another; and
how loving we treat ourselves and how loving we can be towards others.

What makes it difficult for people to communicate their boundaries is because they don’t want to offend or upset the other person, preferably upsetting them self. Dr John Demartini, a modern day philosopher, calls this the Law of Lesser Pissers – who would you prefer to piss off, yourself or another?

Most people allow themselves to be pissed off because they are seeking approval. It is senseless how we will readily upset our own being, allow our self to feel taken advantage of, to be offended or even angry, rather than the possibility of maybe offending another. Noting the word possibility.

Too often people think that by not saying no, or telling another that their behaviour is upsetting them, is being loving to that person, however it isn’t. Because it results in resentment. Alternatively setting boundaries is the act of treating yourself with love and respect, as well as treat others with love and respect.

When we set boundaries let the other person know our threshold. When they know what the our boundaries are it means they now know the limits of what they need to meet and thus how much they also need to give and contribute.

Your willingness to communicate and reinforce your boundaries is also equal to the value you put on yourself. When you have a lack of self worth then you will fail to convey what is ok with you (or perhaps not ok). You are unconsciously giving others permission to reinforce your lack of self worth.

It is important to note here that often we treat others through our own boundaries, i.e. of what we consider to be appropriate. Therefore at times some people don’t realising they are overstepping the mark, which reinforces the importance that we communicate what IS appropriate for us, as it helps another to have awareness of our boundaries.

It is my belief that when we speak from a positive heart space we cannot go wrong and if what is said is done with the right intentions then it is a positive learning opportunity for both parties.

Noting in the instance we say something (with the right intention and in the right way), and the other person gets upset then it is more than likely they have an issue which is coming up to give them an opportunity to own and dissipate.

Clarifying your boundaries

If you are not clear about our boundaries, then others cannot be either. You need to know your boundaries and honour them, in turn valuing your self. You also need to know which of your boundaries are not negotiable and which ones you are willing to bend & to what degree.

To clarify your boundaries, ask yourself:

What is ok for me? What is not ok for me?
What have been the situations that left me feeling resentful?
Where have I said “no” and I didn’t, which left me upset with myself.

This observation can be taken externally to others. Know most people are working on their ability to voice their needs, which means many people don’t stipulate their boundaries. The more that you express your own, you give them permission to do so. Also when you seek to know if you have crossed their boundaries, you encourage them to voice them.

To tell when you have crossed another’s boundaries be aware of their subtleties, such as when they withdraw or go quiet. Perhaps they have a rush of emotion, or their face changes colour i.e. reddens.

Implement boundaries is a process

If you have spent a lifetime of not knowing, stating or reinforcing your boundaries then this new habit and way of being is going to be like building a muscle, so start small. For example if you are asked where you want to go for dinner don’t say “I don’t mind, you choose”. Make the choice stipulate where you want to go for dinner.

Remind yourself the reason you are implementing your boundaries. Because it is:

a loving thing to do for yourself and others
the only way to create connections with yourself as well as others
allowing yourself to be known by others in a loving and respectful way.

Know that, as with any process or new habit, you may slip into the old habits and allow your boundaries to be crossed. Use this as a learning opportunity and understand the reasons so that you can make change.

If you are having challenges with allowing yourself to be known then perhaps a kinesiology session would be ideal for you. You can make an appointment with us via: http://www.theinnersageaustralia.com/appointments/

Lessons for an Empath

Spiritual Basics ~ Grounding

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Grounding has both spiritual and physical benefits. Grounding is the process of connecting yourself to the earthly plane and bonding with mother earth. It helps to anchor you to be fully present in the now.

Native American’s believe that mother earth is the source of all life and is a great teacher to be observed, listened to and respected. Her energy is nurturing and restoring, assisting us to bring and give life to our hopes, dreams and ideas.

Science tells us that the Earth is abundant with energy, particularly electrons, which have powerful supply of antioxidant effects. When you connect with the ground, preferably via bare feet, you are able to absorb large amounts of these electrons. Effectively you resonate at the same vibration as the Earth.

Experiments have also proven that undertaking grounding exercises, it can alleviate pain, reduce inflammation, improve sleep, balance hormones and in general enhance well being.

From a spiritual perspective, just as in electrics, grounding acts as a safety switch keeping us safe from being energetically overloaded from the spiritual plane. We are spiritual beings (who are having an earthly experience) and even though most of us are not aware of it we often receive information, guidance and inspiration from above. However if we are not grounded, none of that is able to take form nor channelled into something of structure.

When you are grounded you are able to connect with your heart energy, which emanates your purpose and light into the world. Also when you are heart coherent you tend to have increased mental agility and cognitive functioning. You will find that you are much calmer and have increased emotional stability / consistency. It also increases your energy levels and immunity.

Grounding also empowers your work (whether it is of a spiritual nature or not) as puts the physical and spiritual bodies into alignment. When we ground we too bring unyielding strength to our being, enabling us to take necessary action.

The act of grounding also allows us to bring our spiritual messages or divine guidance into existence so that we can communicate or create what the divine is imparting to us.

Another characteristic of grounding is that you can release (ground into mother earth) unwanted energy or negativity as well as excess energy. Mother earth works in such as way where will take that energy and transform it or utilise it.

How do you ensure your Grounded?

A good indication that you are not grounded is if you have a sensation of being “spaced out” and are uncommonly forgetful or clumsy. Also, if you are finding yourself sensitive to noise and light, it too can be an indication of being un-grounded.

It is advised that your ground yourself daily or at the very least once a week. Trust your intuition as to how often you need this. In essence grounding assists you in being more present in life, therefore if you are having difficulty in being present – ground yourself!

EXERCISES

Be Tree Like

Stand with your feet apart and your arms relaxed by your side. Feel/see the trunk of your body and your legs become the trunk of a huge tree, feel your feet become heavy “sinking” into the ground, noticing that your toes have become tree roots delving deep into the mother earth, connecting you with her.

You become aware that foliage has sprouted from the top of your head and that your arms too have become branches. You now resemble a huge oak tree or blue gum if you prefer, you are now connected with both Father Sky and Mother Earth, balanced between both.

Connect with soil

A very quick and simple way of grounding is putting your hands in earth, whether than be re-potting an indoor plant or getting outside and doing some gardening. Alternatively allow your feet to make contact with mother earth by walking bare foot on the beach or in the garden.

Observe the texture, sensations and feeling at it touches your hands or feet and allow yourself to become child like with it (i.e. not caring about being ‘dirty’;).

Be in or with nature

Another simple way to ground is finding a place in nature which you find special and allow yourself to sit and be. A favourite aspect of this is to sit at the base of a tree with your back to the trunk. Heighten your awareness and look around you, permit yourself to see what is not visible to the ‘naked’ eye.

One of my favourite ways to ground is to find a luscious green patch of grass and stand barefoot. Consciously connecting with it by raising my awareness of how it feels. Then I release into the earth any and all negative energy, thoughts, people that might be with me so I can centre myself.

Rods of Light

Find a place where you can have a few moments by yourself and sit with your feet firmly on the ground. See or feel at your base chakra (in your pelvic region) a ball of deep red spinning slowly, sit with the energy of that ball for a moment.

Now see (or feel) two rods of red light come out from the ball and travel down to your knees, pausing briefly. Next allow the energy to continue its journey moving down your shins to your ankles, down through the bottoms of your feet to connect deep with the core of mother earth.

See two huge boulders to which the cords tie themselves, allow the cords to wrap around the bolder and tie them off. When you are ready bring yourself back to the room knowing that you are now connected strongly with this plane.

Be Heavy

Stand with your feet hip width apart & press your feet firmly onto the ground and bend your knees coming into a semi squatting position. Stay there until you stop swaying & are standing strong.

Connect directly with nature

Go outside and hold onto the leaf of a plant or tree or place your hands against the tree trunk. Alternatively you could sit at the base of the tree. One of my favourites is to stand or walk barefoot on grass, allowing any negative energy to dispel into the earth leaving my own energy rejuvenated and aligned.

Quick Suggestions

dance and/or sing
walk barefoot along the beach or along grass
eat raw chocolate, nuts and/or berries
write
laugh

“Get yourself grounded and you can navigate even the stormiest roads in peace.” ~Steve Goodier

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